anxiety with sex

anxietyprone · Post by **anxietyprone** » Mon Jun 09, 2008 8:38 am

I have been on this board a lot and i found it odd that I can not see one post of people talking about anxiety before or during or in general about sex.... am I the only one?

medgrl · Post by **medgrl** » Mon Jun 09, 2008 8:52 am

No you are not. It's been a while for me but when my husband was alive I used to always panic thinking about sex. I was afraid I would have a heart attack during and the paramedics would know what we were doing (lol) I feel really bad now about it, I'm sure my husband did not think I was the life of the party!!

klkroy · Post by **klkroy** » Mon Jun 09, 2008 9:29 am

Funny, you should ask because my husband has actually been enjoying the fact that sex actually relieves my anxiety. He always told me it would cure about anything. Maybe he's right. LOL In all seriousness sex has actually had the opposite effect on me and has helped me tremendously to become more relaxed. And in turn I'm more relaxed so I enjoy it more.

stephyannette · Post by **stephyannette** » Mon Jun 09, 2008 12:36 pm

You aren't the only one. I have lots of issues with self esteem that affects that part of my life. Basically, I don't have a sex life

Gamer4Life · Post by **Gamer4Life** » Mon Jun 09, 2008 12:53 pm

From a guy's point of view now...I have also been anxious about dying during sex...but after going through the program, I now think, "What a way to go"!! It works, just try to see the humor in our fears...

Schpludoinkle · Post by **Schpludoinkle** » Mon Jun 09, 2008 1:17 pm

You definately aren't alone. I have had issues with intamacy and sex too. I have gotten anxious during it though, not really before it. And then it is ruined because my mind is then on my anxiety.

LOL @ gamer4life. It would be a good way to go I guess =P

"Live in your world get pwned in mine"

Anna Burrell · Post by **Anna Burrell** » Mon Jun 09, 2008 2:10 pm

I have a lot of anxiety with sex, not because I am afraid of dying during sex, but because I have no sex drive AT ALL. My boyfriend always asks and I say I don't feel like it. Most of the time I do it to make him happy but it is weird and uncomfortable to me. I miss the passion. It makes me anxious because I have tried everything and nothing helps

cuttingirl · Post by **cuttingirl** » Mon Jun 09, 2008 3:07 pm

Originally posted by Anna Burrell:
I have a lot of anxiety with sex, not because I am afraid of dying during sex, but because I have no sex drive AT ALL. My boyfriend always asks and I say I don't feel like it. Most of the time I do it to make him happy but it is weird and uncomfortable to me. I miss the passion. It makes me anxious because I have tried everything and nothing helps

Me too! Sometimes the drive is just not there. It varies with my cycle. The fact that our relationship is not going well takes the enjoyment out of intimate activities. It just feels like I am just doing my fiancee a favor. I like my body overall so at least for me it's not a self esteem issue.

Anna Burrell · Post by **Anna Burrell** » Mon Jun 09, 2008 3:34 pm

Yes totally! I feel good about my body other than this. Its not that I dont feel comfortable with him, or Im not attracted to him, I just am NEVER in the mood. If people do have suggestions please help us

bevhembree · Post by **bevhembree** » Mon Jun 09, 2008 5:38 pm

I have anxiety when we don't hve sex. Sex relieves any depression, phsical pain, and sadness.