sleepless
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hey karen-sleep was one of those things that really got me down, i live in sacramento and the evenings are a little milder than most but i have a pond system that goes through my apt. complex with ducks fish and is really peacefull. take yourself thare after you exercise yourselve into a coma,sometimes it's good to make your body so tired it has to rest even 2-3 hours is better than none. and remember to go to that peaceful place. your husband is lost right about now. he wants to help but doesn't understand. let him know you just need his support your way for now.he's not florence nightingale but a little love and tenderness sure goes a long way.just let him know when he is needed. just my girlfrien there was good for me with a shoulder to lean on. john
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Karen:
Guided imagery helps me. Just like the relaxation tape.
And I sometimes take a tylenol p.m. or an advil p.m.
Have had sleep problems for so many yesrs.
If you have the program, work on it faithfully.
That helps the anxiety. You will become more peaceful using the program.
Hang in there. This may not be forever. I think you will get better.
Just try to accept the sleeplessness for now.
As soon as I try hard to sleep, then I won't sleep.
Wishing you restful nights!!!
MJ
Guided imagery helps me. Just like the relaxation tape.
And I sometimes take a tylenol p.m. or an advil p.m.
Have had sleep problems for so many yesrs.
If you have the program, work on it faithfully.
That helps the anxiety. You will become more peaceful using the program.
Hang in there. This may not be forever. I think you will get better.
Just try to accept the sleeplessness for now.
As soon as I try hard to sleep, then I won't sleep.
Wishing you restful nights!!!
MJ
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Oh, I understand completely. It is really stressful not being able to sleep and just feel the hours pass. I had the same problem as you for quite some time. Anyway, I guess you have tried the usual stuff (no coffee during the day, no eating at least a couple of hours before bedtime, wait to go to bed until you are tired etc.) I think we all get angry, especially at our spouse lying there sleeping like a baby 
but for me at least, it made it all worse (and kept me awake much longer). I tried to just relax with it, telling myself "I can make it one day at work being really tired, that's fine" (and I actually could, even though my work is pretty demanding), I started working out after work (that really helped) and every time I couldn't sleep I looked at it as my "luxury" time when I could read or write whatever I wanted without anyone disturbing me (difficult, I know, but it actually worked after a while). Let me know how it goes! Best, H
but for me at least, it made it all worse (and kept me awake much longer). I tried to just relax with it, telling myself "I can make it one day at work being really tired, that's fine" (and I actually could, even though my work is pretty demanding), I started working out after work (that really helped) and every time I couldn't sleep I looked at it as my "luxury" time when I could read or write whatever I wanted without anyone disturbing me (difficult, I know, but it actually worked after a while). Let me know how it goes! Best, H-
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thanks john. My husband is supportive and has told me to wake him up and he will massage my shoulders, which is where I store up the stress. I usually get back to sleep after that. I told him I feel bad waking him up and then him being awake part of the night. But, I again will eventually work through the anxiety of waking him up. thanks again. hey, maybe we will get a fountain for the calming water sound.
Originally posted by john michael swanson:
hey karen-sleep was one of those things that really got me down, i live in sacramento and the evenings are a little milder than most but i have a pond system that goes through my apt. complex with ducks fish and is really peacefull. take yourself thare after you exercise yourselve into a coma,sometimes it's good to make your body so tired it has to rest even 2-3 hours is better than none. and remember to go to that peaceful place. your husband is lost right about now. he wants to help but doesn't understand. let him know you just need his support your way for now.he's not florence nightingale but a little love and tenderness sure goes a long way.just let him know when he is needed. just my girlfrien there was good for me with a shoulder to lean on. john
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I bought a sound machine from Sharper Image called Sound Soother. It really helps on the nights my mind is going a mile a minute. It is a distraction and there are so many choices of sound I can find the one that works "that night". My husband loves it. In fact, there have been several times I've walked into the bedroom in the dark and couldn't figure out why I could hear the ocean, then would start laughing when I realized it was the machine.
I have also used magnesium, gaba calm, and calms forte (which is a natural "sleeping pill"). Also, the homeopathic "pulsatilla" for fear. I literally didn't sleep for 2 1/2 weeks in January. With those herbs I have been able to get my chest to relax, fall asleep and stay asleep most of the night. I have ativan if my symptoms get too bad, but have been able to manage...with some struggle, depending on the day...with the herbs above. I prefer not to use pharmacuticals if I can help it.
Sweet dreams...Wendy
I have also used magnesium, gaba calm, and calms forte (which is a natural "sleeping pill"). Also, the homeopathic "pulsatilla" for fear. I literally didn't sleep for 2 1/2 weeks in January. With those herbs I have been able to get my chest to relax, fall asleep and stay asleep most of the night. I have ativan if my symptoms get too bad, but have been able to manage...with some struggle, depending on the day...with the herbs above. I prefer not to use pharmacuticals if I can help it.
Sweet dreams...Wendy
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Karen
The first thing to do is let go of the anger. Your Husband cannot help it if he can sleep and anger at yourself is probably adding enough adrenaline to make the situation worse.
Some folks say do not eat before going to bed but 4-5 Oz. of warm milk or half a bowl of cereal has really helped me. If you awake and begin the thought process, especially our negative "What If" process that pulls you into a fully conscious state, it is hard to fall asleep again. I Had several months of little sleep but it has gotten better.
The first thing to do is let go of the anger. Your Husband cannot help it if he can sleep and anger at yourself is probably adding enough adrenaline to make the situation worse.
Some folks say do not eat before going to bed but 4-5 Oz. of warm milk or half a bowl of cereal has really helped me. If you awake and begin the thought process, especially our negative "What If" process that pulls you into a fully conscious state, it is hard to fall asleep again. I Had several months of little sleep but it has gotten better.
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The angrier I get about not being able to sleep the harder it is to fall asleep. I've been having a weird habit lately of waking up around 5:00 AM and not being able to get back to sleep, I usually end up getting out of bed and having a cup of Celestial Seasoning's Sleepy Time Extra. I have helped myself get to sleep with the Sleepy Time Extra and Calm Now magnesium powder. I try not to take naps in the middle of the day and also try not to go to bed too early. I also try to turn the lights down. But being angry and annoyed about it makes it worse, so if anything, I'll just try not to care and just lie there and let my mind drift. Usually that works well.
Hope you get some sleep. Remember you aren't the only one out there counting sheep, even though it seems like it with a hubby who is out like a light (I know that too, it's frustrating).
Hope you get some sleep. Remember you aren't the only one out there counting sheep, even though it seems like it with a hubby who is out like a light (I know that too, it's frustrating).