getting out the 1st time

Shifrah · Post by **Shifrah** » Sun Jun 21, 2009 7:54 am

Good for you Nana! I'd say the best time to conquer those fears is when you feel so elated, so keep doing it!

JimmyG · Post by **JimmyG** » Sun Jun 21, 2009 8:15 am

Hello. Hey you hang in there! I know you can do it. I never thought I could do it....But, Yesterday I told myself that it is time to get my life back!! I took a walk in the mall, went to walmart and did my shopping. I had one P/A
while waiting at the check out line(That is a bad place for me?) BUT I hung in there and did not run. I felt so proud of myself all day.
I just started lesson #3.....Life is GOOD!!
God Bless you! YOU CAN and WILL DO IT!

Tofte · Post by **Tofte** » Sun Jun 21, 2009 8:19 am

You are doing great, you are really working hard and not letting set backs trip you up. Keep taking those baby steps, you will make it. I found that there were certain times of the day that were better for me to take on challenges, when I'm tired is not the best time for something new. Even when you don't get as far as you wanted, pat yourself on the back for trying. Every attempt is an accomplishment. You really are doing good, believe that.

energy · Post by **energy** » Sun Jun 21, 2009 9:10 am

YAY Nana!!! Keep at it; you're doing great!!

fixme · Post by **fixme** » Sun Jun 21, 2009 9:37 am

Thats ok, you'll try again. Just the fact that you tried is an accomplishment. When you say "out of the house" what do you mean? Are you trying to go in your back yard? GRocery store? Jusy try to walk out the front door stand or sit there for a few minutes and breathe ...can you try that?

Nanaof4 · Post by **Nanaof4** » Sun Jun 21, 2009 1:58 pm

Hi Fixme, I have a farm and I can go outside but can only go within the site of the house. I have not been out in public for over a year without my hubby and for the last few months I have not been able to go out even when I am with him. This morning I did go for a ride(with hubby), I went about 5 miles. We did not have a destination planned. I just wanted to go. I just came back from a walk. I took hubby, we went for 1 1/2 mile which felt great. I didnt even have anxiety until we turned to come back. Some trigger inside my head went off and I had panic and anxiety the whole way back. Didnt do any breathing, I need to practice and get in the habit. I felt so foolish on the way back from the walk! I couldnt even tell him what happened. I wish someone could wave a magic wand and make this go away. Its a nightmare that I cant wake up from.

Tofte · Post by **Tofte** » Sun Jun 21, 2009 2:37 pm

You are doing GREAT. The key isn't to go out without anxiety or panic, it is to look the anxiety is the face and say, "you can't hurt me, give me your best shot" Actually feeling anxiety right now is a good thing because only then can you learn that it won't hurt you. You are doing amazingly well.

fixme · Post by **fixme** » Sun Jun 21, 2009 11:49 pm

Thats great, a good day. Some progress, you should feel good. IM glad your husband is there for you and trying to help you. RIght now my wife isnt too interested in doing that for me. She says I need to work on myself, heal myself, before she can be with me again. She is living at home still and has provided some words of support as I begin my journey but there is no intimacy, no contact. Right now it is up to me and she is deciding if this is the life she wants. I am not quite in the position you are but I do have issues with anxiety, social phobias and she is "tired" of them right now.

Anyway, dont mean to make this about me, you are doing great and remeber to thank your husband for helping you and supporting you.

Nanaof4 · Post by **Nanaof4** » Mon Jun 22, 2009 3:04 am

Im sorry about your wife. I can relate though because my husband was not always so supportive. He is a recovering alcoholic. Now that he is sober our relatonship has changed and we have gotten closer, but when he was drinking I was on my own. I think that the program is really good in this respect. We need to be our own safe place and deal with this on our own. I am glad you have this support group.
I was so tired when I went to bed last night but it was worth it.

I dont have any plans today but I am thinking of a short walk on my own.

Shifrah · Post by **Shifrah** » Mon Jun 22, 2009 6:56 am

Nana, please read this, I think you'll be able to relate!

http://bbs.stresscenter.com/ev...=323106172#323106172