my husband is my safe person and..

spun2tite · Post by **spun2tite** » Sun Sep 14, 2008 12:29 pm

my husband is my safe person and we do not see eye to eye anymore. We have been together for 20 years and 10 of those years we have been on a rollorcoaster. I think he likes the fact that I can not go anywhere with out him. I get so mad at myself because I am like this. Any way he blames me for him being so miserable. I am not a depressed person on the outside I tend to hold all emotions inside. I never was a cryer. My anxiety is holding me back from doing alot of things expecially on my own. I am petrufied to drive I have read alot of your posts and I'm excited for my new and improved life BUT what if I can't do this without him. I do believe that he causes me alot of anxiety being he is such a miserable, negative person. I think he brings the worst out in me and I do believe we are better off apart. I ordered the CD's they should be here next week. Any suggestions

spedteacher · Post by **spedteacher** » Sun Sep 14, 2008 1:24 pm

There will be a cd in the package for him to listen to...get him to hear it and maybe it will hep him understand what you are going through, a little more.
No matter what happens in your marriage...you have the ability to do this...I have had every imaginable anxiety symptom and am scared of everything from driving to working to going for a walk..I had panic attacks every day (sometimes more than once per day) when I started this program, this summer.
My husband used to tell me to just stop with it, Already!!!!!!!! But this program informed him a little more about what I am going through and now he knows ways he can help me and knows some of the things he was doing that was Not helping me at all, making me worse, in some instances....
So...all in all...do Not get anxious about the program coming and DO get excited about it. Give the program your 100% and you and your husband will see changes in you. At the end of my 3rd week on the program, my husband said 'Wow, if this is you at 3 weeks, I cannot wait for the 15th week!' I am now about to start week 9...and going strong! I have come such a long way and I am excited about life again, I am driving and walking and getting out more...and it is all about to start for you!
Get excited...a wonderful new way of life is about to come your way!
Do keep me posted and I am here if ever you need a friend!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Sep 14, 2008 1:34 pm

you can do it without him. My boyfriend isthe same way, he loved it that I had to rely on him for support. He loved to complain about my not being able to do things without him. But now that I'm doing great he complains that I'm too independent. He's now afraid that I'll find someone better than him. I went through the whole program twice without his help and now I'm fine. You can do it too. The program will show you how. There's a lot of people in your situation on this site.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Sep 15, 2008 1:15 pm

Well things are better now. I told him if he wants to leave, then leave. Instead of him going he decided to help me with the program and get well again. Man, if he walked out that door I probably would have collapsed. I had him read a few posts and I think he is starting to understand what I/we go through every day.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Sep 15, 2008 1:42 pm

that's great! He knows how valuable and precious you are. Good for you for standing up for yourself. You should really be proud of yourself.