The title is lyrics from the Sheryl Crow song Soak Up The Sun, and it seems to sum my life up to a T, and I think it has ultimately led to my anxiety and depression. I lead a pretty simple life, I live in a rural community, I have 2 kids and a wife, I work as a carpenter, Life should be pretty good and I should be very grateful, but I can't help it I am not.
Getting out of bed in the morning is a struggle, When at work I day dream all day about doing something else, I really do hate my work, but stuck out here everyone is tradesmen or farmers, My real passion is in computers, I also hate where I live, nothing ever happens. I have also questioned my relationship with my wife, I find myself day dreaming constantly about other women, so much so I am actually worried I may be a sex addict:( And as for my children, while I love them they can be very trying at times.
Please offer some advice, I really should be a happy chappy, but I am not, How do you appreciate what you've got in life?
It's not having what you want, It's wanting what you've got.
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dj, sounds like your a father, husband, employer, etc. etc. etc. Living life on LIFE'S terms! We all get to a point that we question "what's all this for???" As a woman, I get overwhelmed, bored, the NEED for change, etc. It's NORMAL!(I get bored with the "same ole same ole. hum drum..day after day routine) I personally think this is the case for you, as well. I guess this is when we truly realize that men and women are similar in our need to feel loved, appreciated and wanted and perhaps the need for a little spontaneity. What a concept 
It sounds to me like your depressed. I don't think your a "sex addict". When we're depressed, of course we latch on to things that make us feel good, sexy and WANTED. But one must be careful of that!!! your marriage must be kept sacred,therefore when "thoughts" become desire, you should see a counsellor. No one here knows what your day to day life is really like, so we cannot really get the full idea of what your going through,(perhaps there is deeper issues) but This program shows us how to change our "self talk" and it shows us how to look differently at life(reality -vs- attitude). It also shows us how to "assert" ourselves as we usually tend to do for others and we forget about our own needs. How far are you in the program? Do you journal?
I don't really have any solid advice to offer DJ, I just wanted you to know that you ARE NOT alone in this. I believe that this is a common "issue" we can kind of relate to here. Just getting this all out in the open, as you've done today, it's theraputic. Good for you! Just talking to someone can relieve alot of the pain. We're here for you!
God bless you,take care
Robin
It sounds to me like your depressed. I don't think your a "sex addict". When we're depressed, of course we latch on to things that make us feel good, sexy and WANTED. But one must be careful of that!!! your marriage must be kept sacred,therefore when "thoughts" become desire, you should see a counsellor. No one here knows what your day to day life is really like, so we cannot really get the full idea of what your going through,(perhaps there is deeper issues) but This program shows us how to change our "self talk" and it shows us how to look differently at life(reality -vs- attitude). It also shows us how to "assert" ourselves as we usually tend to do for others and we forget about our own needs. How far are you in the program? Do you journal?
I don't really have any solid advice to offer DJ, I just wanted you to know that you ARE NOT alone in this. I believe that this is a common "issue" we can kind of relate to here. Just getting this all out in the open, as you've done today, it's theraputic. Good for you! Just talking to someone can relieve alot of the pain. We're here for you!
God bless you,take care
Robin
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Thank u for that Robin, you always give good advice. I have only started the program again this week, so in session 1, I am going to follow it exactly this time. I think I may be depressed but have been this way so long I don't really know any different, I am used to it so to speak, the only think I am grateful for every day is the anxiety had gone.Originally posted by Mom of 6:
dj, sounds like your a father, husband, employer, etc. etc. etc. Living life on LIFE'S terms! We all get to a point that we question "what's all this for???" As a woman, I get overwhelmed, bored, the NEED for change, etc. It's NORMAL!(I get bored with the "same ole same ole. hum drum..day after day routine) I personally think this is the case for you, as well. I guess this is when we truly realize that men and women are similar in our need to feel loved, appreciated and wanted and perhaps the need for a little spontaneity. What a concept
It sounds to me like your depressed. I don't think your a "sex addict". When we're depressed, of course we latch on to things that make us feel good, sexy and WANTED. But one must be careful of that!!! your marriage must be kept sacred,therefore when "thoughts" become desire, you should see a counsellor. No one here knows what your day to day life is really like, so we cannot really get the full idea of what your going through,(perhaps there is deeper issues) but This program shows us how to change our "self talk" and it shows us how to look differently at life(reality -vs- attitude). It also shows us how to "assert" ourselves as we usually tend to do for others and we forget about our own needs. How far are you in the program? Do you journal?
I don't really have any solid advice to offer DJ, I just wanted you to know that you ARE NOT alone in this. I believe that this is a common "issue" we can kind of relate to here. Just getting this all out in the open, as you've done today, it's theraputic. Good for you! Just talking to someone can relieve alot of the pain. We're here for you!
God bless you,take care
Robin
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Guest
dj, I know how you feel. Im a 25 year old who lives at home with my wonderful family rent free. i work in retail which I hate. I just finished school to be a medical biller and cant find a job yet so I feel stuck. I have a great boyfriend who loves me so much and yet im still unhappy.I should be the most greatful person in the world my life is so simple and i have people who care and help me and yet I feel bored depressed and cant get motivated to do things that will make me happy.I dwell on my job, but with this economy I should be greatful to have one considering my dad got laid off after being with a company for 30 years. I am just very negative and worry too much. The only advice I can give is to try and think about the grea things in your life and if you don thave one already find a hobby. For example when I was younger I loved gymnastics, it gave me that high I needed. Now I dont have a hobby and if i had one it would make more meaningful to me. I just want to figure out what I would absolutely love to do. Good luck and stay stong and positive