Going through a set back
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pearpickinporky
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In this past 2 weeks, this week especially I am having a really tough time, I am in the firm grip of depression and if I look back I can figure out exactly what triggered it. The cause was work, I've always hated my job but this past few weeks things have really gone downhill, people have been walking all over me and then I beat myself up for this, I noticed yesterday at work nothing but negative thought after negative though like "I hate this place" "The day is taking so long" "Why am I treated like this" etc etc, hardly any wonder I am depressed. I'm of now of now on a few days break from work but still feel so down, on the virge of crying to be fair. HELP
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I'm so sorry to hear that you're having a hard time at work....
Correcting/replacing negative self-talk and thoughts with realistic positive self-talk and thoughts is a lot easier said than done but it can help so much to lessen your feelings of frustration and depression...
Keep reminding yourself how unique, special and worthy you are and that no one has the right to make you feel any way they want unless you give them the control to do that!! You control almost everything about yourself -- something i remind myself a lot when people rub me the wrong way......which means you control your emotions and reactions when people do things that you do not necessarily agree with...
Put yourself first...especially at the workplace...and I don't mean by being rude, greedy or a non-team player...I mean to put your foot down when it is necessary to do so...this is very hard to do but it is a MUST because as you've mentioned in your post...there will be people who will take advantage - sad but true!!..... You deserve to be as comfortable as your job environment permits just as everyone else strives to be and if that means having to say NO to some people, then by all means do it...and you know another thing we need to do....is NOT CARE WHAT PEOPLE WILL THINK ABOUT US AFTER WE SAY NO!!!
that not caring what people will think plays such a big part in being more aggressive and accepting our self-worth...especially in the workplace....
you know how it goes...we don't want to rub anyone the wrong way or make things awkward between colleagues or step on anyone's toes...but what happens??...we do nothing about things that bother us which makes us miserable and makes things worse anyway in the work area because we have all these negative feelings bottled up inside of us....5 out 10 times also, our colleagues or whomever doesn't even know what's really going on inside of us and because we chose not to do explain or put our foot down or what-have-you, they'll keep doing whatever it is that they're doing....
in a nutshell....you control yourself!! you control your emotions!! you validate yourself!! and a lot of the times, what you give off (this is also hard to take but almost always true) is what you get back from people....Realize that its okay to say NO and validate yourself enough where you will not care so much what others think when you speak your mind or do whatever it is you need to do...A lot of us can't change who our boss is, our work environment or our colleagues but we ALL CAN change our own attitudes, our mindset and how we view and take things.....
Healthy eating habits and enough rest also plays a big part in how we are feeling and performing at work as well but you already know this...
I'm sorry that my post is so long and I also apologize if I sounded like I was rambling....I had to respond to your post because I know exactly what you are going through....maybe our situations may be different but these past three days at work have been pretty rough as well...in fact, i've had to do some self-exercises and a lot of self-reminders and self-reflections today to get myself out of my own head...
I hope tomorrow will be a better day for you...Please keep us posted as to how things are going with you...Take care, always remember how important you are and a lot of best wishes to you!!!
Correcting/replacing negative self-talk and thoughts with realistic positive self-talk and thoughts is a lot easier said than done but it can help so much to lessen your feelings of frustration and depression...
Keep reminding yourself how unique, special and worthy you are and that no one has the right to make you feel any way they want unless you give them the control to do that!! You control almost everything about yourself -- something i remind myself a lot when people rub me the wrong way......which means you control your emotions and reactions when people do things that you do not necessarily agree with...
Put yourself first...especially at the workplace...and I don't mean by being rude, greedy or a non-team player...I mean to put your foot down when it is necessary to do so...this is very hard to do but it is a MUST because as you've mentioned in your post...there will be people who will take advantage - sad but true!!..... You deserve to be as comfortable as your job environment permits just as everyone else strives to be and if that means having to say NO to some people, then by all means do it...and you know another thing we need to do....is NOT CARE WHAT PEOPLE WILL THINK ABOUT US AFTER WE SAY NO!!!
that not caring what people will think plays such a big part in being more aggressive and accepting our self-worth...especially in the workplace....
you know how it goes...we don't want to rub anyone the wrong way or make things awkward between colleagues or step on anyone's toes...but what happens??...we do nothing about things that bother us which makes us miserable and makes things worse anyway in the work area because we have all these negative feelings bottled up inside of us....5 out 10 times also, our colleagues or whomever doesn't even know what's really going on inside of us and because we chose not to do explain or put our foot down or what-have-you, they'll keep doing whatever it is that they're doing....
in a nutshell....you control yourself!! you control your emotions!! you validate yourself!! and a lot of the times, what you give off (this is also hard to take but almost always true) is what you get back from people....Realize that its okay to say NO and validate yourself enough where you will not care so much what others think when you speak your mind or do whatever it is you need to do...A lot of us can't change who our boss is, our work environment or our colleagues but we ALL CAN change our own attitudes, our mindset and how we view and take things.....
Healthy eating habits and enough rest also plays a big part in how we are feeling and performing at work as well but you already know this...
I'm sorry that my post is so long and I also apologize if I sounded like I was rambling....I had to respond to your post because I know exactly what you are going through....maybe our situations may be different but these past three days at work have been pretty rough as well...in fact, i've had to do some self-exercises and a lot of self-reminders and self-reflections today to get myself out of my own head...
I hope tomorrow will be a better day for you...Please keep us posted as to how things are going with you...Take care, always remember how important you are and a lot of best wishes to you!!!
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Hey thanks for that, lots of useful info which I can't seem to take in at the min I am that annoyed and stuck in a negative cycle. PS it is tommorow here in the UK, 11.25am FridayOriginally posted by energy:
I'm so sorry to hear that you're having a hard time at work....
Correcting/replacing negative self-talk and thoughts with realistic positive self-talk and thoughts is a lot easier said than done but it can help so much to lessen your feelings of frustration and depression...
Keep reminding yourself how unique, special and worthy you are and that no one has the right to make you feel any way they want unless you give them the control to do that!! You control almost everything about yourself -- something i remind myself a lot when people rub me the wrong way......which means you control your emotions and reactions when people do things that you do not necessarily agree with...
Put yourself first...especially at the workplace...and I don't mean by being rude, greedy or a non-team player...I mean to put your foot down when it is necessary to do so...this is very hard to do but it is a MUST because as you've mentioned in your post...there will be people who will take advantage - sad but true!!..... You deserve to be as comfortable as your job environment permits just as everyone else strives to be and if that means having to say NO to some people, then by all means do it...and you know another thing we need to do....is NOT CARE WHAT PEOPLE WILL THINK ABOUT US AFTER WE SAY NO!!!
that not caring what people will think plays such a big part in being more aggressive and accepting our self-worth...especially in the workplace....
you know how it goes...we don't want to rub anyone the wrong way or make things awkward between colleagues or step on anyone's toes...but what happens??...we do nothing about things that bother us which makes us miserable and makes things worse anyway in the work area because we have all these negative feelings bottled up inside of us....5 out 10 times also, our colleagues or whomever doesn't even know what's really going on inside of us and because we chose not to do explain or put our foot down or what-have-you, they'll keep doing whatever it is that they're doing....
in a nutshell....you control yourself!! you control your emotions!! you validate yourself!! and a lot of the times, what you give off (this is also hard to take but almost always true) is what you get back from people....Realize that its okay to say NO and validate yourself enough where you will not care so much what others think when you speak your mind or do whatever it is you need to do...A lot of us can't change who our boss is, our work environment or our colleagues but we ALL CAN change our own attitudes, our mindset and how we view and take things.....
Healthy eating habits and enough rest also plays a big part in how we are feeling and performing at work as well but you already know this...
I'm sorry that my post is so long and I also apologize if I sounded like I was rambling....I had to respond to your post because I know exactly what you are going through....maybe our situations may be different but these past three days at work have been pretty rough as well...in fact, i've had to do some self-exercises and a lot of self-reminders and self-reflections today to get myself out of my own head...
I hope tomorrow will be a better day for you...Please keep us posted as to how things are going with you...Take care, always remember how important you are and a lot of best wishes to you!!!
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Guest
I had a job years ago I had worked their for years. My grandmother had died and she was like a mother to me. I was grieving so bad . I cried alot people at work were so cruel to me. They harressed me and were very nasty to me. I kept taking it and taking it.Finally one day I had enough. I walked out and quit. I thought that was the only job. Well God gave me a better easier more money job. As I look back no job is worth putting yourself through all that. I use to go home crying just about everyday. Life is to short for that. You keep your head up think positive you will get through it you do what is best for you. After I walked out that day I told them I was going to pray that place went under for all the ways I was treated they laughed. But I had last laugh within 2 years they shut down. Before it shut down they tried to get me to come back. Sinse then I see some of those people who put me through all that and they are so nice to me. But I have forgive them. They have to pay for what they do. And I have to pay for what I do. God Bless.
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Thanks for the advice guys, I am feeling a bit better now, still not on top form though. I am more annoyed at myself for letting them walk all over me,
I think they covered this in one of the tapes, a guy went through a similar thing, I'm a good worker, but people take advantage of this, you can take it so long then eventually snap, I'd never get angry with anyone at work but then I get depressed for not doing anything.
But hey, its the weekend, I'm out for a few beers tonight and forget about that place, I hope
I think they covered this in one of the tapes, a guy went through a similar thing, I'm a good worker, but people take advantage of this, you can take it so long then eventually snap, I'd never get angry with anyone at work but then I get depressed for not doing anything.
But hey, its the weekend, I'm out for a few beers tonight and forget about that place, I hope