Unreality Feelings

sue60504 · Post by **sue60504** » Wed Mar 11, 2009 5:40 am

I am new to this posting stuff - and starting 2nd week. Just have a question about the most disturbing symptom - unreality. Does this ever go away?

I feel that the more I focus on "The Now" that I am feeling more unreal about what I have just done. I keep testing myself to make sure that I remember what I just did, what I need to do next.

I am wondering if anyone else has feelings that one day just runs into the next - feeling as in a dream that does not end?

Please help----

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Mar 11, 2009 6:41 am

Sue, I hope it helps to know that this is not dangerous, and it WILL go away. I'm glad that you are in lesson 2 because this lesson will help emmensely. Breathe, breathe, Breathe! That helps so much, along with the six steps.

Also, begin to draft 3-5 short sentences that ground you, soothe you, and are entirely Truthful. Example, "There is no danger. I have felt this way before and it always goes away. I am learning how to calm myself. I can choose what I dwell on. There is no danger."

Hope that helps-I care, I've been there. Carolyn

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Mar 12, 2009 8:11 am

Hi Carolyn

On this same topic. I am stuck in a rut. I know these feelings are not dangerous, but I cannot change my pattern of thinking. Everytime I look at something I always ask myself - "How does that look?" I am always testing, obsessing, checking-in (whatever anxiety term you want to use) I especially do this when I get in the vehicle and drive, walk down the halls at work, am in a room with bright lights, or go to the store. I know this is a bad habit.

How can I break this? Will this ever stop? I can't distract myself. Any comments or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks.

Heatherbythesea · Post by **Heatherbythesea** » Thu Mar 12, 2009 8:30 am

I feel like I am loosing my mind, I can't seem to concentrate on anything, I do not even know what I am feeling other then just terrable. I feel like pounding my head in. Does anyone else feel like this? It is constant I can't sleep it is with me all day.If feel like it's a contanst buzzing in my head.
I do not know how this program is going to work for me if I can not sit still long enough to write anything down. Please.. I just want this to stop. Anyone else have these same type of feelings? Please help.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Mar 16, 2009 4:00 pm

Sue, I understand EXACTLY what you are talking about when you say you test yourself. I find myself constantly doing that. I am always thinking, "Is this program working? Am I different? Are these skills really working? Am I really going to be able to beat this?" It drives me crazy!! I hope the "checking" goes away soon. I obsess over it. As for the unreality feeling, iw will go away. We just have to work at it and not keep obsessing over it and our progress. Hang in there!!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Mar 16, 2009 4:46 pm

Mikea,
I was just like you about 3 weeks ago.I could not sit still or concentrate.My head hurt so bad.It had a pressure feeling along with a bad ache like a migraine.It was so bad i was throwing up.I sit here today still with minor headaches and the feeling of a little bit of pressure in my head.I am getting my concentration back and i am sleeping better.This program does work.If you can find the power within to calm down and listen to it you will feel better.If I done it so can you.you are not alone

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Mar 16, 2009 6:16 pm

To All,
I remember having these feelings of unreality...I called them "disoriented" feelings...Actually, they are just spacey feelings, and our brains way of protecting itself, when we are in overload...
When I first began the program, I could not concentrate much, either...I would re-read the same thing over and over...These are just symptoms of anxiety and depression, and will go away, as you become less anxious by using the tools in the program...Believe me..the skills worked for me, and they will work for you...I was agoraphobic for 21 years, and I suffered with severe panic attacks...You could say that I lived in one...and, I also suffered from generalized anxiety and depression...Keep working on the program, and I am sure you will see the results soon...God Bless...