Confusion causing anxiety ???

[DPantoja]

Hello everyone,

I see my counselor tomorrow at 12:30. Well anyways she is advising me to leave my fiance. This decision is so fast for me. I don't know what to do. I seen her on Friday and will see her again Monday. It seems like she's pushing me into making decisions and I don't really feel like I'm the one making the decisions here. Anyways, it's been causing me anxiety all weekend! I'm not so sure I want to leave him. We have a 16 month old baby and well I'm not sure I want to raise him without a father and I need more time to consider leaving him, she wants me to decide by mid June. It just seems so fast to make such a major decision for our lives. She is going on things that I told her about our relationship, but still. Any suggestions on what I should do? Or how to calm myself down? I will sign up this week at another counceling place as my counselor recommended, I think that's a good idea so I can have another opinion on what to do with my life. Need your advise.


Dee

[Guest]

It seems wrong for your counselor to be pushing you like that. It's fine for them to give advice and steer you in the right direction but pushing you to do that oversteps the bounds of the relationship in my opinion because that is a deeply personal decision.

[rose_thorn98]

MargieP,

Thanks for your reply, I really appreciate it. I went to see my couselor today and I told her that I don't think she should acutally push me to do what she wants me to do but that I feel I should think about it and see what I want to do. She agreed and apologized for telling me what to do. She didn't mean to do that and actually wanted to tell me that today. It was just her opinion on what she thought I should do. After our conversation today, I feel alot more comfortable with her. I'm so glad we discussed this matter today. I was almost gonna stop attending counseling because of this. So I will continue to see her and we resolved that issue today.


Dee