Anger

ashyp · Post by **ashyp** » Sat Apr 25, 2009 10:01 am

So I finished session 6 on anger but I felt rather then help me control my anger i felt it made me more anger or made my anger come out! I did not handle the situations I was in very well I over reacted all week and did raise my voice a few times! I don't think that session got throw my head. Any advice? Shoould I do it over or is this normal?

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Apr 26, 2009 6:30 pm

Ash...I do think you need to practice the art of "under- reacting" for a few days. Just try to under-react to everything and everyone.

Anger hides fear. Try and pin-point the fears, and work on eliminating those fears.

Also, I think you need to work on forgiveness. Maybe, someone has wronged you in the past, and you have never let go of the pain you felt, and forgave that person. Try letting go of all that hurt and anguish.

Remember, you are the one suffering. The other person is going about his/her life. You need to forgive for your own piece of mind!!!!

I pray this helped in some way...God Bless

lateralus_jenn · Post by **lateralus_jenn** » Sat May 02, 2009 9:17 am

Your right maybe the fear I have is that I got back with a guy that really hurt me because I decided to give him another chance and he has changed alot for the good I just am constantly starting fights over the littlest things and it is causing me more stress I thought I forgave him but I guess I really didn't!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sat May 02, 2009 12:27 pm

I know exactly what you mean. I feel angry a lot. I feel like I cannot break my routine, my relationship, my life basically. I feel like that because I FEAR that if I do change my life I will regret it. I am also fearful that I am stuck in this same thing day after day for life. I snap at at people especially my boyfriend which I hate. I try really hard to "pick my battles" and let the little things slide. Sometimes I need to take time to myself to calm down. Its more irratibility than anything, but I know its hard trust me. I feel guilty about snapping at people and its not a good feeling

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon May 04, 2009 3:45 pm

Ash...Just try to take one day at a time, and try not to "obsess" over the future...

If you plan on taking another chance on this guy, then, you need to let go of the past. Practice forgiveness.

Living in the past causes depression. Living in the future causes anxiety.

Do not get sooo busy living in the past and the future that you forget to live in the present...

Let go and let God...God Bless

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon May 04, 2009 4:36 pm

Ms. T Bones
Thank you so much for your advice I really appreciate it and you are right I think I do obsess alot about the future and I don't know how not to let my mind go there. For example today I had alot of depressiong pointless feelings and thoughts and i just fear that tomorrow is going to be worse that I am going to feel this way or how come I don't feel and think how I was a week ago because a week ago I felt all the depressing thoughts were gone they didn't bother me and this week they have been pouring in my head non stop! any advice would help?