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I've identified my marriage as the major source of my anxiety and depression. Is anyone interested in a marriage forum? I need support for my decision to stay with my marriage, and develop coping mechanisms for dealing with the stress.
"He that answereth a matter before he heareth it, it is folly and shame unto him." (Proverbs 18:13)
Do you have the program? It helped me tremendously with dealing with stress. I have wonderful coping skills now and feel so blessed to have accomplished this. The program also helped to strengthen my marriage. Surprised the heck out of me how much I was contributing to the stress in our marriage. I knew my anxiety and panic attacks were no picnic for my husband, but never realized before how much it was affecting our relationship.
By me working hard on the program, my husband changed also. He always stood by me, but he grew up in a family that thrived on confrontation. As I became more effectively assertive, and my self-esteem, and self-love steadily increased, my husband's attitude and communication skills changed for the better.
I think you'll find several posts on this website that involve issues with relationships/marriage. Like those commercials say "It affects EVERYONE".
Keep this one going - great start to a marriage forum.
God bless and hugs.
By me working hard on the program, my husband changed also. He always stood by me, but he grew up in a family that thrived on confrontation. As I became more effectively assertive, and my self-esteem, and self-love steadily increased, my husband's attitude and communication skills changed for the better.
I think you'll find several posts on this website that involve issues with relationships/marriage. Like those commercials say "It affects EVERYONE".
Keep this one going - great start to a marriage forum.
God bless and hugs.
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This is from an article that I read online by RBC Ministries, Pastor Bill Crowder says " Without faith in God love quits and dies. Unless we continue to believe all things, god has said, our love will not survive the disappointments, rejections, and insults of life. Unless we build ourl ove firmly on the Word of God, love will throw in the towel. Only by faith in God can love remain strong.
i am with you guys i would love a marriage forum i have alot of stress from my marriage and would love the support. i get alot of negitivity from my husband and he has very high expectations that he doesn't think he has and that goes for the kids to he exspect alot from them also. it is very stressful because he doesn't think he does. he really doesn't see what he is doing and won't try to see or change. i love him but don't know what to do. i try to be less effected but how do you do that when it is consantly in you face all the time? good luck with the forum let me know how it goes
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OMGosh, I could have wrote this. I thought I was crazy because he never see's what he does. Then I started counseling and realized he has NO CLUE how can he change if he doesn't think he is doing anything????? But how can we expect them to change?? So, its like learn to live with it or leave and I have already put 24 years into this marriage and it is hard but living with this every day is even harder.Posted September 16, 2007 07:09 AM Hide Post
i am with you guys i would love a marriage forum i have alot of stress from my marriage and would love the support. i get alot of negitivity from my husband and he has very high expectations that he doesn't think he has and that goes for the kids to he exspect alot from them also. it is very stressful because he doesn't think he does. he really doesn't see what he is doing and won't try to see or change. i love him but don't know what to do. i try to be less effected but how do you do that when it is consantly in you face all the time? good luck with the forum let me know how it goes
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Thanks for your replies! cindylou: I do have the program. I used it a few years back, but did not complete it. I need to start over again. I think it will help. However, I do remember feeling the same frustration I feel now. I tried to get my husband involved. All I asked him to do was listen to the tape that came with the program. You know, the one for spouses, "I'll Be There For You." He kept saying he would listen to it, but never did. I finally got tired of reminding him. I felt like I was begging. I always feel like I'm begging.
Expectations. Interesting. That was one of the best lessons in the program - about expectations. It sounds like your husbands are demanding. That must be hard to live with.
My husband doesn't have high expectations. He is not demanding at all. He is just checked-out. He goes to work, and comes home and watches TV. Anything beyond that is a real effort.
Expectations. Interesting. That was one of the best lessons in the program - about expectations. It sounds like your husbands are demanding. That must be hard to live with.
My husband doesn't have high expectations. He is not demanding at all. He is just checked-out. He goes to work, and comes home and watches TV. Anything beyond that is a real effort.
"He that answereth a matter before he heareth it, it is folly and shame unto him." (Proverbs 18:13)
GEEZ give me a break...Did you ever think that the anxiety is causing stres in your marriage and not the opposite? I wouldn't want to have lived with me when I was real bad...and only now I am compfortable in my own skin let alone with someone else. Nothing outside causes you anxiety it's all from within!!! WAKE UP being divorced is not easy and no fun especially if you have kids!!! take some responsibility!