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Anna Burrell · Post by **Anna Burrell** » Tue Jun 10, 2008 10:33 am

I am 24 years old. I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years and we moved in together 3 month after we started dating. He is great. Hes good to me and helps me with my anxiety, but sometimes I cant help but think if I should be single. I dread getting married and then getting divorced. I know I am supposed to be with him and he makes me really happy, but I can't help thinking what I am missing out on.

On the one hand I want to get married soon. Have family later down the road. On the other hand I want to be single and date and just have fun. Its this constant battle going on between me. Somedays I am afraid that I don't love him anymore or that being with him is hurting him. Its really hard. Does anyone else feel this way?? or have any suggestions?

Shelly9 · Post by **Shelly9** » Tue Jun 10, 2008 10:50 am

Oh my gosh this is so funny. I feel exactly the same way. Im 22 and i have been with my fiance for 6 years too and he moved in with me 3 or 4 months after we met. But the difference is we already have a family together, a 5 year old and 2 year old. I sometimes feel like i cant wait and want to marry him but then im hella scared of divorce and all.
i have been struggling with my anxiety and panic attacks and depression for the past year. and my fiance is very suportive with me, he hates the fact that im home bounded right now but he somewhat understands.
But n e way... yah sometimes i get those feelings too like i question do i love him and want to be with him... for quite a while i was feeling uncomfortable around him cuz i feared that i didnt love him, but then a month ago we got in a big fight over something small and i kicked him out of my house and gave him my engagement ring back, and right then and there i realized i really dont want to be away from him and how much im in love with him...

So hey u are not alone in this.... im pretty sure its just the anxiety...

I hope this helped...

Anna Burrell · Post by **Anna Burrell** » Tue Jun 10, 2008 4:08 pm

Thank you for respoding. It does help that someone else feels this way. I try to just take it day by day and realize that I have a good relationship. We have been through a lot together. I don't know if that would be worth giving up. It just tears me up because i honestly dont know what to do.

poet BTG · Post by **poet BTG** » Tue Jun 10, 2008 4:38 pm

My husband & I have been married almost 42 years -- it hasn't all been wonderful or even good but I'm glad we're still together. I think that if there can be one thing more than others that has helped, it has been a statement I heard early in our marriage "love is a decision, not a feeling" Knowing that I don't have to feel loving (like at this very moment) all the time for our relationship to be okay has made a huge difference.