fear of throwing up
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i have a major fear about this that i absolutely cannot get passed....now myself is not really my main concern but my boyfriend i he gets sick i really want to be able to be there for him and hold him and not worry that i'm going to catch something off him or that hearing/seeing/smelling it is going to make me sick....anyone have ANY clue on what to do in such a situation? the sweetheart tries so hard to not let me know when something is wrong cause he doesnt want me to lose my appetite and stuff...it breaks my heart...i don't want him to feel like he has to run out of the room but if he doesnt i may feel sick...i feel so horrible i dunno what to do..
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Hi PansWendyBird!
Some of the things people like us are afraid of are just completely ridiculous, aren't they? It's so ironic too that we KNOW the phobias are ridiculous but can't seem to shake them. You're not alone, that's for sure!
I'm afraid of throwing up too. That was the fear that actually started my anxiety/panic years ago. Now I worry more about going crazy than throwing up (haha, go figure!), but throwing up is still one of my big phobias so I can sympathize with you.
I'm similiar with my fianceé when she's sick. As long as she doesn't throw up in front of me, I'm okay though. Like you, my fear of HER being sick is the fear that it will make ME sick. And that just boils down to embarassment - I don't want to throw up and be embarassed.
Although it's no magic solution, it does help a bit to fill yourself with positive self talk in situations like that such as: "Everyone throws up. It's no big deal. Even if I do, so what? I'll throw up and it'll be over. No big deal."...or, "It's just my anxiety. Everyone throws up. It's so not a big deal."
Most importantly, don't beat yourself up about not being able to physically support your boyfriend when he's not feeling well. He obviously knows about your anxiety issues and understands how certain things negatively affect you - so it probably doesn't even cross his mind that you're not physically supporting him when he's sick.
Hang in there though! Positive self talk, logic and reason, breathing, and remember..."So what?"
Some of the things people like us are afraid of are just completely ridiculous, aren't they? It's so ironic too that we KNOW the phobias are ridiculous but can't seem to shake them. You're not alone, that's for sure!
I'm afraid of throwing up too. That was the fear that actually started my anxiety/panic years ago. Now I worry more about going crazy than throwing up (haha, go figure!), but throwing up is still one of my big phobias so I can sympathize with you.
I'm similiar with my fianceé when she's sick. As long as she doesn't throw up in front of me, I'm okay though. Like you, my fear of HER being sick is the fear that it will make ME sick. And that just boils down to embarassment - I don't want to throw up and be embarassed.
Although it's no magic solution, it does help a bit to fill yourself with positive self talk in situations like that such as: "Everyone throws up. It's no big deal. Even if I do, so what? I'll throw up and it'll be over. No big deal."...or, "It's just my anxiety. Everyone throws up. It's so not a big deal."
Most importantly, don't beat yourself up about not being able to physically support your boyfriend when he's not feeling well. He obviously knows about your anxiety issues and understands how certain things negatively affect you - so it probably doesn't even cross his mind that you're not physically supporting him when he's sick.
Hang in there though! Positive self talk, logic and reason, breathing, and remember..."So what?"
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This is a more common phobia than you'd think. No one LIKES being sick but I personally will do just about anything to avoid it.
I think (psycho-analysing myself here) it stems from when I was younger. All through high school, anytime I ended up with the flu it was the same time a serious case of meningitis was going around so I'd be in the hospital with the flu everytime - terrified. I've never been embarassed about throwing up. I just HATE the feeling. And when I start to panic about other things, I've realised it's the same feeling then as it is when I'm sitting with my face next to the toilet bowl. If you throw up.....so what?....what's going to happen to you? Nothing. You get sick, your body ejects whatever it is that's bothing it (because our bodies are beautiful in that way) and you get better. You always get better. It isn't like anyone else around hasn't ever thrown up.
Easier said than done, I know. There was a point when I couldn't even be around my friends when they drank for fear they'd throw up. My husband, when we first started dating, didn't understand my anxiety like he does now. I had told him that I had a fear of puking and even gagging would set me off. So he was drunk one night at a house party and pretend gagged in my face...I put up with it that time...he did the same at the next party and I left him there. THAT's when he got the picture! lol!...I painted a not so nice picture of him but now, honestly, he's my support. He keeps me strong and makes sure i'm brave.
Puking isn't so bad. It's over with before you know it and your body is a miraculous thing with that little immune system it has!
I think (psycho-analysing myself here) it stems from when I was younger. All through high school, anytime I ended up with the flu it was the same time a serious case of meningitis was going around so I'd be in the hospital with the flu everytime - terrified. I've never been embarassed about throwing up. I just HATE the feeling. And when I start to panic about other things, I've realised it's the same feeling then as it is when I'm sitting with my face next to the toilet bowl. If you throw up.....so what?....what's going to happen to you? Nothing. You get sick, your body ejects whatever it is that's bothing it (because our bodies are beautiful in that way) and you get better. You always get better. It isn't like anyone else around hasn't ever thrown up.
Easier said than done, I know. There was a point when I couldn't even be around my friends when they drank for fear they'd throw up. My husband, when we first started dating, didn't understand my anxiety like he does now. I had told him that I had a fear of puking and even gagging would set me off. So he was drunk one night at a house party and pretend gagged in my face...I put up with it that time...he did the same at the next party and I left him there. THAT's when he got the picture! lol!...I painted a not so nice picture of him but now, honestly, he's my support. He keeps me strong and makes sure i'm brave.
Puking isn't so bad. It's over with before you know it and your body is a miraculous thing with that little immune system it has!
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I too am afraid of throwing up. I would rather give birth with no pain meds than throw up. It's always been a fear of mine since I was a child and it has only gotten worse. I will sit around real still and breath real slow thrying to talk my self out of the feeling of throwing up. SOmetimes I am successful, other times not so lucky. Funny though that it doesn't bother me when my fams is sick, just that when the kids are sick at night I get axiety knowing that my sleep will be little and interrupted all night.
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The thing that really messed me up I think is that...in grade 6 when I was 11 years old I got sick for like 3 months and missed a lot of the school year...it was uncontrollable and happened as a result of gagging from a rotten egg taste i would get coming up on my breath from my stomache....i was sick for so long and i had a upper GI and they found nothing. So anytime I get sick i'm scared it will keep going and going like that. The rotten egg thing happened again twice in 2005 when i had what i think was food poisoning due to eating the same thing both times exactly two weeks apart on the same night from the same restraunt. That didn't continue but it sure shook me up and most people have no idea what i'm talking about when i tell them about this taste on my breath.
Thing is this feeling is so horrible that sometimes my mind flashes back to movies that i watched when I could handle it for a brief time...and i keep seeing it over and over like an obsessive scary thought for some reason....i use to love the exorcist for instance..cant watch it now.
Last june me and my boyfriend went to see the Get Smart movie...I loved watching re runs of the show when i was little and I was loving the movie and then in this one scene he's in a jet and stuff comes out of his face mask he had been wearing but got sick in. Then I ended up feeling tummy sick the rest of the night. I never threw up but felt like i could...i dunno how to get over this..how to be able to watch stuff without my senses going into overload and feeling like i'm the one thats sick. And the stuff on the screen isnt even REAL!
Thing is this feeling is so horrible that sometimes my mind flashes back to movies that i watched when I could handle it for a brief time...and i keep seeing it over and over like an obsessive scary thought for some reason....i use to love the exorcist for instance..cant watch it now.
Last june me and my boyfriend went to see the Get Smart movie...I loved watching re runs of the show when i was little and I was loving the movie and then in this one scene he's in a jet and stuff comes out of his face mask he had been wearing but got sick in. Then I ended up feeling tummy sick the rest of the night. I never threw up but felt like i could...i dunno how to get over this..how to be able to watch stuff without my senses going into overload and feeling like i'm the one thats sick. And the stuff on the screen isnt even REAL!