anxiety affecting relationships forum topic?

guitarrr · Post by **guitarrr** » Mon Apr 05, 2010 4:19 pm

Hi, I was just thinking, a board or forum or whatever its called on like, relationship anxiety or how anxiety affects relationships would be a great one to have. I wish there was a tape/session devoted to that, but oh well. Anyway, I have recently been seeing this girl, we only have hung out twice, but I really like her. I'm pretty sure she really likes me too. I have been able to talk to her about the fact I had like anxiety problems but I'm a lot better now, but really I still deal with it. It's basically that I need a lot more self confidence. It's been getting a lot better since I started grad school though. Anyway, the other day when we hung out we spent a lot of time together and I got a little more attached I guess to her. I'm worried if I get like more attached if she will still like me, although she's been very understanding about whatever I tell her so far. A month or two ago I had a bad crush on someone I work with, I posted a topic on that but I'm completely over it now. I guess I'm just still worried that will happen again and I will get devastated. Any similar experiences?

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Apr 05, 2010 5:06 pm

Guitarr.....Through our lives we continuously SEEK for happiness, peace and a certain safety within another person whom we want to share our deepest thoughts and concerns. I wouldnt rush into anything....I find nothing wrong in the beginning of a possible relationship TO BE JUT FRIENDS....but many jump in and it just disappears. The rushing is NOT HOW TO DO it in my eyes. Sincere deeply interested people will continue to be with you...no matter what...even if you turn out to be just friends. However this is only my opinion. You know what you want out of a relationship and the other should know too. You will KNOW when they do show up. creamcheese

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Apr 06, 2010 6:56 am

Yeah, I agree. We both think that, actually. She has had more relationships and dates than me and likes to not rush into things. I just still have problems with my self confidence is all. She's been really cool with like, understanding me when I talk about any concern I have too. She's more open and honest than most people and was talking about how she likes to just talk about stuff, which I think is great. My ex would think she was, but she was exactly the opposite.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Apr 06, 2010 12:01 pm

Guitarr......take it slow....dont rush....I dont know how far you are with Lucindas tapes if you have them but she has an excellent one called "Expectations" I love that one. A must listen for this. Keep us posted on this, we are all here to help each other. creamcheese

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Apr 07, 2010 10:48 am

I have listened to all the tapes, and kinda completed the program a few years ago I guess. I think I never did like, the last two weeks cause I thought I was already over anxiety haha. I only really have low self esteem now. But yeah that's a good one, I haven't really had problems with expectations too much I guess but it always helps to listen to those. Thanks.