Fear that I will! stop breathing!
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lilchrissy
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Re: What helped me make a 180 degree change in my life.
Is the new forum confusing to anyone else? Maybe i should not have had wine with dinner, but a lot of posts seem messed up? I'll try back later to make sure it's not me or the wine lol.
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creamcheesepuff
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Re: What helped me make a 180 degree change in my life.
I too at middle age made a drastic life direction change myself. A journey, a transition, a move out of state which was intense, I felt like I was floating in a dream....not good or bad, just a light feeling of disconnection from my old life in my hometown of 54 years. I was blocking it all out, I was putting up a wall.
I still am adjusting to this bigger than life event. After witnessing the death of my parents and close Aunt and departing in my car not looking back at the old house I grew up in, I evaporated within my own feelings, remembering what kind of day it was, the bridge I crossed, my feelings as I drove with my pitifully meowing felines in my car, it was their first trip...over 4 hours away. By myself, I left the Home I always felt comfortable in, never felt alone in and always was a hugh part of me. I felt I witnessed my parents deaths all over again. Because I lived in that house for over 40 years. I left my parents, the house that held all my memories, my thoughts, my good and bad times.
Did I improve since I moved you say???
Did I?? I abolutely do feel different, I feel lost, I feel more alone, I dont know yet if I am finding out things about myself I never knew, but I will sure let you know. I am scared, although I felt that way many times in my hometown because of the changes happening there. I know now deep in my heart YOU NEED PEOPLE in your life, Your loved ones, friends and your pets around you. No man or woman in my case is an island as I am learning every day here.
I still am adjusting to this bigger than life event. After witnessing the death of my parents and close Aunt and departing in my car not looking back at the old house I grew up in, I evaporated within my own feelings, remembering what kind of day it was, the bridge I crossed, my feelings as I drove with my pitifully meowing felines in my car, it was their first trip...over 4 hours away. By myself, I left the Home I always felt comfortable in, never felt alone in and always was a hugh part of me. I felt I witnessed my parents deaths all over again. Because I lived in that house for over 40 years. I left my parents, the house that held all my memories, my thoughts, my good and bad times.
Did I improve since I moved you say???
Did I?? I abolutely do feel different, I feel lost, I feel more alone, I dont know yet if I am finding out things about myself I never knew, but I will sure let you know. I am scared, although I felt that way many times in my hometown because of the changes happening there. I know now deep in my heart YOU NEED PEOPLE in your life, Your loved ones, friends and your pets around you. No man or woman in my case is an island as I am learning every day here.
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lilchrissy
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Re: What helped me make a 180 degree change in my life.
I certainly agree with what you said above and hope things work out for youcreamcheesepuff wrote: I know now deep in my heart YOU NEED PEOPLE in your life, Your loved ones, friends and your pets around you. No man or woman in my case is an island as I am learning every day here.
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Great post and I completely agree. The TEA forms have turned my life around too. I still do them almost daily for a few minutes and they are the best investment I have ever made and I owe a large part to Chrissy encouragement here.Lynn L wrote:Hi everyone and a belated happy new year to you all. I hope this finds everyone coping well and enjoying life. I'm doing well but just really busy and don't know where all the time goes anymore.
Welcome to all the newcomers
Ed the TEA forms are a thought countering exercise found in the CBT book called Been There, Done That? Do THIS! by Sam Obitz. They work exceptionally well if you use them daily and the book can be purchased on line at www.tao3.com
Amber to elaborate further on the TEA forms they teach you how to counter your thoughts with objective rather than just positive thoughts and it may not sound like a big difference but it has made all the difference for me.
Take care everyone and I will try to come back and answer questions more often
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lilchrissy
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Thx WW but you don't need to keep giving me credit because you did all the work!!! I may have encouraged you a little but that's the easy part... Confronting your fears and countering your thoughts in the TEA forms is what helped you not meWW wrote:Great post and I completely agree. The TEA forms have turned my life around too. I still do them almost daily for a few minutes and they are the best investment I have ever made and I owe a large part to Chrissy encouragement here.Lynn L wrote:Hi everyone and a belated happy new year to you all. I hope this finds everyone coping well and enjoying life. I'm doing well but just really busy and don't know where all the time goes anymore.
Welcome to all the newcomers
Ed the TEA forms are a thought countering exercise found in the CBT book called Been There, Done That? Do THIS! by Sam Obitz. They work exceptionally well if you use them daily and the book can be purchased on line at www.tao3.com
Amber to elaborate further on the TEA forms they teach you how to counter your thoughts with objective rather than just positive thoughts and it may not sound like a big difference but it has made all the difference for me.
Take care everyone and I will try to come back and answer questions more often
