I had an epiphany. All my life I needed women's approval. I need to be coddled emotionally or sexually. I think this need for approval and affirmation from woman goes back to my childhood. Duuuhh!
Now, at the age of 48 I realize men and women think very, very differently. I have always pretended to think that I thought more like a woman. But I finally have to admit that I don't! Many a struggle has gone on with me and my wife, or female co-workers. I see that men would get a certain email joke, and that woman (supposedly old friends) who not get it. They would get snippy and annoyed. I was hurt by this! But why was I hurt by this! Because I needed this woman's approval! And that's not healthy!
I notice that it's the men who don't need woman's approval are the ones who do best with them.
There is more to write but I will spare all of you.
But no longer will I expect that my inner need for affirmation from woman will be filled, because I no longer need affirmation or coddling from woman. I just don't need it! Men and women are different, and they never will be the same.
My Epiphony!
SongWriter
Hey, great post. I feel there is a certain level of comfort we need from other people. It's nice to have that physical contact and that comfort. If we are obsessively desparate for it though, that's when it can become negative. That's what it looks like in this situation so it's great that this light went off in your head.
Mike
Hey, great post. I feel there is a certain level of comfort we need from other people. It's nice to have that physical contact and that comfort. If we are obsessively desparate for it though, that's when it can become negative. That's what it looks like in this situation so it's great that this light went off in your head.
Mike