What do you do when you feel you need a pick-me-up?
Yesterdays activities have left me feeling drained
and a little down today.
I was stuck in a lot of traffic barely made it in
time to work (or else I get fired if I'm not on Time)
Then took my mom to her cardiologist and got home late. She has
issues with anxiety all her life which were just masked with drugs.
The main concern for me and the reason I'm feeling like this today is because I am worried
that her body is falling apart. She fell down escalator stairs(it malfunctioned) and has arthritis issues, 3 fractures and a possible dislocated shoulder.
She lives with her sister who is also getting frail and had a heart attack. So needless to say I worry about these two. My moms sister has children but they never come to see her or take her to doctors and this BURDEN seems to be on my back. They don't talk to anyone because of money issues too. (Very greedy children who have stopped talking to their mother over money issues)
What can I do to replace these negative issues with positive ones? Positive Thinking?
Pick-Me-Up Recommendations?
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Hi DebDeb,
You should think about the good that you are doing for your mother and your aunt and the care that you have for them, (especially your mother), you'd really have to be abnormal to not worry about these two and shame on your cousins for the way they treat their mother (or don't in this matter!) It's all about Karma Deb! and it does come back around to help you at some point so believe that there is something good in the future for the good that you are doing for your mother and aunt right now. It is easy to stress about this situation but continuing to care for these two the way you do is your own best medicine. You are the better person out of all this, you shouldnt be stressing about the good you are doing for your mother,but what you accomplish not only by helping her out with her issues but the character you build by doing it!
your mother and aunts physical structure "is what it is" you cant stop what happened to her that day on the escalator, accidents happen unfortunately! Just being there is all you can do everytime either of them need help is enough, your not a doctor but you can help them get to one when they need it! your a good person always rememeber that everytime you take time out to help them!
Good Luck!
Brett
You should think about the good that you are doing for your mother and your aunt and the care that you have for them, (especially your mother), you'd really have to be abnormal to not worry about these two and shame on your cousins for the way they treat their mother (or don't in this matter!) It's all about Karma Deb! and it does come back around to help you at some point so believe that there is something good in the future for the good that you are doing for your mother and aunt right now. It is easy to stress about this situation but continuing to care for these two the way you do is your own best medicine. You are the better person out of all this, you shouldnt be stressing about the good you are doing for your mother,but what you accomplish not only by helping her out with her issues but the character you build by doing it!
your mother and aunts physical structure "is what it is" you cant stop what happened to her that day on the escalator, accidents happen unfortunately! Just being there is all you can do everytime either of them need help is enough, your not a doctor but you can help them get to one when they need it! your a good person always rememeber that everytime you take time out to help them!
Good Luck!
Brett
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Brett
Thank You for your kind words. It's just that it can be very physically draining/anxiety producing
just dealing with everyday life and then their situation on top of it. But as you say I will try to find the strength and not get too overwhelmed!
Right now it is hard because I am dealing with my own issues which on their own seem enough to handle and then add in their issues and it does get too hard to handle at times.
Thank You for your kind words. It's just that it can be very physically draining/anxiety producing
just dealing with everyday life and then their situation on top of it. But as you say I will try to find the strength and not get too overwhelmed!
Right now it is hard because I am dealing with my own issues which on their own seem enough to handle and then add in their issues and it does get too hard to handle at times.
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I remember dealing with this with my mother years ago and it is truly a hard one. I think it is one of the most difficult things in life to go through. I worried my self sick (and I mean actually to the point of being sick) when this was happening to my mother. You are lucky in one sense that you are close enough to be able to help your mother, although I know it is draining. I was 3,000 miles away and couldn't be there all the time when she needed me so now I am dealing with left over guilt. I think I finally accepted the fact that there are some things I couldn't "fix" and that are beyond my control, and my mother's aging and health problems were one of them. Saying the serenity prayer (left over from my alanon days from living with an alcoholic) over and over in my head helped some. There are the caregiver groups that may help you deal with this, but I know it's hard to find the time. I wish there was something I could say that would give you an instant pick me up but I think there are some things in life that you can't go around and have to go through and this may be one of them. The caregiver groups deal with this- everyone in the group knows how draining this can be and could give you some really good support and ideas on how to take care of yourself. Give yourself credit for helping your mother. You're doing something really special right now and believe me you won't regret it later on.
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