just got fired

DMP720 · Post by **DMP720** » Tue Jan 20, 2009 10:29 am

I just got fired from my job bc I called in sickl..It was my first day calling in sick for the three months I was there...im so upset right now my heart is beating 3284238 miles and hour and Im having the worst panic attack...Im so upset because I just got finalcially stable. They had no right to fire my I am such a good worker!! Im soo upset right now I really really need your support...... :*-(

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Jan 20, 2009 10:31 am

hey there. dont worry about it it happens. i was so upset when i got fired once i was very panicky. but i just put it all behind me and found an even better job. its there loss for firing you remeber that. you are so much better then them. dont sweat it.

Sparkus · Post by **Sparkus** » Tue Jan 20, 2009 10:40 am

You are right, they had no right to fire you for being sick, I think the best thing you can do right now is move on as quickly as possible. Dwelling on it or trying to fight it may cause unnecessary anxiety. You might drive yourself crazy guessing why they did this, and it may have had nothing to do with you but something to do with their own end or the economy. Where one door closes, another opens and I truly believe that something bigger and better is in the near future for you.

Recognize this feeling and observe it, let it pass, take some deep breaths, 2 seconds in 4 seconds out through your nose and get a game plan going for what to do next. It will help you get over this and move forward.

All the best to you!

marygold · Post by **marygold** » Tue Jan 20, 2009 11:05 am

I just started the program today and this is a copy of my first post. As you can see, I had a similar thing happen to me. I am also in a financial bind and this couldn't of come at a worse time, but I do believe things happen for a reason so I am going forth and starting over. So your not alone. Don't obsess over what you can't control and move on. [QUOTE]Hello, I am a married mother of a 10 & 12 year old I just got my packet today and am so excited. What got me here is an incident last October. I have been working for my inlaws for 13 years. My father inlaw verbally abuses his wife on a daily bases. I used to stick up for her, but she gets mad when you do. Some how, I let them both do it to me. I ended up having to medicate myself with prozac and lexapro just to get through the work and even excepted that it would always be this way. It came to a head when my son (their Grandson) came down with whooping cough and I had to miss a lot of work. They were not sympathetic at all. At one point he wanted me to leave my 10 year old home alone to come in so he could go home. We ended up in an argument, and he fired me. I am now trying to pick up the pieces. He has fired me umpteen times and then has made me come back. This time I'm not going back. I want to be happy, I want my life back. I see my neighbors out doing daily things to their yards and think, why don't I have it in me to do that. I have a beautiful house and an incredible supporting husband, 2 great children, but I don't feel like participating in daily things. I don't want to feel guilty about everything. I felt guilty when I wasn't at work and when I couldn't be there for my children. I would come home physically and emotionally exhausted. Even going grocery shopping was a chore because I couldn't concentrate enough to get what I needed before I would become physically ill in the store. I am laid off and have 6 months to get my life straight. I am starting my own home based business with my husband. He is hoping I can rescue him so he can leave. That makes me feel good because he thinks I can do it. I just can't get motivated. I can't sleep without a sleep aid and stay in bed until sometimes 2 in the afternoon. When I ordered the packet, I didn't even think I could make it till today. I hope and pray for some relief.[/QUOT

Annamarie

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Jan 20, 2009 12:29 pm

thank you everyone....
I just dont get it..I try and try and try. I work SO hard..I never had anything negative to say there...its like when I would work hard and get everything done...it came unnoticed..but the MOMENT that I slipped up...they made sure to tell me I screwed up.

My fiance is screaming at me. All I did was ask for a hug...i just needed ONE hug.....

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Jan 20, 2009 12:47 pm

DMP,

They didn't give you a warning or anything? That just isn't right!!! Well, don't beat yourself up just let it go and move on. You'll find another job.

As far as you fiancee I understand how you feel, my wife doesn't understand all of this either. I try not to involve her because it just isn't worth all the aggrivation.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Jan 20, 2009 1:24 pm

Hey there, i am praying for you and i also know that when one door closes another is open. Just finishing up session one starting session two and i just wanted to remind you of something lucinda said on session two. The panic anxiety last on for about a few minutes so ride it out and hang on, you will be fine!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Jan 20, 2009 1:45 pm

DMP720,

I agree with John61, it's NOT right for someone to fire you for calling in sick once. If that were me, I would demand some explanation or reasoning from my boss.

Being wrongfully fired is a legal issue. I am not sure where you live but I would encourage you to do a little research about the laws in your state that help protect against this sort of thing.

Wishing you better things to come!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Jan 20, 2009 2:04 pm

Yea that is true. I know that unemployment might be able to help you. If this is your first incident, they have to do certain things before they can fire you, like warnings and suspensions and if they didn't, you might be able to collect so you can get yourself back on your feet. I hope you wouldn't want to go back, it doesn't sound very healthy there for you.

Annamarie

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Jan 20, 2009 2:43 pm

Calm yourself and in the morning go and put in for your unemployment; you are much better off now that you know what kind of company they turned out to be. You didn't say what kind of work you were doing, or what state you are in, but don't swet it you will get another job.
Good Luck and God Bless