My wife of 19 years has had enough of my moods, my neediness, my resentment and anger.
I have had an anxiety disorder for 30 years (now 44).
Anyone out there have recovered their marriage through this program.
Marriage may be ending over my problems
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Yeah marriage. It's not an easy job. Ups and downs all the time. Life is ups and downs too. Like Lucinda said to Sammy on one of the tapes, "Life's not fair." The program definitely will help your marriage. Give yourself time to get thru the program and ask your wife to give you time. Have you had her listen to the CD that's meant for her? I can't think of the name right now. This will help her to understand and hopefully be more patient.
Now is she actually saying what you said or is that you talking? We are full of negative self talk remember? Work the program and take care of you. Don't worry what she's thinking, just work on you for now cuz that's more than enough.
Now is she actually saying what you said or is that you talking? We are full of negative self talk remember? Work the program and take care of you. Don't worry what she's thinking, just work on you for now cuz that's more than enough.
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Matt
Today me and my husband celebrated our 20th anniversary. He too has had to deal with anxiety issues, I'm sure he never expected. He doesn't understand it at all but has still stuck thru it. This program is certainly the place to be. It will be the best thing you have done for you and your family as well. I will pray your wife will be patient with you and keep trying. You will see a huge difference in yourself if you will work and give it your all.
It does take time lots of work and practice practice practice. I was not functioning much at all at one time in my life, felt I was in a constant panic attack, anxiety 24/7. I really didnt know what was happening to me, but then discovered this program and read everything I could find at the library about anxiety disorder. It was very difficult on our marriage, and I'm sure he didnt know what to do with me, but all in all things worked out and we are doing just fine. Hang in there, you will be amazed at this program and the tools it gives you to just cope with life in a different better way. I wish you well and I will be praying for you and yours.
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Angla
Today me and my husband celebrated our 20th anniversary. He too has had to deal with anxiety issues, I'm sure he never expected. He doesn't understand it at all but has still stuck thru it. This program is certainly the place to be. It will be the best thing you have done for you and your family as well. I will pray your wife will be patient with you and keep trying. You will see a huge difference in yourself if you will work and give it your all.
It does take time lots of work and practice practice practice. I was not functioning much at all at one time in my life, felt I was in a constant panic attack, anxiety 24/7. I really didnt know what was happening to me, but then discovered this program and read everything I could find at the library about anxiety disorder. It was very difficult on our marriage, and I'm sure he didnt know what to do with me, but all in all things worked out and we are doing just fine. Hang in there, you will be amazed at this program and the tools it gives you to just cope with life in a different better way. I wish you well and I will be praying for you and yours.
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Angla
Hi Matt,
I can completly relate; over the past 9 years my husband has been through hell and back with me. Long story short- he walked out on me after 4 yrs. of marriage + 7 yrs. dating. After always having the "upper hand" (no, I am NOT proud of this) in our relationship, I was devestated. We were back together again within 6 months, but I lived in constant fear that he'd leave again. This shattered my self-confidence/esteem/image and my anxiety began to manifest itself in nearly EVERY area of my life.
Through the years, we've been on an emotional rollercoaster of peaks and valleys; it's only been within the past 6 months or so that it's actually started to stablize. I will not say I wouldn't crumble if we seperated today, but I would know how to COPE.
I certainly don't advocate divorce... in fact, when my husband filed, the first place I put the papers was in my Bible where it states that the Lord HATES divorce. My best suggestion is to pray on it. God know both you and your wife's hurts... He brought you together and He can mend broken hearts (even shattered ones!). I know there is a book by Stormie Omartian called The Power of a Praying Husband because I have the one for wives. I struggle with some of her ideas, but it's a good starting point for how to pray for your partner. And, trust me, there have been many times I've had NO desire to pray for my husband.
I hope this helps,
fischee
Oh, our "official" anniversary is on the 27 of July- we'll have been married 12 years, and our "unofficial" anniversary is on Oct. 28 which would make it 19 years- over half of both our lives! 5 years ago I NEVER would have thought this possible.
I can completly relate; over the past 9 years my husband has been through hell and back with me. Long story short- he walked out on me after 4 yrs. of marriage + 7 yrs. dating. After always having the "upper hand" (no, I am NOT proud of this) in our relationship, I was devestated. We were back together again within 6 months, but I lived in constant fear that he'd leave again. This shattered my self-confidence/esteem/image and my anxiety began to manifest itself in nearly EVERY area of my life.
Through the years, we've been on an emotional rollercoaster of peaks and valleys; it's only been within the past 6 months or so that it's actually started to stablize. I will not say I wouldn't crumble if we seperated today, but I would know how to COPE.
I certainly don't advocate divorce... in fact, when my husband filed, the first place I put the papers was in my Bible where it states that the Lord HATES divorce. My best suggestion is to pray on it. God know both you and your wife's hurts... He brought you together and He can mend broken hearts (even shattered ones!). I know there is a book by Stormie Omartian called The Power of a Praying Husband because I have the one for wives. I struggle with some of her ideas, but it's a good starting point for how to pray for your partner. And, trust me, there have been many times I've had NO desire to pray for my husband.
I hope this helps,
fischee
Oh, our "official" anniversary is on the 27 of July- we'll have been married 12 years, and our "unofficial" anniversary is on Oct. 28 which would make it 19 years- over half of both our lives! 5 years ago I NEVER would have thought this possible.
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Matt,
My only advice is that you cannot do anything for your marriage if you don't do something for yourself first.
This program will open you up, turn you around and make you question many, many things that just seem "normal" (negative thinking). If you make a commitment to really give the program a chance to work and try as hard as you can to relearn to love yourself, you will find that we have a TON of love for others, especially those closest to us that we take for granted.
Good luck on your journey,
Eric
My only advice is that you cannot do anything for your marriage if you don't do something for yourself first.
This program will open you up, turn you around and make you question many, many things that just seem "normal" (negative thinking). If you make a commitment to really give the program a chance to work and try as hard as you can to relearn to love yourself, you will find that we have a TON of love for others, especially those closest to us that we take for granted.
Good luck on your journey,
Eric