Older singles like me??

Abundanthope · Post by **Abundanthope** » Tue Apr 08, 2008 10:39 am

Hi,
I'm still recovering from a devastating divorce (3 years) during which time I was diagnosed with anxiety and depression. It all makes sense now, but when I step out into new relationships, there are now new reasons to feel anxiety and depression! Being single at my age is no fun!! Anyone feel like that? PS I'm 48 and a woman.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Apr 08, 2008 11:01 am

Hello Abundanthope.

I'm 43 and single too. I divorced my ex husband 12 years ago because he decided that he wanted to use drugs. Can you imagine living with a drug addict?

I love being single. My 21 year old daughter just moved out (I miss her, though). My 18 year old daughter is about to graduate and maybe leave to go to college.

When my divorce was final, I took a few years before dating to get my mind together and to make sure that I wouldn't be jumping into something too soon. I didn't want to make anyone a "rebound" guy. That wouldn't be fair to someone else.

You've waited 3 years, now it's time to "go and get 'em"! Get that ex out of your head and take care of yourself (the program will help you with that). Try to have fun. You deserve it!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Apr 08, 2008 11:07 am

Hi,
I'm Karin and I am 57 years old..never married...never found the right one,,,engaged 5x!...terrible players, etc...you name it...
Anyhow,,,,compared to me you are MUCH YOUNGER!! and statistics are better for remarriage for those who have already been married!!!
My anxiety and depression started when I lost my mom after many years her caregiver,,,before that my dad...he passed in 2000 and she this past July...I had always lived with them and unable to feel comfortable alone and also without work I freaked...It is a long story but I am left with the long road off medication, facing my fears and know that if I stay on the program and stay positive there will even be a mate out there for me,,,at 57!!
Hang in ..I will if you will!!!
Love,
Karin

Originally posted by Abundanthope:
Hi,
I'm still recovering from a devastating divorce (3 years) during which time I was diagnosed with anxiety and depression. It all makes sense now, but when I step out into new relationships, there are now new reasons to feel anxiety and depression! Being single at my age is no fun!! Anyone feel like that? PS I'm 48 and a woman.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Apr 08, 2008 11:30 am

Hi Karin.

There is definitely a mate out there for you. There's somebody for everyone. Take your time and enjoy the dating part, and date as many people as possible, so that you will have many "tasty treats" to choose from.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Apr 08, 2008 11:52 am

Yes, there are older singles like us...I'm 46. Altho I have a "roommate" I wish I didn't!

I relocated a few years ago and have met other singles through a Yahoo group in my area. Please be cautious if you go this route and follow all the safety precautions but overall it was a good place to meet new people.

Please keep us up to date on how things are going...good luck!!!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Apr 08, 2008 1:19 pm

Thank you for the replies.

My last child at home is 12 and she's not happy about me dating. No illusions of me and dad getting back together, but she knows if I get my heart broken, I will react with anxiety and depression!! Any thoughts?
Christy

Tracy1 · Post by **Tracy1** » Tue Apr 08, 2008 1:37 pm

Hi Christy.

My daughters made my life miserable when I started dating. It took a while but after being around them way too much, they realized that it was good for me to date. I made sure that I gave them my UNDIVIDED attention.

They got so tired of me.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Apr 08, 2008 1:40 pm

Hi Christy,
I'm 39 and single (been divorced for 5 years). I am raising my 11 year old son and have a 20 year old who is in college full time. The dating thing is intimidating. I find my son is soo protective of me. He worries about me getting hurt and doesn't like most of the men I date. When I get phone calls or texts he is always asking who it is. It's very hard but I know that there is someone out there for me. I recently joined Match.com which is interesting I must say. I am more focused on getting my anxiety under control right now than dating, but I know when the time is right Mr. Right will appear, and I will be ready. Good luck if you ever need to talk I'm just a pm away.
Julie

Don57 · Post by **Don57** » Wed Apr 09, 2008 4:42 am

I'm in my 50's (divorced twice) and love the feeling now that if I see someone it's because I enjoy their company and not because I feel panicky about finding someone. (anyone!) A friend's mother (age 80) left her husband (my friend's father) after 50 years of marriage. Moved in with an old boyfriend and later at about the age of 84 got married. Says she has never been happier. Found her soul mate at the age of 80! This is a true story and I think very inspiring. I think of this every time I start feeling it may be too late.