Why is thinking negative so much easier then positive?
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Guest
I have recently started practicing mindfulness. It focuses on living in the here and now. I always think "what if" For example, what if I lose control like I did last week. Well that is thinking about the past and the future at the same time. If I try to focus on the here and now (I am typing on the computer in my home office) It brings me into this moment. I have started meditation too. It will take lots of practice to stop my mind from going where it will but I have faith in myself that I will get there.
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sixc.
First off when you are asking yourself these questions who am I? what will I? what if? have you ever tried to answer them?
Seriously answer them? The fear might not be in the question itself but the answer you give yourself.
I dont know you personally but who are you for example well I can tell from you posts a man of strong conviction and belief systems. A man searching for self improvement. These are all good qualities to have. What if? What if you find that dream job? What if you get that light bulb moment?
If its too hard at this point to ask the "right" questions try to answer with more positive answers. Men by nature have this need to be in powerfull and strong and provide and succeed. Its natural. But sometimes you need to sit back and give yourself the inner praise that you are doing a good job. Emotions are hard for men to grasp sometimes and you should work on being more emotionally sensitive to you.
Think of a small child(doesnt have to be yours) your in the park or at the store and a little boy is crying and scared what do you do? You comfort ask in a calm voice whats wrong? You help. Just the tone of your voice is soothing. Do you speak to yourself that way when you are crying inside?
This program is great. You must devote yourself to it. You dont have to sit and go through it in the timeline suggested but I would say to do the lessons 100% nothing less will do. When it says to stop negative talking do that. When it says to eat and excersise do that. When it says to learn to be assertive to people around you do that. When it says to lower you expectations do it. If you only hear the words and dont listen and implement you will not succeed and I can tell you are a winner so win.
Win this one for you! You will feel so much more confident in yourself when you get to that light bulb moment.
Dodger
First off when you are asking yourself these questions who am I? what will I? what if? have you ever tried to answer them?
Seriously answer them? The fear might not be in the question itself but the answer you give yourself.
I dont know you personally but who are you for example well I can tell from you posts a man of strong conviction and belief systems. A man searching for self improvement. These are all good qualities to have. What if? What if you find that dream job? What if you get that light bulb moment?
If its too hard at this point to ask the "right" questions try to answer with more positive answers. Men by nature have this need to be in powerfull and strong and provide and succeed. Its natural. But sometimes you need to sit back and give yourself the inner praise that you are doing a good job. Emotions are hard for men to grasp sometimes and you should work on being more emotionally sensitive to you.
Think of a small child(doesnt have to be yours) your in the park or at the store and a little boy is crying and scared what do you do? You comfort ask in a calm voice whats wrong? You help. Just the tone of your voice is soothing. Do you speak to yourself that way when you are crying inside?
This program is great. You must devote yourself to it. You dont have to sit and go through it in the timeline suggested but I would say to do the lessons 100% nothing less will do. When it says to stop negative talking do that. When it says to eat and excersise do that. When it says to learn to be assertive to people around you do that. When it says to lower you expectations do it. If you only hear the words and dont listen and implement you will not succeed and I can tell you are a winner so win.
Win this one for you! You will feel so much more confident in yourself when you get to that light bulb moment.
Dodger
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Guest
dear hopeful granny my name is sue and I just thought I'd share my story with you. I have been suffering with fear, anxiety and depression for years probaly since my mother had a stroke and was completey paralysed. I withdrew into myself and I wouldn't talk to anyone about it. I ended up quiting school in grade 9. I've been going from one man to another, and never been strong enough to live on my own. I can[t explain, but I'm so afrsid if I go on my own I won't be able to keep a job and cope with every day streesses of life, so I stay in a relationship I don't want to be in. This is why I started the course. I want to over come this so I can move out on my own and meet the man I want to be with.