Sex/Porn?

[pearpickinporky]

This has got to the point where I am worried about it now, I have had anxiety about 7 years and I've been into porn about the same lenght of time so I wonder is there a link? I am married but to be honest I'd rather have a session on a porn site than sex with my wife. I look at porn daily when my wife goes to bed or pops out somewhere, there I am doing the deed on a porn site,or worse with a cam on Msn messenger Its at the stage now where sex is almost all I think about.

I may be wrong but it is possibly a distraction from my anxiety problems?

Anyone else have these issues?

[Guest]

\im sure this is a disstraction from your anxiety problems but i think your making them worse. because the porn is an outlet is the only time your body feels good. i think your traving down a terriable road for your marrige though ive dated guys adictited to porn and there is nothing worse for your self esteem than a guy that would rather have sex with a computer than with the person he supposely loves. my advise start having sex with your wife it will help myour anxiety once you get the hang of it again and it will make you both happier. but don't just please yourself really concentrate on pleasing her what a better self asteem booster than to be a stud.

[DebbieW]

You should really stop going to these sites.

I started a few years back and after a week I realized where it was going.

Basically I deleted everything on my PC and all my links to those sites. Then I moved my PC to a room where I could never think of surfing those sites just to remove the temptation. If you're like me this can definately work on your guilt response which will completely de-rail any progress you wish to make with your anxiety.

This stuff is an addiction and you have to cut it off because it can destroy your life.

Just my 2 cents.

[Guest]

I definitely think it's a distraction to take your mind off of anxiety. I did the same thing, but not exactly on porn sites, but I did go into chat rooms, get on cam and "flirt". It was an escape for me from my anxiety. I haven't gone to a chat room in in over a year. You should do as the previous poster said, put the comp in a room where you are not able to surf those sites. Be with your wife, she needs you and you need her. Good luck!

[monty'smom]

pearpickinporky, I think you need some annonymous help for that by a psychiatrist because you are deffinitely addicted. I don't think we can help you with that. I don't think it's your distraction. I think it started off as fun for you but now it's gotten out of control and now it worries you. Talk to your doctor, maybe he can suggest a help group or a therapist.

[hopehound]

I think you are using it to feel good. Are there other times and things that make you feel good? i know exactly what your going through, my escape from the daily pain of a&d is weed and alcohol. I know its not a healthy way to deal with problems but after nearly 9 years its hard to change. I am only really happy when im high but i've used that too deal with my A&D too long and it hasn't worked and thats why im trying this prgram. I am an addict but i really do it cuz it takes my mind off depression and has been the only things to slow down my fast beating heart and anxiety.