Stuck in a real Chicken or the Egg Scenario, Help!

[ukguy1981]

Ok, I got together with my partner 10 years ago, for the first year all was fine, after that I found I didn't find her attractive anymore, I wasn't in love with her, but by this stage we had a child on the way so I stayed.

I then developed anxiety and depression and have had it ever since, day in day out, the depression seems to be the major factor now, what I am having a hard time figuring out is, did I develop anxiety and depression because of being in this unhappy relationship and the thought of being trapped with a child, or did I fall out of love with her etc because I developed anxiety and depression? That is the scenario.

I do have the program, and I did attempt it once, but it was a half assed effort and never got past session 3, I just cant seem to summon the motivation needed to complete the 15 weeks. I guess I just need some advice on what I should do?

[Hot Rod]

Here is what I think you should do: get YOUR head straight. You are anxious and depressed and wether or not it was caused by falling out of love or vice versa doesn't matter. The end result is the same: You have anxiety.

To be a good anything: husband, father, or contented, functioning healthy INDIVIDUAL, you have got to get your anxiety and depression figured out. The program is a wonderful tool for that. It will help you figure out and correct your bad thinking habits. Its isn't an overnight thing, you've got to stick with it. But, SO worth it. You will not get better without some kind of intervention so what do you have to lose?

Most importantly, look at what you have to gain.