Staying at home alone

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not missing out
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Post by not missing out » Fri Feb 22, 2008 8:10 am

Yeah, I do this too.

Well, I have observed myself during the week when I am by myself with the kids and when my husband's home on the weekends or we're going somewhere on Saturday. During the week I feel so bogged down, tired, kinda dizzy headed, etc. but when I'm not alone I don't have all that. When I wake up and know my husband will be there all day, I just get up and go.

So, that makes me tell myself that there probably is no real physical reason for me to feel so bad during the week. I feel those feelings and think, "egad what's wrong with me?" But if those feelings only come when I'm alone they must be situational. Why else would I feel so good on the weekends?

So, I have been trying to make myself be more active in the house. I hold back when I feel funny from doing things that need to be done! Just waiting to be more active for when I won't be alone.

When I wake up I have been trying to start the day with telling myself it will be a good day and I'll feel good. And listing out things to be happy about.

Also, I've been riding my bike as it's getting a little warmer. The next morning I can really tell a difference in energy level.

Talking on the phone with people helps. Once I was feeling all woozy headed, thinking, "well I just need to sit here a little bit." Then my mom called and by the time we hung up, that feeling was gone! So, obviously I was dwelling on it too much.

I think tv sometimes makes it worse. I just like noise around, but I think maybe the tv ends up bringing me down. Unless it's a Star Trek marathon, then you bet I'm having that on. :)

I would be curious to see what everyone else says. Plus, I would be curious if other people feel more icky when they are alone. And not with other people.

We watched Charlie and the Chocolate Factory and I thought to myself, "what do you think you're like those people that stay in bed all day or something???" hahaha And then when his Grandpa Joe got the good news, he just jumped out of bed and danced around. How am I like that, sitting around feeling bad when I don't have to?

luvpiggy
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Post by luvpiggy » Fri Feb 22, 2008 8:33 am

One thing that has helped me lately is being around a couple of people who have cancer. I just see them working so hard and not letting this "real" physical disorder stop them from doing things like driving, etc. I heard this lady's testimony on Sunday, and she has seizures from a brain tumor. She wants so much to be able to drive, and be by herself but she can't because she can't drive and her friends and family want to help her if she has a seizure. She's ran marathons every since her diagnosis. She said she wasn't athletic before this happened, but then it was like God told her "run" so she started running. It really helped me put things into perspective. I don't let it scare me into thinking that's going to happen to me, but I just pray for God to help me realize that I can do these things and not living my life is an insult to these two people I know. It's not that having a child with autism isn't a big deal and didn't cause the trauma, it's just that if I can do these things like stay home by myself and drive because there's nothing physically wrong with me, I should at least try:).

Sparkus
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Post by Sparkus » Fri Feb 22, 2008 9:36 am

I was afraid to stay at home alone, but my way of making a living necessitates that. I think the main problem I have is seeing my wife leave in the morning off to work. Then I'm here all day alone. But what I do is to set up objectives for me to reach and try to stay busy. This way I'm not entertaining the negative anxious thinking that isn't going to help me get things done. The other thing is to think that it is o.k. to stay by myself. Hey I am a great guy to be with so what's the opportunity here? And I find that I am able to do a lot more than I think I can and even enjoy it. Whenever I worry about anxiety and being alone I also remind myself that help is just a phone call away if it would get that bad. But it hasn't yet and I doubt it is ever going to. even if I passed out I could wake up, dust myself off and go back to work- no big deal!

Valle
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Post by Valle » Fri Feb 22, 2008 11:31 am

Ive been telling myself I can do it and I can always call 911.And the police station
is only 3 miles away.Although I would fell pretty silly calling them.Thanks for all the input.

Kris10
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Post by Kris10 » Fri Feb 22, 2008 12:53 pm

I'd like to joing the club too! I've been having a real hard time being home alone with my two kids. I'm a stay at home mom and this was never a problem for me before. Since I've become really depressed it's as if I'm afraid to be alone with them. I spend all day at a friends house just about everyday. I panic if I don't have something planned to do with the kids or if I know none of my friends will be around. But then I don't want to plan too much bc I'm afraid I'll be anxious and won't follow through with it. Tomorrow I don't have much planned. My hubby should be home, but for some reason I don't fedel comfortable being home with him either. I feel like he's always asking how i'm feeling and he's frustrated with my depression and wants to help and just doesn't know what to say or do....and it makes me uncomfortable.

so-unordinary
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Post by so-unordinary » Fri Feb 22, 2008 1:50 pm

Yes I love to be home by myself and it never used to bother me but since I have been struggling with this anxiety I am having trouble getting anything accomplished at home. I find myself thinking for hours of what i need to do get side tracked and never get anything done and it makes me fee more anxious especailly when the day is over and i feel unproductive. This is a cycle I cannot seem to breake. Every morning i awake and think to myself this will change and I can accomplish some small tasks. Is any one eles having this probelm? Is so what is helping you with this?? I need help because I have things I have to get done. I am really struggling.
Any ideas would help. Thanks


We all need eachother.

Valle
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Post by Valle » Mon Feb 25, 2008 4:17 am

I 'm at home today and I am doing just fine.It reaaly helps to know i'm not the only one going through this.I hope all of you are doing good.

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