Lost and confused

Comments and inquiries to share with others. (Questions for Staff can be posted below.)
Post Reply
Shelly9
Posts: 39
Joined: Mon Jan 14, 2008 6:31 pm

Post by Shelly9 » Sun Apr 27, 2008 9:40 am

Hey everyone, right now i feel so lost and confused, reasons why is because i dont get this whole thing im going thru. First of all i dont know how i got it {anxiety and panic attacks} and i just wonder, i was on the program online for a while and went up to session 7 and i ended up canceling the program because of money and i decided to buy the program (but i havent yet because of money). Does anyone feel kinda dumb when you do self talk??? I do a lot of times because i feel like im telling myself a lie... For example I tell myself I will get over this, but then in the back of my head i just dont believe it. I have been going thru this i guess since June 2007 and i have no idea how it started. I had my first Panic attack that time and ever since i have been scared of it. In the beginning when i first started feeling bad anxiety i thought it was because of summer and that i feared how hot it would get so i was home bounded, but when fall came i felt better and started going out a little more but then was still feeling anxious so i thought maybe it was my hubby, and i started feeling so uncomfortable around him, During winter i got passed that and i felt fine around christmas time, Later i started looking back on all the times my anxiety gets bad and i noticed it was when i am on my period and when i end it, but then i thot it was funny cuz usualy it suppose to be before your period and while u r on it. SO i have no idea exactly what is triggering my anxiety. A few week or months i feel fine but then i have a lot more time i feel bad. SO far right now im kinda house bounded, if i think about plans on wanting to go out i start feeling so uncomfortable, but then i do really want to go out, The past week has been really bad for me, I live 2 minutes away from a Walmart and one day i needed to go Grocery shopping me and my hubby and kids went and we walked around to pick up a few needs, my body started feeling so uncomfortable like my heart started pounding so hard, the back of my head felt so pressured like i was blowing up a water baloon, and i felt so hot. So all the symtoms started scareing me i told my hubby to take me home. SO the next day i wanted to try to go out again so i thought, lets try to go to Blockbuster 5-7 minutes away from home and we did, I felt all the same symtoms but i actually made it to Blockbuster and back home, Im happy i got thru that but still disapointed that i cant go n e further. Yesterday i wanted to take my kids to the park so bad but i was so affraid of having a panic attack. SO many people had told me panic attacks wont kill me or anything but i just still fear the feeling you get while having one. SO n e way i didnt end up takeing the kids to the park but i got to take them outside. I went to our neighbors house and hung out there for a while so im happy i made it fine but still i just hate the fact that i avoid on going out further places. I wounder if anyone could relate.... But n e way i just thot i could let this out cuz i feel like i really needed it off my chest... hehehe i kinda feel better but i want to beel more better like not dealing with this anxiety and panic attacks.


I really know this program will help so soon i will purchase the program. but right now i just need ur guys love and support... i know im not alone so yah...


i would love to hear what guys have to say so just respond if you got the time.

Thanks for you time......
:)Shelly

Guest

Post by Guest » Sun Apr 27, 2008 9:52 am

shelly,
I know how you feel been there,positive talk is not a lie,you can get better others have you just got to work on it.you tell yourself I am not going faint die or go crazy that is the truth when you start to panic you think oh I can't stand this I feel funny oh I feel sick I have got to get out of here what you need to do is stop and wait before you leave because by leaving you are re enforcing the fear,I did I have been worse ever since I can go places but there are areas I am avoiding,places I have never been to,do you jouranl that is suppose to help I will admit I have done that a lot either,if we don't use the tools then we can only blame ourselves you can do it the only way out is thru the door of fear it will fade we are keeping it alive good luck

Guest

Post by Guest » Sun Apr 27, 2008 10:01 am

Take baby steps to differnt places a little further at a time. I did this and I went and got a job then made sure to go out to some stores and now I have gone all the way across town. It took a little while but with each new step it gets easier and easier. Self talk really does help. You will be able to stop panic in its tracks because you don't give it place anymore. Doing breathing excersises helps also. I do word searches and it helps to get my mind off of the panic. I get paniky but only for a few moments now and then I can talk myself out of it all together. You can do it! You have to start somewhere.

Jennifier

Guest

Post by Guest » Sun Apr 27, 2008 10:08 am

Thank you forever young 06 and Jennifier


I know baby steps would help a lot but im just one of those people that want to take a big leap and go further but im just so scared. i am a very stubborn person you can say so i guess thats why everything this program is asken me to do seems so hard for me to work on. i havent even worked on a negative and positve journal, and self talk i do here and there but i still feel stuipid doing it and just a lot of times my mind doesnt take the positive self talk i tell myself its to weird, hard for me to explain.


But thank you both for your reply and time reading my post


Shelly

Sandee_B
Posts: 4
Joined: Mon Dec 11, 2006 8:18 am

Post by Sandee_B » Sun Apr 27, 2008 10:59 am

Hi Shelly, if that's you in the picture, you are such a gorgeous gal! ANyway, I can totally relate to you. My anxiety and panic came out of no where last October. I'm 32, and I have simular anxiety around periods and pms and that. I would check with your doctor about getting your progesterone hormone levels checked. I'm going to tomorrow. PMS and menopausal women have ups and lows and then some just have very little progesterone in their systems at all and that can cause anxiety. Progesterone cream is actually prescribed for menopausal woman to help with thier change in life and it is also prescribed for ladies with horrible pms, some just use it 2 weeks a month to help level out their hormones. This is all pretty new to me and that's why I'm going to talk to the doctor. I have a 3 and half year old and a 21 month old and last fall, before the panic attacks, I was just all of a sudden not doing well on my birth control, so they switched me to a sister pill of Yaz and it just got worse- panic attacks. No one ever mentioned checking my hormone levels because that could be part of it. So, just a suggestion for you to look into. Also, the program is available in monthly payments as low as $30.00 a month and that's what I do because we're so broke, I'm a stay at home MOM. But, if you think the program was working for you, you just have to make a couple cuts a month to afford it. It is the only thing and well of course God, but it has just gotten me out of the cycle of anxiety. It also sounds if you have a ton of anticipatory anxiety, where you're constantly thinking, when next will it happen? I also went through that- and what they say in the program about when you're not afraid of the panics and symptoms they'll stop coming. And it's true. Everyone has set backs. I had one 2 weeks ago when I was pms-ing and wasn't keeping up on my program and self care and it sort of snuck up on me. But, It's just practice. Self talk is good for you. Your brain can only believe what you tell it and it you keep filling it with the positive stuff and keep with it, sooner or later your brain won't remember the old stuff. Also, try reading Shad Helmstetters What You Say When You Talk TO Yourself, it's all about positive self talk and how the brain works. The book is only $6-$7 dollars at like Barnes&Noble or the like. I have recently picked up Battlefield Of THe MInd by Joyce Meyer. It is suppose to be really good, and has gotten good reviews here. I can't stress enough how important the program is. So, you say your stubborn- use that towards your recovery! And also, don't get down on yourself about so much. You made it to Blockbuster and had the feeling- ALL RIGHT! You did it! That's an accomplishment. Anyway, feel free to e-mail me if you want. We sound like we have a lot in common, age, kids, and the panic attacks recently started. I felt kinda different because I haven't had this for years and years like some people, but there are all kinds of us! Good Luck and God Bless!

Guest

Post by Guest » Sun Apr 27, 2008 11:22 am

Hey thanks for your response Be Positive. Yup thats me in the picture, But n e way im scared to see a doctor, i never even really seen a doctor for my anxiety and panic attacks, i only seen a doctor for little simple thing like a ear infection or the runs or something. I dont take any birth control pill so i dont think that can be it but i have thot maybe its something with my hormones or something. Im a stay at home mom too and i kinda think thats a cause of my anxiety cuz im so stressed with a 5 year old and 2 year old. I amm 22 years old and really didnt get to enjoy my teenage life because i got pregnant when i was 16. But i dont feel sad about that because i am totally blessed with my kids and with my hubby who loves me and supports me all the way. Im a believer in God and i pray here and there but i know i should pray all the time but n e way I got so many books that i think can help me but then those books are just sitting in my dresser. I want to get the book from Joyce Meyer Batttlefield of the Mind but im just affraid it will just be another book sitting around wanting to be read. I know if i cant help myslef i wont get n e where so im gonna do my best and hardest cuz i want to overcome this. and its just great and helps a lot that knowing im not a lone... thank you so much


Shelly

derfy
Posts: 187
Joined: Sat Nov 11, 2006 12:31 am

Post by derfy » Sun Apr 27, 2008 1:41 pm

Shelly9,

Maybe you could get the Battlefield of the Mind on CD that way you could listen to it. I too got pregnant when I was 16 so I know what you mean about not having teen years, but I am blessed and wouldn't change a thing! I got anxiety after alot of stress from work and after a death in my family. I kept on thinking that I was dieing. I have now been able to calm myself down. I read the Bible and do studies and I take alot of tums I get real bad heart burn that makes my chest hurt real bad. I do word searches and I have gotten a job recently because I was tired of sitting in the house. It has helped alot. I have gotten out of the house and I make sure to go somewhere through the week and have takin baby steps to get where I am at and there is no turning back now. Push yourself to the limit on where you will go, this helps me, if I am out of the house then I make sure to go at least two places and then I feel like I accomplished alot. I make it a point to tell my husband to push me to do something. He will tell me all the places that he needs or wants to go after we have left the first place. If he tells me all the places that he wants to go before we leave it makes things worse on me because I get real nervous and anxious about it. Try not to push yourself too far because it can cause you to be more anxious. Small steps and a few puses will help ask your husband to tell you he has to go somewhere and needs you there so that you will push yourself to go. That helps me. Your doing alot better than others in the getting yourself to go places, some people haven't left their homes in years. Keep in mind that the Lord is with you and he will guide you through this and carry you when he knows that it is too hard. God bless you!

Jennifier
*****************************************
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens us.
We ask ourselves...
who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous?
Actually, who are we not to be? --Unknown
*****************************************
[IMG]http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v649/TheOneAndOnlyDerfy/sigsAvatarsEtc/loveyouguysWave.gif[/IMG] [IMG]http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v649/TheOneAndOnlyDerfy/sigsAvatarsEtc/ValHeartsSmiHug.gif[/IMG] [IMG]http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v649/TheOneAndOnlyDerfy/SigTags/LynneCocoaMo-1-1.jpg[/IMG]

Post Reply

Return to “General Comments/Inquiries about”