How Can I Relate?

Canadian(John) · Post by **Canadian(John)** » Tue Sep 16, 2008 4:27 am

I been going to the chat room since for a few years. There are things I cannot relate to. I am a thin man, my life in certain areas is so different. Such as how can I relate when people are talking of weight lost? I stay out of conversations like that because I am the opposite to it and I try not to offend anyone.

I been having anxiety attacks just trying to talk with people at times. There are times I do not know what others are talking about. I feel I am way out of the conversation. Times the best I can do is just add what is going on with myself.

I have been facing difficult times, so far this year another five people that I know well had cancer. It is so very difficult for me when I am losing many to this dreaded disease. I am finding it hard not to have a panic attack on this. It seems to be all around me.

I am trying hard to get my life together. Not everything is bad. I had some really good and powerful stuff happening. I am trying not to be selfish as I spend my time helping others out that needs it. Sometimes I have to focus on myself I cannot help others if I am out of sorts.

What can I do?

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Sep 16, 2008 3:41 pm

I can't help you with the chat room because I never went there. I just want to say that I am sorry to hear about all the loved ones you have lost or losing. I myself have lost 3 loved ones in one month. I fear losing loved ones I always have since my Nana died in 1991, she died of cancer. The other 3 were just 2 months ago. I like you am a giver. I help people all the time, I guess it takes away my pain and i forget my problems. But all I am doing is ignoring my problems. I let people consume me and I think thats where our anxiety comes in. We can still help others but we need to nourish ourselves, we deserve to get better and live on. I learned this tonight at counsiling. It sounds good, right?