Need some advice please.
I was wondering if anyone had any advice for me. See, my dilema is that i have a very hard time having to talk one on one with someone, be it a doctor, teacher or anyone I'm feeling judged by. Anyway I have a parent/teacher conference coming up on feb, 25th for my 4 year old daughter and I'm already freaking out. This is the second one of the school year and I remember fighting off the panic at the first one so bad and really just want to get out of this somehow but I know I can't. I think I would die of embarrasment if I had a panic attack right there sitting with her two teachers. Please, if anyone has any advice, I would greatly appreciate it. I don't want to embarras(sp?) my daughter or myself. Help!!!!!!
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I have fought anxieties and panic attacks most of my life. I remember how hard it was to attend anything at my kids school events when they were still little. My kids are all adults now. One thing I would recommend (if you haven't already) is call ahead of time and talk to your daughters teacher. Explain to her about your fears and anxiety. Maybe she could set a time where there wouldn't be so many people around that would make it more comfortable for you to talk to her. While there keep telling yourself that you are bigger than the anxiety. I am still working on that myself as I am very seldom able to step outside of my house because of the Agoraphobia. I hope everything works out for you. You will be okay, just keep telling yourself "I can do this and I will feel so much better afterwards because I did it!" Make sure to pat yourself on the back and praise yourself. You can do it we will be there with you in spirit. 
God bless,
Susan
God bless,
Susan
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Hi Susanthechatterbox,
Thanks so much for the reply. I really do wish I could take your advice and call her teacher and tell her that i have anxiety but that is another problem for me. I only tell people that i have anxiety on a need to know bases because I feel that they will judge me and think i am loosint it and not capable of taking care of my daughter. I know in my head that this is not true and I am just paranoid but unfortunately there is no way that i could bring myself to call them and be honest, because when i see them again every morning when i drop her off at school i will feel ashamed (even though i know i shouldnt). I will definately take your advice and tell myself that i am bigger than the anxiety and self talk myself thrue the meeting but i worry that i won't be able to control it. Right about now i wish i still had some xanax just to get me thrue this meeting. Good luck with the agoraphobia my friend, I wish you peace of mind and courage. Something we all desperately need.
Take Care,
Cathy
Thanks so much for the reply. I really do wish I could take your advice and call her teacher and tell her that i have anxiety but that is another problem for me. I only tell people that i have anxiety on a need to know bases because I feel that they will judge me and think i am loosint it and not capable of taking care of my daughter. I know in my head that this is not true and I am just paranoid but unfortunately there is no way that i could bring myself to call them and be honest, because when i see them again every morning when i drop her off at school i will feel ashamed (even though i know i shouldnt). I will definately take your advice and tell myself that i am bigger than the anxiety and self talk myself thrue the meeting but i worry that i won't be able to control it. Right about now i wish i still had some xanax just to get me thrue this meeting. Good luck with the agoraphobia my friend, I wish you peace of mind and courage. Something we all desperately need.
Take Care,
Cathy