Have a date in 2 hrs and am chicken to go

medgrl · Post by **medgrl** » Sun Jun 08, 2008 8:10 am

HELP! I do not know what to do here. I am to meet this guy 30mins from my house and my stomach is in knots and I feel like I am going to get sick. I can barely drive 2 miles from home how will I go so far away? Please any advice will help. I do not want to cancel but I can't keep making up excuses not to meet him.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Jun 08, 2008 8:35 am

breath, and focus in the end result and how much fun you will have! You will be very proud of your self after you do it! You have a very good motivation, take it as a chance to defeat your fears!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Jun 08, 2008 9:13 am

Focus on the positive. You have a date! Someone who wants to spend time with you! This is just anticipatory anxiety. It comes and it will go! Treat this as a learning experience. Let us know how it goes!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Jun 08, 2008 10:02 am

You'll regret not going. The trick is no matter how bad it gets, push yourself. Tell yourself its been awhile since you did this and it'll take some time to get used too. And it's ok to feel like this, i'm only human.

angelos · Post by **angelos** » Sun Jun 08, 2008 10:37 am

Hope you had a Fun date!!!!!!!!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Jun 08, 2008 11:03 am

Just keep picturing postitive situations and be confident, laugh and have fun. Sounds easy right but you can do it.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Jun 08, 2008 2:21 pm

I am in the shame hall of fame here. I did not make it to the date. I made it half way and turned around and came home. I feel like crap! I have not been out in months and want so much to enjoy myself again. I did not panic but felt like I would being 30 mins from home. He understood and we are going to make plans to meet again very soon.

Everyone here is so helpful, nice and caring. What would I do without all of you?

Thank you for all the encouragement. I truly think of all of you as friends. Bless you all.

Dianelynn · Post by **Dianelynn** » Sun Jun 08, 2008 3:21 pm

Hey dont be ashamed!!! You tried. baby steps!!! And maybe he can drive to you like Emmaphobia said. You'll be able to make it next time!!! And let us know how it goes when you see him (-:

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Jun 08, 2008 3:42 pm

Hi Emma and Holly, yes he could come to me but the 30 mins that I would have to drive is halfway for both of us. I would feel awful if I had to make him drive all this way. And then what if my anxiety was so overwhelming I could not even go anywher with him? What a wasted trip.

Emma do you ever date? Holly I'm not sure if your married or not. Emma if you do how do you handle it. I'm like you, when I have a panic attack I want to be alone. Don't want people to see the crazy in me.

Thanks again for all the help. You guys are always there for me and it makes me feel great

derfy · Post by **derfy** » Sun Jun 08, 2008 3:52 pm

Have you done the program? The first time is always the hardest! does this man know about your anxiety and panic attacks?