anyone else live alone

medgrl · Post by **medgrl** » Tue May 27, 2008 1:21 pm

Just wondered how you coped with panic and anxiety. I always leaned on my husband and since he died I live alone. I do my relaxation tapes more and meditate but was hoping others might have suggestions for me. By the way I have a hard time driving anywhere so that is kind of out to go to someones home. Thanks for any help............Pam

Alicia1003 · Post by **Alicia1003** » Tue May 27, 2008 1:55 pm

I'm so sorry to hear about your husband. When I read your post, I immediately thought of a pet. I know several people whose pets are their best friends, especially dogs. My dog is always so happy to see me no matter how long I've been gone or what kind of mood I'm in. She loves to be held and petted which is relaxing to me.

interested · Post by **interested** » Tue May 27, 2008 2:17 pm

I have lived alone for the past year and I find it difficult as I have always lived with someone in the past. I find the house is so empty. I deal with it using many telephone friends. I have so many friends and neighbors that I can call if I need some support. I don't know what I would do without them. I also come here a lot and chat online a lot. I do my relaxation tapes and am going through the program a second time. I guess it all helps. I understand what you are going through and, believe me, you are not alone. My condolences on your loss. Take care! Rob.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue May 27, 2008 3:00 pm

Hello, i am sorry about your husband, i dont like being alone, at all!!!!! i live with my bf, and trust me sometimes i think that if i had to live alone i dont think i can do it, but look at it this way, is time for you to be with you, to understand what you like what you dont like, is hard for people to be alone i have a hard time, since i had my anxiaty is still hard to be alone and think that i might be anxious and no body will help me, but then i calm myself down, i come here, watch tv or talk to a friend. about driving i have such a hard time driving!!!!! but i work and i cant stop working,so my advice for you is this dont stop driving because that will only make your world smaller!!! you can do it, take your tapes with you, talk to a friend, while you drive, sing, listen to a funny song or do something is just your head trying to scared you!! nothing ever ever happens. best of luck!! godblessyou!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue May 27, 2008 3:25 pm

Hi medgrl,

Sorry about your lost. I hope you realize how brave you are. Living alone is one of the hardest things I can picture myself doing.
PLEASE KEEP IT STRONG!
God bless you
Ivonne

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue May 27, 2008 5:46 pm

medgrl- I'm sorry about your husband. I live alone and have for quite some time now. My anxiety was there when I was married and was still there when I got divorced, so my anxiety is not due to living alone. Having a creative outlet is helpful as it engages you in something other than the anxiety and panic. I have a cat to take care of, cook some really interesting food, garden with native plants, take bird and nature walks, take some hikes in the mts., do some Tai Chi, paint some really crazy paintings, and listen to the relaxation tapes every night along with going thru the program. (for the second time). I live alone but don't fear it anymore and although I do get lonely sometimes without a husband there, I feel like I do have a life. It's a big adjustment and it's different, but it doesn't mean you can't be happy. Coping with anxiety and panic is hard whether you're alone or not but I believe it's possible to overcome it either way. Let us know more about how you are doing.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed May 28, 2008 1:18 am

Thank you everyone for all the support. This is a very difficult time for me but I am learning to cope with help from friends and from my on-line friends. I am so glad you all are here and are willing to help me out..........Pam

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Jun 03, 2008 11:52 pm

I live alone, have for several years after my divorce. I do have a pet, a dog, which helps with the lonliness. but i do not fear living alone. I am 50 and I do fear getting older and being alone. I do have some family members close by and that helps. My biggest challenge is to come home and make myself busy and not stop off at the liquor store and get a 6 pack of beer. i know this is not healthy and I think part of my success with this program will be to figure out why i have to do this. of course i know part of the reason is family history, my dad is an alcoholic, he doesnt drink now, but he is still a dry drunk, very angry. I have gotten better in the fact that i try to recognize when he is angry and bitter and not let it personally affect me. another hard part for me is writing a journal. been dealing with anxiety and depression for so long that it is hard to recognize when i have anxiety

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Jun 04, 2008 2:25 am

Emma and Ray, thanks for the replys to my post. I'm glad I am not the only one going thru this alone. I also have the problem of when I have a panic attack I do not want to be with anyone, not even family. I do not want them to think I am a freak or something!

I hope we are all feeling better soon, just have to keep plugging away at it.......Pam

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sat Jun 07, 2008 2:28 am

Hi
I don't live alone, but even when you have people around, you can be lonely. I am sorry for the loss of your husband. Hang in there. Get a pet...They are always there, even when you are awake in the middle of the night. Love them, because they need someone too. God bless you.