As I begin to take a deeper look pver my past I have a patter of what you might call 'self destructive behaviour'. One choice after another that just landed me, in the end, in a crap hole spot. I think often I see the red flags going in and ignore them and charge forward.
Its somewhat disturbing and beckons the question. Why would I do that to myself?
Self Destructive behaviour?
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Hi squish.
You are WAY too hard on yourself. Give yourself a break. We all, as in humans, make mistakes-nobody's PERFECT.
I read that you don't have the program. Try and get it. If money is a problem, the company has a payment plan and ebay sells it for a fraction of the cost.
You need to get it. It would help you so much.
Take care. DeeDee.
You are WAY too hard on yourself. Give yourself a break. We all, as in humans, make mistakes-nobody's PERFECT.
I read that you don't have the program. Try and get it. If money is a problem, the company has a payment plan and ebay sells it for a fraction of the cost.
You need to get it. It would help you so much.
Take care. DeeDee.
Point in case: Even my dad can see it. This is an old email he had sent me
<span class="ev_code_GREEN">Trisha,
You are a wonderful person. You are:
Empathetic and sympathetic (Nut jobs are often sympathetic, but are not capable of empathy – remember this difference. They are “sorry” – i.e., sympathetic for the things they do, but next day all is OK – i.e., they lack the empathy to understand just how sh it ty they were. Instead it’s “Hey it’s a new day, let’s just forgive me and forget that I hurt you so badly.”) This is the most important of the attributes here named.
Physically attractive – Important (even if somewhat shallow) in meeting people
Intelligent – NEVER, EVERY let your intelligence be used as a negative
Have a good personality – you are someone people like to get to know
Nice – yes you are a nice person and that is important
You many other very positive attributes – I just am not going to name them all.
You do not have to hang around with looser nut jobs. These individuals want to be with you so that you can do for them what they cannot or will not do for themselves. Just say NO.
I know it is hard to meet new people, and that we all get lonely when we do not have someone, but quit substituting your support for someone who cannot take care of themselves for a healthy, full relationship. You are cheating yourself, and in so doing also hurting yourself.
You are a wonderful, wonderful person who deserves to be happy and fulfilled. Do not short-sell yourself and settle for someone who wants you to be there for them but cannot return the favor. In a health relationship, each individual FIRST stands alone, and then is strengthened by standing together.
I love you too much to see you hurt like this. Do not “settle.” Find the love of your life that is healthy enough to love you back, the way BOTH of you deserve to be loved.
I nut job is worthy of your love ONLY if they do whatever they can to keep there nuttiness from hurting you. If they do not do what they can to keep from hurting you, they are stating flat out that they do not care about you. Get rid of them with no more thought than you would to a used piece of toilet paper.
Love you
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<span class="ev_code_PURPLE">He is right.. but do I listen? no.. my only response was "I love you"</span>
His response to that:
<span class="ev_code_GREEN">I love you too – VERY, VERY Much.
But, you are an adrenalin junky to sh it ty relationships. QUIT IT!!! Do not allow the drama-filled years of your youth lead set the example for what life is supposed to be. It is not. You deserve peace, harmony, and love. Seek that. Find that. Escape the drama, melodrama, and debilitating dysfunctional relationship you saw at home and have so far sought out for yourself. You are better than that. You deserve more.
There are thousands and thousands of men in this part of our city alone who would be glad to share their lives with you and who are capable of doing so in a way that positive and fulfilling. Look and present yourself and believe in yourself as a responsible, confident, professional individual and you will have men falling all over themselves. You will have your pick – so pick wisely and quit picking DRAMA.
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While coming down off my most recent string of drama I realize how sick of it I am. I continue not only in my romantic but personal relationships and general choices in life drag myself into these situations and I have to tell you I am tired of it! Seriously.. I am so fed up with all the constant crap I drag into my life.
** actually on a weird coincidence my dad has the disks, so I last night I asked to borrow them.
<span class="ev_code_GREEN">Trisha,
You are a wonderful person. You are:
Empathetic and sympathetic (Nut jobs are often sympathetic, but are not capable of empathy – remember this difference. They are “sorry” – i.e., sympathetic for the things they do, but next day all is OK – i.e., they lack the empathy to understand just how sh it ty they were. Instead it’s “Hey it’s a new day, let’s just forgive me and forget that I hurt you so badly.”) This is the most important of the attributes here named.
Physically attractive – Important (even if somewhat shallow) in meeting people
Intelligent – NEVER, EVERY let your intelligence be used as a negative
Have a good personality – you are someone people like to get to know
Nice – yes you are a nice person and that is important
You many other very positive attributes – I just am not going to name them all.
You do not have to hang around with looser nut jobs. These individuals want to be with you so that you can do for them what they cannot or will not do for themselves. Just say NO.
I know it is hard to meet new people, and that we all get lonely when we do not have someone, but quit substituting your support for someone who cannot take care of themselves for a healthy, full relationship. You are cheating yourself, and in so doing also hurting yourself.
You are a wonderful, wonderful person who deserves to be happy and fulfilled. Do not short-sell yourself and settle for someone who wants you to be there for them but cannot return the favor. In a health relationship, each individual FIRST stands alone, and then is strengthened by standing together.
I love you too much to see you hurt like this. Do not “settle.” Find the love of your life that is healthy enough to love you back, the way BOTH of you deserve to be loved.
I nut job is worthy of your love ONLY if they do whatever they can to keep there nuttiness from hurting you. If they do not do what they can to keep from hurting you, they are stating flat out that they do not care about you. Get rid of them with no more thought than you would to a used piece of toilet paper.
Love you
</span>
<span class="ev_code_PURPLE">He is right.. but do I listen? no.. my only response was "I love you"</span>
His response to that:
<span class="ev_code_GREEN">I love you too – VERY, VERY Much.
But, you are an adrenalin junky to sh it ty relationships. QUIT IT!!! Do not allow the drama-filled years of your youth lead set the example for what life is supposed to be. It is not. You deserve peace, harmony, and love. Seek that. Find that. Escape the drama, melodrama, and debilitating dysfunctional relationship you saw at home and have so far sought out for yourself. You are better than that. You deserve more.
There are thousands and thousands of men in this part of our city alone who would be glad to share their lives with you and who are capable of doing so in a way that positive and fulfilling. Look and present yourself and believe in yourself as a responsible, confident, professional individual and you will have men falling all over themselves. You will have your pick – so pick wisely and quit picking DRAMA.
</span>
While coming down off my most recent string of drama I realize how sick of it I am. I continue not only in my romantic but personal relationships and general choices in life drag myself into these situations and I have to tell you I am tired of it! Seriously.. I am so fed up with all the constant crap I drag into my life.
** actually on a weird coincidence my dad has the disks, so I last night I asked to borrow them.
Hi squish.
Your dad is SO right. That is what I was trying to tell you in your other post about the guy who didn't want you and you thought it was because you was pressuring him.
You are too important to settle for less than you are worth. Be more open to advice. You'll learn so much.
Talk to your dad often, he can give that boost in self-confidence that you need.
Take care. DeeDee.
Your dad is SO right. That is what I was trying to tell you in your other post about the guy who didn't want you and you thought it was because you was pressuring him.
You are too important to settle for less than you are worth. Be more open to advice. You'll learn so much.
Talk to your dad often, he can give that boost in self-confidence that you need.
Take care. DeeDee.
All for His praise, glory and the joy it gives Him.
Hugs, In His Love >:D<
Gman9259
"He who dwells in the secret place of the most
high shall abide under the shadow of the Almighty"
Hugs, In His Love >:D<
Gman9259
"He who dwells in the secret place of the most
high shall abide under the shadow of the Almighty"
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