life is good - and it's a long post!

karmaberry1 · Post by **karmaberry1** » Thu Dec 10, 2009 1:46 pm

i'm hanging on to a positive attitude like a pit bull LOLOL

Stagerlee · Post by **Stagerlee** » Fri Dec 11, 2009 3:16 am

These posts are great! I am now wondering if being late a few minutes isnt the way to go. I also from now on will be referring to constantly negative people as thems instead of the bad names I ususally use. Keep it up,,Bruce

karmaberry1 · Post by **karmaberry1** » Fri Dec 11, 2009 11:05 am

yes - they who must be referred to as "them". it's so perfect and so easy. i'm learning to not only walk away - but to NOT look back LOL x forever

manofmusic · Post by **manofmusic** » Fri Dec 11, 2009 12:56 pm

I have a few "thems" at work too. I will use that term too ! LOL Actually, "they" are getting better ! I think that they realize that their stupidity isn't really that funny. It was a good morning and a good afternoon. At noon though, I had to go to a funeral. A 17 year old daughter of a man that works with me was hit by a car and killed on Monday. I'll tell you something, I NEVER want to go to a funeral of a teenager (or younger) again. It was really upsetting and it was the first time in over a year that I had a panic attack that I couldn't control. Once we all got back to work, I was able to control it. I'm calm now, but I can't get today out of my head. Work was good though. I work for half a day tomorrow (4 hours). That's ok though. It's extra $$$$$. (Much needed for the holiday season !)

That was my day in a nutshell. It was the best of times.......it was the worst of times.

......and you ??????

karmaberry1 · Post by **karmaberry1** » Fri Dec 11, 2009 2:52 pm

i am so very sorry for your friend's loss. it is unimaginable what that family is enduring. i'm sure it broke your heart into a million pieces. grief is so hard to watch. there are when words mean nothing. yet your action of just being there will always be a remembered tribute to your friend's child. i truly believe that action will always speak louder than words ever could.

i bet you weren't the only person there who experienced extreme discomfort, high anxiety, depression and possibly a panic attack. truth be told, i'm sure so many people suffered on different levels. i think your panic attack was normal and justified.

the last time i felt a panic attack like that coming on was - you guessed it - going to a funeral home about 2 months ago. i was fine at the church and cemetery the next day. so yes, i more than understand your feelings.

today was a good day - practically a great day! the day began - as always - with me running just a bit late. but what did i encounter when i walked in the building? SANTA!!!! yes santa was there so we could have pictures made with him. he came all the way from the north pole just to see us - how cool is that!?!?! whoever invited santa flat out rocks LOL

with so many people taking vacation time, i'm keeping up with my boss and her schedule so i laughed a lot with her today - on the phone and through emails. she knows i'm a caregiver and sometimes people just need someone to care and just be there. that would be me. one of the things i do the best is see the absurdity in so many situations and use it to my advantage when dealing with others. i'm known for shooting from the hip. i state my truth about what's going on and most of the time while it may catch people off guard - it does make them laugh.

things 1 and 2 aka "them" aka gloom and doom did - as always - their level best to throw a damper on people's spirits. i'm finding it easier and easier to look past and through "them". what can i say - one of their most endearing qualities is to back bite each other. ah sweet friendship LOL

so today was filled with laughter and smiles. i had lunch with 2 good friends. i "feel" i did a good job handling what i was supposed to do with bits and pieces of this and that.

tonight i am happy and content with a week where there was no trauma, no drama.

we did it. we rule!!!!!!!!!

Stagerlee · Post by **Stagerlee** » Sat Dec 12, 2009 1:43 am

Well again I agree with Karm. Just being there helps far more than you will ever know. I had to bury a son a couple years ago and the place was full of friends. There were a few who tried using words but they meant little at that time. Just being there helped me. I got to say this new tag for the bad people rocks. I bel;ieve this will catch on worldwide because every where you turn there are one of "them" lurking about. By identifying them in such a humorous way not only makes me laugh but it disarms them before they can stick one knife,,lol. With such a good week behind it looks like it may just snowball into another good week ahead, I am thinking so. Have a great weekend,,Bruce

manofmusic · Post by **manofmusic** » Sat Dec 12, 2009 6:16 am

I never know what to say at a funeral anyway except I'm sorry. You are right, Bruce. Just being there is what's important (panic attack and all LOL). I'm sorry to hear about your son though ! I can only imagine that it's something that you never really "get over".

As for "them", no one else knows what we're talking about ! LOL It's a generic term that is not insulting to "them" at all.......but I sure feel good after using it !

Have a great weekend Bruce !

manofmusic · Post by **manofmusic** » Sat Dec 12, 2009 6:36 am

Hey Karma !

Rule We Do !!!!!!!!!

I think that "them" at your place of employment moonlight where I work ! LOL They sound like the same people ! When one leaves the room, they'll say something negative about the other. It's actually quite funny sometimes.

It started off where I didn't want any part of the stupidity, so I'd ignore it. As the years went on, they started to talk negative towards me .......things like " well, your not doing that right" or "who the f*** told you to do it like that ?" They would go at it together. Anyway, it took another year or so to realize that they aren't my boss and the work conversations between my boss and I are none of their business. As time went on, their stupidity towards me died down. They probably finally figured out that they aren't going to break me, so they stopped. They still talk like a couple of 5 year olds to each other, but when they do, I turn up the radio in my head ! LOL

Hope all goes well for you this weekend. Now go get your Christmas shopping started !!!! LOL (That's what I'm doing this weekend).

karmaberry1 · Post by **karmaberry1** » Sat Dec 12, 2009 3:09 pm

you have described my work environment regarding "them". my sister likened me several years ago to having battered wife syndrome re "them". and despite being thwarted at so many turns, nothing stops them. if negative is an art form - they've taken it to an all time high. on the positive side - LOL - they have become well known for being who and what they are. that in and of itself would stop me - but they gotta be them LOL x forever

i'm attempting to do too many things at the same time. i'm decorating the christmas tree, fixing the mantel, and kinda sorta cleaning bits and pieces of this and that as i go - while watching a movie so dumb, so stupid, that i scared one of my dogs laughing so hard. what movie, you ask? blades of glory. there was just something so funny about their first on ice dance routine - i cried. what can i say - stupid makes me laugh too hard. i always swear, avow and promise myself i can't stand will ferrell - yet i'm still crying i'm laughing so hard. i guess i live for idiocy?

this morning i broke down and turned on the heat - it was 48 degrees in the house. i left it on until i got a good fire started - in the fireplace - not the house LOL i knew i'd warm up running up and down the attic stairs. gutting out the cold is a game with me. i don't know why LOL

it has rained and rained and yes rained some more. it's warmer tonight that it was this morning and afternoon. it's not going to sleet or snow. i'm glad. it's THE south and nobody - and i mean nobody - here can drive in the snow. we have enough trouble on a dry sunny day LOL

i hope your sunday is filled with fun.

manofmusic · Post by **manofmusic** » Mon Dec 14, 2009 11:47 am

I have not seen Blades of Glory. Now I'm going to have to go rent it ! I'm not a fan of Will either. Sounds like a funny movie though.

I needed the Christmas spirit a few weeks ago, so that's when the decorations went up here. Another reason is because it was still relatively "warm" LOL

Congratualtions on finally turning up the heat ! It was 48 degrees ?????? I think it was 48 degrees here a couple of months ago LOL Temperature wise, it's actually nice here (41 degrees). The cold spell is over for now !

I'm picturing the Alabama people driving in snow ! LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL LOLOLOLOL
LOLOLOL LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL

This weekend, I went out to visit family and friends. It was just what I needed. It took my mind off of Monday.

Work was interesting today. I made a mistake with something at work. One of the guys freaked out. I just shrugged and said "stuff happens !"
Not much I can do about it now. It was an easy fix, but before I would've freaked out too. Not today though. I calmly walked away and all was forgotten. It's not that I'm taking a lazy approach, it's just that I need to stay calm in order to do the rest of my work for the day. I'm really noticing now how uptight people around there can get. I'm glad I'm learning how to seperate all of that stuff.

I actually walked in my house with a sense of calmness ! It felt odd ! LOL

Hope tomorrow is just as good !