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I too am available to help anyone with issues in this area. Having gone through an affair involving 2 married couples, I know how it effects everyone and everything. I learned some very valuable lessons and most importantly I learned how strong I am. If you are considering an affair, are in an affair, or were the victim of an affair and would like some support and advice, I am here.
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blueskies,
i think that the ones that answered your posts gave you really good advice and we do not want to see you get hurt. all of us have at some time gone down that road. it will lead to more stress and anxiety and in the end it will get worse instead of better.
i had this happen to me by the ex and after over 30 years of marriage i tried to hang in there and since she was doing the same thing i said well let me do it too. and i did it out of spite.
i asked her to forgive me of anything that i had done and she did but in the end she was going to keep doing what she was already doing. fooling around and she wanted me out and in 2001 i did just that.i got divorce and moved on with my life.in the end the stress and panic and anxiety that i had disappeared one day.
you can read more in my profile.
i think is 2 people that take a vow before God to love each other in sickness and health and everything else that goes along that line. then sometimes we need to stop and think what will happen before we do what we are going to do.sometimes we jump from the frying pan into the fire.my hope for you is that you and your husband can sit down and talk about things.
since that time i am now happly married and can sit and talk and worship and pray together and it is such a blessing.take care and good luck. keep in touch and let us know how you are doing.be blessed
don
i think that the ones that answered your posts gave you really good advice and we do not want to see you get hurt. all of us have at some time gone down that road. it will lead to more stress and anxiety and in the end it will get worse instead of better.
i had this happen to me by the ex and after over 30 years of marriage i tried to hang in there and since she was doing the same thing i said well let me do it too. and i did it out of spite.
i asked her to forgive me of anything that i had done and she did but in the end she was going to keep doing what she was already doing. fooling around and she wanted me out and in 2001 i did just that.i got divorce and moved on with my life.in the end the stress and panic and anxiety that i had disappeared one day.
you can read more in my profile.
i think is 2 people that take a vow before God to love each other in sickness and health and everything else that goes along that line. then sometimes we need to stop and think what will happen before we do what we are going to do.sometimes we jump from the frying pan into the fire.my hope for you is that you and your husband can sit down and talk about things.
since that time i am now happly married and can sit and talk and worship and pray together and it is such a blessing.take care and good luck. keep in touch and let us know how you are doing.be blessed
don
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Hi Blue. You don't need to be slapped, because you are already hurting. Somehow, somewhere you have learned that "turn-about is fair play." Well, it really is not fair; it's not fair to you, your husband, or your marriage. Have you given any thought to memories of your wedding lately? Do you & your husband communicate regularly? Is your husband committed, or still "doing similar things"? Take some time to write about this whole situation. Think about why you married your husband & any goals you two have talked about recently or in the past. Do you have children? If not, do/did you plan to? I think you & hubby need a weekend (or more!) away alone together; or even at home together; with the TV OFF! Seriously, also, have you considered the feelings of the older man's wife & his family? Does he have children? The grass really & TRULY is NOT "greener" on the other side & you know what else? If Mr. Older Man would do this behind his wife's back, what does that tell you? Stop beating yourself up, but stop talking to him to & talk to your husband. Not necessarily about this at all; especially if nothing more than you have stated has happened, but do talk to your husband. Make his favorite meal, light a candle & reach for his hand across the table & say "I love you." You may be pleasantly surprised at his response. Try to start over Blue; for the sake of what you both felt as you said your marriage vows, at least try. Best hopes to you!
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Thank you all for your nonjudgmental advice. It does mean a lot to me. I did not know that so many other people have felt what I am feeling. And yes I have thought about the "older man's" family and of course that bothers me. But I think where I dont actually know that person it's like that person does not exist....you know.
However I know it is not right, but sometimes you have to figure things out for yourself just to be sure for your self. I am glad that everyone had such positive advice and was willing to lend a hand.
I do need to talk to my husband and I am sure we can get things back on track. I can see why so many people get caught up in affairs...its just so easily done. thanks again for all the advice.
However I know it is not right, but sometimes you have to figure things out for yourself just to be sure for your self. I am glad that everyone had such positive advice and was willing to lend a hand.
I do need to talk to my husband and I am sure we can get things back on track. I can see why so many people get caught up in affairs...its just so easily done. thanks again for all the advice.