writeitout,
When you start over again with the program, just concentrate on yourself and don't worry about getting your hubby involved. In time, when he's ready, he'll listen to the "I'll be there for you" tape. Hugs and prayers for you on that one.
Don't force the issue.
About midway through the program, I simply put it on the stereo when he was within earshot. I wanted to listen to it anyway, stated that and left it at that.
Throughout the program, I'd casually state how much I was learning and that it was the best thing I'd ever done for myself, and our family. I also had to ask of my hubby that he allow me to be the initiator of any conversation about the program. It's a very personal journey, and I gently had to remind him of that at times.
That was very important to me and for the most part, he respected that.
I have to partially agree with Dina. Our anxiety and depression can be a major contributor to stress in marriage. Not so sure I'd have had an easy time dealing with me during the worst years of my panic, anxiety and bouts of depression. Granted, other factors may have to be taken into consideration. My hubby had issues of his own, but
I was making me miserable.
Then again, there are men and/or women in relationships who seek out vulnerability in others, just to exploit that. I really don't think it's always a conscious play, but it happens. Turn that around and you have the person who migrates to that type of person.It's not uncommon for people with a great deal of anxiety and/or depression to make poor choices in partners. I did, in the past. Sort of a pattern - thinking he/she deserves to NOT be treated lovingly with respect and compassion.
Then, we have our own wonderful,

, anxiety and depression attitudes going on. -our own unrealistic expectations, obsessive negative thinking, mix in some low self-esteem, limited self-love, constant negative self talk, and some anger here and there. UGH. Not a good recipe for a smooth sailing relationship.
Just trying to see it from a few different angles - food for thought.
God bless and hugs.