hello everyone,
Forgive me for posting SO much but I am fairly 'new' to the program and have many questions. complex disorder isn't it?
I have recognized that I have developed avoidance issues since I have struggled with this so long. Now when I become social, or start making a friend, men and women, I feel so 'nervous' inside my guts I dont know what to do, I get sick to my tummy and avoid the situation all together, it can last weeks or months before I just end the relationship with that person and I tend to blame it on the person or things not being just right. Men are much worse for me, dating or just making friends, I feel sick for days sometime weeks. I dont have a fear of embarassment (i dont think, maybe failure?) but for some reason I get nervous, could it be a fear of ibs, ocd and anxiety kicking in and me being really uncomfortable, easier to avoid. I have forced myself into many social situations but it doesnt get easier, really it hasn't. I need a tool! .. I have agreed to make plans in the past with people but always end up cancelling. I feel this way with any change also.. moving, friends, trips..everything.
I havent heard too much about this in the program and am confused as I dont know what it is or what to do.. could it be that 'gut feeling' that the person is wrong or dangerous to me so how? or is it me? is it a natural feeling? Can anyone relate? have any advice? can tell me a good session to listen too?
Thanks for your time!
how do I kick this feeling?
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what are your 'hurdles' with this?