Really scared

Shalini · Post by **Shalini** » Thu Jun 05, 2008 3:54 am

I'm frightened that I'm going to live my life alone and in dispair. I've just started the program and looking forward to it but at the end of the day I want peace within myself and truly believe that I will fall in love again. It was a devistating ending of my relationship.
Please I need some positive feed back.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Jun 05, 2008 4:20 am

Please believe in yourself. You will not live alone and in despair for the rest of your life! Can you get out and meet new people? Or even go out with friends and just try to have some fun. The thing that I have found that has helped me so much is the book Hope and Help for your nerves by Claire Weeks. I think it has helped me even more than the program here.(although they are very similar) Trust in yourself and you will find happiness again

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Jun 05, 2008 4:30 am

I was in a live in relationship for several years and thought that guy was my forever man. He so disappointed me with his drinking, his just treating me like total garbage. I ended it. It was devastating. I never thought I could find someone or even trust a man again. I did though. It took time but when I felt I found a worthy person, I gave him a chance. With passing months, he gained more and more trust, love and my wanting to have him in my life. Be patient. Be picky. Right now understand that the pain of a break up is too fresh. You went for a "we" to a "me". That does take time to adjust to, but that does NOT mean that you will be alone. I thought I would be too and here I am 13 years after meeting my husband. This year will be 11 years of marriage.

You just got out of a relationship, so do not sink your dating ship. It may feel like the end of the world as far as finding a mate, but those feeling are natural. Life as you knew it is past, things will be different. Different is not bad it is just not the comfortable place we KNOW.

Your pot of gold is out there! You will find someone that you will want to share your life with. Give yourself some time to heal and adjust to the difference. Go out with friends, find new hobbies. Heck, we met the sweetest guy a the coffee shop...he was knitting! Sounds geeky at first... a MAN knitting??? If I had a single sister, I would have them meet! Get out and do stuff. It will get your mind off the hurt and you may even meet some really great people!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Jun 05, 2008 5:53 am

thank you so much for your positive feed back....it really fels like the end of the world when it comes to finding someone. Just because I left him doesn't mean I still didn't love him. I was sooo phyically attracted to him. I hope I can open my heart to feel that and way more!!!