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Hello guys!I'm having a problem and could really use some support.I'm so sad and broken hearted.My family has turned against me.I talking about my husband,2 daughters,son,and others.First of all my husband says to me today "I really think that you just use this anxiety to keep people in your life and you make it so that they can't get out of your life.""Just leave,if you don't leave than I'll drive you into insanity so that you will have too."My daughters make fun of me all of the time.They say things like I hate you,you're ugly,you're fat,you're stupid and so on.This goes on on a regular basis.My 18 year old son says that he does'nt want to talk to me because I'm annoying.I can't see my new granddaughter.I'm 37 years old and I already have everyone turning away from me.The thing is I've been working real hard to overcome this anxiety disorder.I had gained 20 pounds about 2 years ago because of the anxiety but I've lost about 14 pounds now.I get ready everyday.Shower,makeup,hair.I keep our house spotless but nothing is ever good enough for them.They still constantly put me down.Alot of this is my fault because I've stayed with an abusive man.This of course is half the reason that my kids act this way.I try and help them but no one will see there wrongs or they say that they just don't care.My anxiety pretty much has me housebound and has for almost 2 years so I feel totally stuck!I'm working on the housebound thing but it's definately not something that I can fix over night.They don't get that.To tell you the truth I don't think that it would really matter much to them anyway.This is my family!I can't believe that the're so cold hearted.They even make fun of me because I choose to worship God.I was just wandering how am I really supposed to get better when everyone keeps pushing me down?I have to get better know matter what it's just that not only do I have all this healing to do with the anxiety but I also have to heal my heart and soul.I'm posting this because I really have no where else to go where they understand.Thank you for reading this.Wish me luck.
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Dear Fear Not, what courage it took to write the post you just did. You may say it was desperation,,I think courage. It must be just worse than I can imagine but you are really amazing that you still put it all together for them. I hope though you can for once put them on a backburner for awhile and concentrate on you. The program works and this place is full of people who are just aching to help. I have been amazed at the friends I have made here which has been a huge help to me so keep coming here and the chat and take care of you. GOD BLESS, bruce
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Hi Fearnot,
Wow.I am so sorry you are being treated this way by your family. I can relate somewhat to your situation. My husband is not abusive but he is not a very good communicator so I don't get much support there. My family all live in other states and really are so caught up in there own lives that I have not shared with them that I am trying to recover from this depression and anxiety. Today was awful for me as well, my 12 yr. old daughter has become so hateful to me and the things she says get me so upset and then I start yelling, etc. It is so unfair how are children can become so dis respectful and say such mean things to the ones that do everything for them. I am proud of you for going through the program and wanting to get better. You need to stay focused on yourself and your recovery and keep strong in your faith in God. You will begin seeing so many more changes. I know it is tough when you are not getting any support and positive feedback and that is when you need to turn to the forum. We are all in this together and can help each other and learn from one another. Just keep telling yourself it's going to be okay and let go and let God. He will be there for us when no one else seems to be. He is proud of your accomplishments and your family is probably so used to the old you that they are having a hard time accepting your positive changes because they know you are getting stronger and they won't be able to continue treating you the way they are so used too. You hang in there and listen to the relaxation tape over and over and take deep breaths. I wish you the best of Luck!! God Bless You.
Wow.I am so sorry you are being treated this way by your family. I can relate somewhat to your situation. My husband is not abusive but he is not a very good communicator so I don't get much support there. My family all live in other states and really are so caught up in there own lives that I have not shared with them that I am trying to recover from this depression and anxiety. Today was awful for me as well, my 12 yr. old daughter has become so hateful to me and the things she says get me so upset and then I start yelling, etc. It is so unfair how are children can become so dis respectful and say such mean things to the ones that do everything for them. I am proud of you for going through the program and wanting to get better. You need to stay focused on yourself and your recovery and keep strong in your faith in God. You will begin seeing so many more changes. I know it is tough when you are not getting any support and positive feedback and that is when you need to turn to the forum. We are all in this together and can help each other and learn from one another. Just keep telling yourself it's going to be okay and let go and let God. He will be there for us when no one else seems to be. He is proud of your accomplishments and your family is probably so used to the old you that they are having a hard time accepting your positive changes because they know you are getting stronger and they won't be able to continue treating you the way they are so used too. You hang in there and listen to the relaxation tape over and over and take deep breaths. I wish you the best of Luck!! God Bless You.
fearnot, what a wonderful name to call yourself considering everything you're going through and how your family treats you. I think a family like that would make me RUN out of that house, agorophobic or not. Keep your faith in God and keep working the program. Who knows maybe you'll have the guts to get out and do your own thing. You certainly can make new friends on here. I WILL be your friend for sure. You may PM me anytime. Please come on the conf. call tomorrow night for prayer. It's no charge. Look on the spiritual forums where it says "Praying Together" or Wed. there are several with the phone number. Time is l0pm eastern and 9pm central. I hope you can call in and get prayed for. I will be praying for you and your family starting now. How very sad when the ones you need most won't stand by you. God never lets you down so don't give up. We're here for you too.
"life is 10% of what happens to you, and 90% of how you react to it."
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Dear Fearnot
I admire your courage to have taken the step to go through this program with all the negativity around you from a family who is supposed to be supportive.
Just want to tell you that you have another friend here who will listen and is interested in your progress.
You sound like you need a BIG Hug...so here it is!
Soon you'll be able to leave your house without fear and have time away by yourself...it just takes time.
...and I do wish you luck and success!
Barbara U. Cherish
I admire your courage to have taken the step to go through this program with all the negativity around you from a family who is supposed to be supportive.
Just want to tell you that you have another friend here who will listen and is interested in your progress.
You sound like you need a BIG Hug...so here it is!
Soon you'll be able to leave your house without fear and have time away by yourself...it just takes time.
...and I do wish you luck and success!
Barbara U. Cherish
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Hi Fearnot. I'm really sorry about what you're going through. I can relate because my own family is not and has never been supportive towards me and my struggles with anxiety and depression. It is definitely hard to get better or to feel like you are getting better in such a negative environment. Keep working on getting better from your anxiety and depression. Let this be for you and not for others. I know how it is when you do so much to help others but when you need help or support, no ones around. That's why it's really important for you to get better for yourself and know that you can be there for yourself. It sounds like you're already headed in the right direction by working on getting out of the house. Keep faith in God because He is always there for us and loves us no matter what and only He knows all of our hearts and souls in truth, no one else. I'm glad that this forum can be a place of support for you and everyone else who comes here. Please don't blame yourself for other peoples abusiveness. It is not your fault for them being abusive. You sound like a really strong person and you can definitely get better from anxiety. Keep strong and continue to work on overcoming anxiety and you will get better. I wish you the best and know that you have people here on this forum who are always willing to listen and help. You got a friend in me and you can PM me if you like or I can give you my e-mail address. I'd like to know how your doing and progressing so keep us posted. Take care 
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Rose
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FEARNOT,
you wil be in all our thoughts and prayers. you have to venture out a little at a time and take baby steps and you can get out even if it is only to the street and walk back in..then the next day go a little farther..i used to be agrophobic but not anymore and had panic anxiety depression and IBS.. i can go places and do things i could not have done afew years ago. we are going on a church mission trip the middle part of next month. and then on july 21st iwil be going on amission trip to brazil for 12 days..keep us in your prayers that we will be able to reach out to the lost and dying world.KNOW THAT GOD IS THE GREAT PHYSICIAN AND HE STILL HEALS..HE IS THE SAME YETERDAY ,TOMMORROW AND FOREVER..HAVE FAITH MY DEAR FRIEND..YOU CAN DO IT AND WE WILL BE THERE TO HELP YOU.YOU ARE JUST A PHONE CALL AWAY ON WEDNESDAY NIGHT 10 P.M. MANY THAT COULD NOT DRIVE HAVE SINCEWE HAVE MET AND WENT SHOPPING AND ONE EVEN WENT ACROSS BRIDGES FOR AN APPT AND WENT TO SEE HER MOM AND GOING BACK TOMMORROW. ISN'T GOD GOOD..TAKE CARE AND GOD BLESS..
DON
you wil be in all our thoughts and prayers. you have to venture out a little at a time and take baby steps and you can get out even if it is only to the street and walk back in..then the next day go a little farther..i used to be agrophobic but not anymore and had panic anxiety depression and IBS.. i can go places and do things i could not have done afew years ago. we are going on a church mission trip the middle part of next month. and then on july 21st iwil be going on amission trip to brazil for 12 days..keep us in your prayers that we will be able to reach out to the lost and dying world.KNOW THAT GOD IS THE GREAT PHYSICIAN AND HE STILL HEALS..HE IS THE SAME YETERDAY ,TOMMORROW AND FOREVER..HAVE FAITH MY DEAR FRIEND..YOU CAN DO IT AND WE WILL BE THERE TO HELP YOU.YOU ARE JUST A PHONE CALL AWAY ON WEDNESDAY NIGHT 10 P.M. MANY THAT COULD NOT DRIVE HAVE SINCEWE HAVE MET AND WENT SHOPPING AND ONE EVEN WENT ACROSS BRIDGES FOR AN APPT AND WENT TO SEE HER MOM AND GOING BACK TOMMORROW. ISN'T GOD GOOD..TAKE CARE AND GOD BLESS..
DON
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It sad to hear that people especially the one's you count on the most can be so cruel.
Freenot, my heart goes out to you.
Remember this.... YOU'RE NOT ALONE, you have friends here.
Children will always say the cruelest things, don't let that upset you, as for your husband??? I think you need to address this issue.. and fast....As scary as it may sounded, if out is what he's looking for, set him free... in the long run you'll free a lot better. I know been there... my wife was never too happy with my anxiety, always putting me down.. always telling me that I was crazy, I'm looking for excuses, I'll never be a man,,
We're kinda of separated and let me tell you, it feels great not hearing those nasty negative words every seconds on the day.
My aniexty improved 50% the day I moved out.. well not the first day, but you know what I mean.
Fearnot... you need to think about # 1.... YOU
I'm here for you if you need to talk
smirnoff.boy@hotmail.com
Ciao Steven
Freenot, my heart goes out to you.
Remember this.... YOU'RE NOT ALONE, you have friends here.
Children will always say the cruelest things, don't let that upset you, as for your husband??? I think you need to address this issue.. and fast....As scary as it may sounded, if out is what he's looking for, set him free... in the long run you'll free a lot better. I know been there... my wife was never too happy with my anxiety, always putting me down.. always telling me that I was crazy, I'm looking for excuses, I'll never be a man,,
We're kinda of separated and let me tell you, it feels great not hearing those nasty negative words every seconds on the day.
My aniexty improved 50% the day I moved out.. well not the first day, but you know what I mean.
Fearnot... you need to think about # 1.... YOU
I'm here for you if you need to talk
smirnoff.boy@hotmail.com
Ciao Steven
Fearnot,
So sorry to hear about your family, however I can totally relate. I have an 11 year old son who blames me for everything that goes wrong in his life. His father, my ex-husband, was abusive towards me as well and my son witnessed much of this abuse. When I finally got the courage to leave I thought it would be the most wonderful thing for everyone. Yet, i think that my son secretly harbors anger and resentment towards me for breaking up his family. I have struggled with anxiety and depression all of my life and my parents have always told me it was something I made up. That it was a weakness. They frowned upon my taking antidepressants, refuse to believe I have anxiety, and constantly are telling me that this is just an excuse I use for the bad things that happen in my life. I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy. How they can say this is beyond me and yes it hurts, it hurts deeply. I can only say, heal yourself first and limit your exposure to those who sabatoge your success. God bless you. Anytime you need to talk I'm here.
Julie
So sorry to hear about your family, however I can totally relate. I have an 11 year old son who blames me for everything that goes wrong in his life. His father, my ex-husband, was abusive towards me as well and my son witnessed much of this abuse. When I finally got the courage to leave I thought it would be the most wonderful thing for everyone. Yet, i think that my son secretly harbors anger and resentment towards me for breaking up his family. I have struggled with anxiety and depression all of my life and my parents have always told me it was something I made up. That it was a weakness. They frowned upon my taking antidepressants, refuse to believe I have anxiety, and constantly are telling me that this is just an excuse I use for the bad things that happen in my life. I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy. How they can say this is beyond me and yes it hurts, it hurts deeply. I can only say, heal yourself first and limit your exposure to those who sabatoge your success. God bless you. Anytime you need to talk I'm here.
Julie
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Hello everyone!First of all I would like to thank each and everyone of you for all of your wonderful support.Yes this is hard to accept that my family is like this but at least I do know that God does love me and isn't that all that really matters anyway?I've never had so many people say that they'd be my friend before.I don't have any real close friends.I do have my sister and sister in law but I feel that all I do is just make them crazy over all this stuff.Today is a new day so I will definately be taking all of this kindness that you guys have given me and tucking it away in my heart to start the healing.I would really love to call the prayer line tonight.I do live in Indiana so what time should I call?Again thank you guys for everything!I hope that all of you have a good day!