I've Noticed There Is Always A Reason For Depression

NIRELANDGUY · Post by **NIRELANDGUY** » Thu Dec 27, 2007 9:36 am

This is just something I've noticed lately, I am a bit down at the min after being in good form all day, and if I track back I can find the cause, My wife said we are going to a New Years eve party, she said we would go before she even ask me, she told me the night and me being me I went of in a negative rant I.E "I'm not f£££king going to that, I don't even like them people etc etc" The exact same happened Christmas eve, I went of in a negative rant and ruined my Christmas, Have you noticed how your negative talk makes you depressed or is it just me? Its amazing the power some words have.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Dec 27, 2007 10:11 am

Hi There...
You are most definitely on to something. Our thoughts are behavioral and a lot of depression and anxiety are brought on by our behavior. I heard once that your thoughts become your reality. If you think you can't, you wont. There are definitely certain situations where it's okay to opt out of something if you don't want to do it, but I find that a negative attitude does put a big black cloud over a lot of things. We do create our own realities and it's hard to accept that sometimes, especially when we feel very bad.

sandy krahn · Post by **sandy krahn** » Thu Dec 27, 2007 5:05 pm

We are snared by the words of our mouth and with our mouth we speak words of life or death. Let's choose life.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Fri Dec 28, 2007 1:41 am

It is so true that we are what we think...and we believe what we say.

I'm so thankful for this program teaching me to say new things for me to believe!

Did anyone happen to hear on (I think it was) Session 3 where the guy in the group session said that he had gone to parties where he wanted to leave right away, but stayed...and found out that he had a good time? Then he started thinking about all of the ones he had actaully left from...and wondered what he missed!

Think of it this way, Nirelandguy, if the party totally sucks, you'll have some humorous stories to tell us in 2008!

Best,
Dawn

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Fri Dec 28, 2007 9:20 am

Nire,
I used to do that with my husband when my anxiety was so bad! He would make plans, then tell me, and i would explode.
I realized it wasnt that he made the plans, but that I didnt think I could deal with it, so instead of just saying that, I would get very angry at HIM. I would immediately start throwing out excuses why I COULDNT go or do! I didnt know the people, I didnt Like the people. It would be to crowded, or the weather to bad, etc etc.
Then afterward i would feel really bad, cause for one, if ID wanted to go, I Couldnt have, and two, I felt guilty for getting angry.
So, instead of saying, OKAY im going to try this, I would get depressed because i couldnt!!
I think you would feel much better if you would at least try to go,, you might not be very comfortable at first, but its a step to regaining control of yourself and what you want to do!! Nelly