Disappointment and Sensitivity--Got Info?

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Charlie Brown,
I can understand. I have been there, just salivating to work at my dream company, only to get a reject letter. I can say it stung much because I too hated the job I was in and REALLY wanted out from there. For me I wanted out terribly and to have this awesome firework just fizzle out was a huge sting in the butt. It can bring your confidence down, sure. But there are other opportunities that may be better suited. I found that when I needed to get out of a toxic work environment that after a number of rejections from companies I really wanted to work for I ended up getting a much better job that had me working as the secretary to the president of a company than the job with a major credit card company as a sales persons secretary which I would have had several sales people to support with travel plans, expense reports, shipping materials, etc, etc. I worked for 1 guy (the owner of the dealership)that allowed me to grow the position, to clean up areas that were neglected and was treated pretty well. The benefits were not there (401K, long term disability, health/dental/life) as this was a part time position, but I made just as much part time there than I would have full time at the credit card company, so part time was excellent. I worked from 9am-3pm Monday thru Thursday and Fridays off. Then I started to come in every other Friday from 9am-12pm. He also paid my sick time, vacation and holidays! Plus I had ONE boss! Believe it or not, this was at a multi line car dealership. Very professional outfit. The health/dental my husband receives through his employer so it was not a big deal for me.

Anyhow, you never know where your dream job will turn out to be. I never knew when I started at the car dealer that it was going to be my dream job, but it was. It was THE BEST job I had, the people, the duties, I loved it all. If it was full time, I still would have been working there, driving the 30 miles one way! But we moved and the part time pay was not going to cover wear, tear and gas.

Just keep going! Never give up and never underestimate the potential of working somewhere where you never thought it could be your dream job. You just may never know! Also if you feel more schooling will increase your attractiveness to a company, maybe look into it. Classes never hurt!

Good luck on your interview. Please let us know how it goes, OK?

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~*schnauzermom*~

I can understand. I have been there, just salivating to work at my dream company, only to get a reject letter. I can say it stung much because I too hated the job I was in and REALLY wanted out from there. For me I wanted out terribly and to have this awesome firework just fizzle out was a huge sting in the butt. It can bring your confidence down, sure.

OMG!!! You know <span class="ev_code_RED">EXACTLY</span> how I feel and what it's like!! Thank you!

Two days after I got the rejection email--after most of the disappointment wore off--I emailed the recruiter to see what went wrong. I did have a background for their industry and one of the managers I interviewed with was a former employee of the same company I worked for which is their main competition. I said I wanted to know for this situation and for other job situations--perhaps they saw something I am not actually aware of. In reality it's the reverse: I wanted to know more for their opportunity and not others. I have yet to receive a reply. I am not holding my breath.

Yesterday I made an interesting comparison to wanting this job and my first love. When I was in my 20s I really liked this girl and she liked me but for whatever reason--most likely fear--she wanted it to remain platonic. I will call her Girl A. Six years after we parted and I was in therapy for self-esteem issues I learned while under hypnosis how much I really loved this girl. This was in 1993. Two years later after I got dumped by another girl, I got Girl A's telephone # through a mutual friend and I called A. As far as I knew she was still single and I wanted so bad to reconnect and make it a "real" romantic relationship. I spoke to her real quick and she said she'd call me back. She never did. In 1997 two years later after I dumped a real "winner" girlfriend I called back A and left a phone message. She never got back to me. Two years after that--1999--I met my wife!

I wanted that company so bad: I sent my resume repeatedly, finally got an interviewed, and was turned down. In 1995 after I realized my feelings for her I tried to reconnect with her and she turned me down. Two years after that, the same thing. In the women situation the turn-downs happened and allowed me to meet the woman I would eventually marry and love so much I would take a bullet for. I just now have to wait for the "good" to come out of the company turn-dwon.

Congrats on how the car dealership turned out!!! I am happy for you it worked out that way at least for the time it did.

I may be in another situation similar to yours. I have an interview this Thursday with another company I like. In rating the companies I like, I would put this at #3 or 4. It's similar to you in less pay. But I know the industry and it's basically 9-5--which is what I want, less travel time and much less of the you're-under-my-thumb attitude of my present gig. We shall see.

Since last night I have such an intense desire to write my resignation letter. I am not going to give it until I get another job but for some reason I want to write it now and save it. I get the sense this is more a theraputic need. I probably won't write this until tonight because in case I feel overwhelmed/tired/sad afterwards--which is a distinct possiblity since this is such an emotional issue. If I feel good, then I'll stay late with my wife.

~*schnauzermom*~, thanks for all your replies.