What went wrong ????
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CrystalDawn2011
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Re: What went wrong ????
Come on people!! Give me praise and encouragement!!
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forever young 06
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wow crystal I am amazed at you. that was such an inspiringy story I love reading stories like this. I was so sad when you had the great break thru and then you never posted back for quite a while. I too have had a set back but I am ashamed that it has lasted for I guess 5 years. I have agrophobia in that I am area bound I am working but it is weird as I can go certain places and I am like you I can'to go these places by myself my husband has to drive me. So we sound alike is your husband patient with you? mine will lose it at times I guess it takes alot of patience on our part . I am so glad to see you are back on track and it makes me want to get out and do things too. I have been like this way to long
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CrystalDawn2011
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Re: What went wrong ????
I understand how hard it is... My husband does get very inpatient with me at times too.
When I started this program I was at rock bottom. I honestly had no other choice, but to get better.
In the past I have been a cutter too. I would cut my wrists to be in control of physical pain, since I wasn't incontrol of my emotional/mental pain. This only left me even more depressed.
When I started the program I would try to make it 5 miles away from home, with my husband driving and I would have to turn back. Sometimes even having him turn on the emergency blinkers with my head out the window in the winter air.
I know that you CAN over come this!! If I can, I know you can!!
It *WILL* be hard, very difficult, but you *have* to expose yourself to "the beast" and work your way through the anxiety feelings and panic. Use the skills from session 2. Hang up inspirational quotes and saying to yourself all around your home. You have to believe that you really are capable, strong and can beat this! You have to know this in your heart. Go slowly, have your husband drive you a small way away from your safe zone where you would get anxious. Take the session 2 card with you. Take slow deep breaths, start the self talk and beat this beast! The more you expose yourself and work with your skills the better you will get. The better you get at your skills, the less and less you will fear the panic, and the less you fear the panic the less panic you will have.
Don't give up, get out there and show these "feelings" that you are in control now and will no longer allow it to have control of your happiness and life. Remember in the end, NOTHING bad will really happen. You will NOT die or go crazy. It is uncomfortable, but many things in life are uncomfortable and we don't run from those things! A bug bite is uncomfortable, a cold, a paper cut! Look at this as something that is only "uncomfortable" as that is honestly what it is. It is OK to be uncomfortable for a little while. You will get through it, it will go away, and you will start getting better.
I know you can do it!
Take some deep breaths, get your session 2 card ready, do your relaxation disc as many times as you can, write yourself a loving, compassionate letter, tell yourself you are capable, strong and mean it! and get out and put yourself in a situation and stay there! Don't run from the beast anymore! Show these "feelings" who are boss! Look at them as excitment feelings.
I know you can do it, Even a small goal that is success is a HUGE SUCCESS! Start somewhere! You CAN!
I believe in you, you believe in you!
I wish you the very best of luck, Update me!!!
(((hugs)))
When I started this program I was at rock bottom. I honestly had no other choice, but to get better.
In the past I have been a cutter too. I would cut my wrists to be in control of physical pain, since I wasn't incontrol of my emotional/mental pain. This only left me even more depressed.
When I started the program I would try to make it 5 miles away from home, with my husband driving and I would have to turn back. Sometimes even having him turn on the emergency blinkers with my head out the window in the winter air.
I know that you CAN over come this!! If I can, I know you can!!
It *WILL* be hard, very difficult, but you *have* to expose yourself to "the beast" and work your way through the anxiety feelings and panic. Use the skills from session 2. Hang up inspirational quotes and saying to yourself all around your home. You have to believe that you really are capable, strong and can beat this! You have to know this in your heart. Go slowly, have your husband drive you a small way away from your safe zone where you would get anxious. Take the session 2 card with you. Take slow deep breaths, start the self talk and beat this beast! The more you expose yourself and work with your skills the better you will get. The better you get at your skills, the less and less you will fear the panic, and the less you fear the panic the less panic you will have.
Don't give up, get out there and show these "feelings" that you are in control now and will no longer allow it to have control of your happiness and life. Remember in the end, NOTHING bad will really happen. You will NOT die or go crazy. It is uncomfortable, but many things in life are uncomfortable and we don't run from those things! A bug bite is uncomfortable, a cold, a paper cut! Look at this as something that is only "uncomfortable" as that is honestly what it is. It is OK to be uncomfortable for a little while. You will get through it, it will go away, and you will start getting better.
I know you can do it!
Take some deep breaths, get your session 2 card ready, do your relaxation disc as many times as you can, write yourself a loving, compassionate letter, tell yourself you are capable, strong and mean it! and get out and put yourself in a situation and stay there! Don't run from the beast anymore! Show these "feelings" who are boss! Look at them as excitment feelings.
I know you can do it, Even a small goal that is success is a HUGE SUCCESS! Start somewhere! You CAN!
I believe in you, you believe in you!
I wish you the very best of luck, Update me!!!
(((hugs)))
Re: What went wrong ????
Lauren - you are doing great - you can see that from the first few lines of your posting. We all have setbacks, its just staying the course and seeing that you are having more success than not. Review the first weeks, especially what you know worked for you. Do your relaxation tape - it has helped me so much.
I understand the cold that you do to yourself, it blocks out the feeling. I used to stand in front of the open door when it was freezing outside. Then i started walking outside and that helped alot. I got my exercise and fresh air.
Hang in there - you are not alone - we will all help you through the tough spots.
cj
I understand the cold that you do to yourself, it blocks out the feeling. I used to stand in front of the open door when it was freezing outside. Then i started walking outside and that helped alot. I got my exercise and fresh air.
Hang in there - you are not alone - we will all help you through the tough spots.
cj