I think my biggest problem is that I am lonely...I am spending too much time alone! I have a wonderful husband that is totally there for me when I need him..but he works long hours..I have a teenage son who is gone as much as he can with his friends and just always on the go and I am new to this country and I do not yet have any friends. I do not work outside the home and do not know how to meet others. I am too scared to drive most days I am too scared to leave the house most days...my extended family does not under stand my condition, for if they did I think they would make some kind of effort to stay in touch! But I only get phone calls when they need something...I spend the majority of my waking hours alone...I have done this program in 2008 and here I am right back to panic attack after panic attack all day long, for the last week or so! I am thankful for this website but it would be so nice to actually have someone to talk to, who does understand this!
Are there any others out there who can relate?
I could sure use a friend if you are interested in chatting!
Lonely
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Hi Jeannie-
I'm sorry that you feel lonely. I am a SAHM too, and even tho' my kids aren't as old as your son, it does feel lonely. They are at school, husband works alot and then travels on top of it, chores at home on the weekend--- boring.
I have found much enjoyment in joining a gym and working out. I go at pretty much the same time every day, so I see the same people. I have chatted with them and now am friends with some and we look for each other. Plus, I am keeping myself healthy to boot.
Is there something that you are passionate about, that you could volunteer for? I recently delivered a day of Meals On Wheels for our church and got such joy out of that and felt like those people really needed me, or else they wouldn't have lunch that day. How about if you could volunteer in something that would help you deal with the deal of your young relative? Like a disease organization or suicide prevention or volunteer in a school or something. Just something to get the focus on others-- it helps a ton.
I'd be available to chat with you if you need a buddy. PM me and maybe we can hook up.
Terri
I'm sorry that you feel lonely. I am a SAHM too, and even tho' my kids aren't as old as your son, it does feel lonely. They are at school, husband works alot and then travels on top of it, chores at home on the weekend--- boring.
I have found much enjoyment in joining a gym and working out. I go at pretty much the same time every day, so I see the same people. I have chatted with them and now am friends with some and we look for each other. Plus, I am keeping myself healthy to boot.
Is there something that you are passionate about, that you could volunteer for? I recently delivered a day of Meals On Wheels for our church and got such joy out of that and felt like those people really needed me, or else they wouldn't have lunch that day. How about if you could volunteer in something that would help you deal with the deal of your young relative? Like a disease organization or suicide prevention or volunteer in a school or something. Just something to get the focus on others-- it helps a ton.
I'd be available to chat with you if you need a buddy. PM me and maybe we can hook up.
Terri
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Sorry Jeannie--
I think I got your post mixed up with another. Volunteering is awesome-- I thought you had a death of a young nephew-- but maybe not.
It's still a great way to break out of your shell. Organizations are SO thankful for a volunteer that they are not judgemental at all. A warm body with 2 hands to help is all they are looking for and you fit the bill.
Terri
I think I got your post mixed up with another. Volunteering is awesome-- I thought you had a death of a young nephew-- but maybe not.
It's still a great way to break out of your shell. Organizations are SO thankful for a volunteer that they are not judgemental at all. A warm body with 2 hands to help is all they are looking for and you fit the bill.
Terri
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I'm lonely, too. I live alone (with my dog, Beaufort) and don't have many friends. Since I'm an introvert, I have never been very social. I'm uncomfortable around other people, i.e. afraid I'll say the wrong thing, what if they don't like me?, so I tend to stay at home. I work Monday-Friday and am wiped out most days from the interaction with people. Work is probably a life-saver for me since it forces me to interact. I think we all need relationships. I'm hopeful that, as I progress with this program, I'll be able to be more comfortable with people and develop friendships. Anyway, I understand loneliness. I saw your post and wanted to respond. I know how awful and frightening loneliness can feel.
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To All,
I am sooo sorry that you guys are feeling sooo lonely...I guess each and every one of us have experienced that feeling...
It is very common to feel alone when you feel you don't have any friends to communicate or share things with...
I suggest at every opportunity, you reach out to others...This will help you tremendously!!!
You can connect with others right here on this forum!!!!
Loneliness is just a feeling, although a very unpleasant one...You need to remember just because you feel alone, does not mean you are alone!!!
Let down those barriers...Connect with your spouse...Pick up a conversation with a stranger...Get out there and associate with others!!!
I pray this helps...God Bless...
I am sooo sorry that you guys are feeling sooo lonely...I guess each and every one of us have experienced that feeling...
It is very common to feel alone when you feel you don't have any friends to communicate or share things with...
I suggest at every opportunity, you reach out to others...This will help you tremendously!!!
You can connect with others right here on this forum!!!!
Loneliness is just a feeling, although a very unpleasant one...You need to remember just because you feel alone, does not mean you are alone!!!
Let down those barriers...Connect with your spouse...Pick up a conversation with a stranger...Get out there and associate with others!!!
I pray this helps...God Bless...