Help for Self-Esteem

GirlWisdom · Post by **GirlWisdom** » Wed Oct 15, 2008 4:50 am

I thought this would be good for everyone to read, since it's covered in this course. Take care!

The 6 Habits of High Self-Esteem

The first step is you have to let go of old habits and adopt new ones. There are 6 crucial habits that you have to master. When you do these 6 things no longer will you think about having high self-esteem, it just becomes part of who you are. And, when this happens, you'll naturally feel empowered, your choices will be right more often and your actions will take you toward greater and greater accomplishments.

Habit #1 - Self Awareness
When we know ourselves, inside and out, we're free to value strengths, acknowledge weaknesses and know the truth about what our purpose in life is.

Become aware of whom you are, how you think and why you act in certain ways.

Habit #2 - Self Acceptance
Accepting ourselves is the ability to affirm our attributes as well as our weaknesses. Once we do, it's easy to let others know what we're thinking and feeling. It's freedom! We are no longer worried whether others will dislike or reject us. Self acceptance is absolutely critical to our self-esteem.

Identify exactly what it is that you're having trouble accepting and why. Next, we'll work on pure and simple acceptance. Once you've completed this , you'll be proud of whom you are, Swiss cheese holes and all!

Habit #3 - Taming the Internal Critic
We all have an internal voice that chats away at us throughout the day. This voice reflects how we really feel about ourselves, deep down. It constantly reminds us of our failures and ignores our strengths. It's relentless and extremely damaging to our self-esteem.

Your critical voice has been years in the making, it is an integral part of whom you are. You can break this destructive pattern once and for all in just three steps! In a matter of days, you'll become a supporter, not a destroyer of yourself.

Habit #4 - Empowerment by Choice
Taking responsibility for choices, actions, and direction is so powerfully important, because it puts us in control of ourselves, rather than feeling controlled by emotions and circumstances.

Accepting responsibility for your choices is NOT easy.

Habit #5 - Spectacular Assertiveness
Every woman has the right to decide how to lead her life. This includes which goals she sets, the values she lives by and right to tell others how she wishes to be treated.

Learn how to break the habit of silence and speak out for your needs and wants in healthy ways. When you begin to set the standards of how you want to be treated your self-esteem soars.

Habit #6 - Victorious Values
Values are your own ideals and principles that guide you in everyday life. They impact your relationships, your behaviors, your choices, your sense of whom you are and ultimately your self-esteem.

Women with high self-esteem are very clear about what they believe in and why. They are intimately familiar with their values and committed to living a life in harmony then. You'll be one of these women.

Learn these 6 habits so they become second nature. They will be as automatic as breathing.Below is an excellent site.

MeditationsForWomen.com

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Oct 15, 2008 5:29 am

Wow,that's great !!!!

What do men do ???????????

Iwillbeatthis · Post by **Iwillbeatthis** » Wed Oct 15, 2008 6:19 am

Hi GW, funny I was going to write a post because Im having a bad day today. Some of the old feelings are here today like flushed face, whats going to happent to me talk and rapid heart beat etc......bla bla bla. But I clicked on your post first and It was truly inspiring to me. Im going to print it and read it several times today. Thank you so much. Nicki

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sat Dec 20, 2008 4:08 pm

I know the meditations were posted back in October, though this is a little after the fact. As men I think the advice is gender neutral for us SitnSpin. I will change the "shes" to "hes" and try them daily like Nicholene. Thanks GirlWisdom, this sounds like a good practice.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Dec 21, 2008 1:09 pm

Hi A Happier Me! You are exactly right that the advice I gave previously is gender neutral and applies to everyone! I did not even realize until later that it may have come across as sexist. That is not my intention. It just happened to be that it came from a women's site; However, I know the advice will work for all of us. Take care "Happier Me".