FEAR OF DYING HOW TO STOP?
CAN ANYONE HELP ME WITH THIS ONE. I HAVE A VERY BIG FEAR OF DYING. AND I DON'T KNOW WHY. WHEN MY HEART STARTS SKIPPING BEAT'S AND I LIKE I CAN'T BREATH. I ALSO LET MY MOTHER GET TO ME AGAIN. I HAVE TOLD HER NOT TO CALL ME, IF SHE IS JUST GOING TO TALK ABOUT NEG. THINGS, SO WHY IS SHE STILL DOING IT TO ME, DOES SHE WANT ME TO GO CRAZY OR END MY LIFE, THAT IS WHAT I FEEL LIKE DOING AT THIS POINT. I HAVE NO FAMILY, I FEEL LIKE I HAVE NO MOTHER MY FATHER IS IN HEAVEN AND MY SISTERS DON'T TALK TO ME. I WAS A DADDY'S GIRL. IT WAS SO MUCH EASIER WHEN MY FATHER WAS HERE TO TALK TO. I FEEL LIKE MY HEART IS BROKEN INTO PEICES AND I HAVE NO REASON TO LIVE ANY LONGER. I AM TIRED OF LETTING HER GET TO ME AND I AM TIRED OF FEELING THIS WAY. I AM TIRED OF FIGHTING THESE FEELING I HAVE OF MYSELF AND MY FAMILY. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO, I AM TRING THIS PROGRAM, MY LAST CHANCE OF HAPPYNESS. WHY AM I SO WEAK, AFRAID, AND LET PEOPLE RUN OVER ME, I THOUGH I WAS A STRONG PERSON, NOT ANYMORE. I THINK IF ENDING MY LIFE EVERYDAY, AND HOW I COULD DO IT. I DON'T WANT TO BUT I AM SICK IF LIVING LIKE THIS, THIS IS NO LIFE SO WHY BE HERE AT ALL. I AM JUST FEELING DOWN. I WAS SO EXCITED ABOUT GOING THROUGH THIS PROGRAM, BUT MY FAMILY COULD CARE LESS ABOUT HOW I FEEL. I NEED WORDS OF CONFORT AND SUPPORT WHERE DO I GO FROM HERE?
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MK -
If you're having constant thoughts of suicide and have a plan for it, you need to go to the ER immediately.
I know how difficult this is to deal with and how depressing and draining the experience is. But it's not worth ending your life over. It's a treatable condition, but you first need to help yourself stay alive.
Please write back to let us know you're still here.
If you're having constant thoughts of suicide and have a plan for it, you need to go to the ER immediately.
I know how difficult this is to deal with and how depressing and draining the experience is. But it's not worth ending your life over. It's a treatable condition, but you first need to help yourself stay alive.
Please write back to let us know you're still here.
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Dear MKDUCOTE,
First, right now it may seem as though life is not worth living, but ending it is a permanent solution to a temporary problem! Nothing lasts forever and I can tell you from experience, if you do this program you will get better. I haven't been on the posts for a while but am glad I checked. I completed the program last December I think and it changed my life! I have struggled with paqnic disorder off and on for 20 years. Last year I really crashed and I too felt like if I had to live with the panic and depression any longer, I would rather not be here. But with patience, doing the program, talking with others who understood, and being on a low dose of anti-anxiety meds, I came through it. I am a totally different person now than I was last year this time. I am stronger, more confident, less afraid, and feel good about life most of the time. Sometimes things will happen and I feel the old habits start to kick in but now I have better coping skills and apply them! DO NOT GIVE UP! Your mom doesn't sound like a source of support for you and if you have tried to persuade her to stop with the negativity and she doesn't, you may have to separate yourself from her for a while. Your family may not understand what you are going through but people on this forum do and they will help you. We cannot rely on others to always understand and help us in the way we think they should, but those who know how you feel can be supportive and are willing to, so you are not alone. I don't know your spiritual felings but I will pray for you and ask God to touch your soul in only ways He can and help bring you out of this. Do the program. God gives us tools and gifts and it is up to us to accept them. This program was a divine gift for me! It is hard and we all want a miraculous cure, but perseverance will pay off. Please seek professional help if continue thiking about ending your life. Call a mobile crisis centerin your area or a "warm line" and they wil guide you to the right place and if necessary go to the emmergency room. You are too valuable to give up! You may not be everything to everybody, but to someone you are the world! Don't forget this. You are worth it!!
First, right now it may seem as though life is not worth living, but ending it is a permanent solution to a temporary problem! Nothing lasts forever and I can tell you from experience, if you do this program you will get better. I haven't been on the posts for a while but am glad I checked. I completed the program last December I think and it changed my life! I have struggled with paqnic disorder off and on for 20 years. Last year I really crashed and I too felt like if I had to live with the panic and depression any longer, I would rather not be here. But with patience, doing the program, talking with others who understood, and being on a low dose of anti-anxiety meds, I came through it. I am a totally different person now than I was last year this time. I am stronger, more confident, less afraid, and feel good about life most of the time. Sometimes things will happen and I feel the old habits start to kick in but now I have better coping skills and apply them! DO NOT GIVE UP! Your mom doesn't sound like a source of support for you and if you have tried to persuade her to stop with the negativity and she doesn't, you may have to separate yourself from her for a while. Your family may not understand what you are going through but people on this forum do and they will help you. We cannot rely on others to always understand and help us in the way we think they should, but those who know how you feel can be supportive and are willing to, so you are not alone. I don't know your spiritual felings but I will pray for you and ask God to touch your soul in only ways He can and help bring you out of this. Do the program. God gives us tools and gifts and it is up to us to accept them. This program was a divine gift for me! It is hard and we all want a miraculous cure, but perseverance will pay off. Please seek professional help if continue thiking about ending your life. Call a mobile crisis centerin your area or a "warm line" and they wil guide you to the right place and if necessary go to the emmergency room. You are too valuable to give up! You may not be everything to everybody, but to someone you are the world! Don't forget this. You are worth it!!
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MK,
All I can tell you is...God of this universe, the Creator of all, the massive all knowing God...loves you deeply and personally. It's true. I have been where you are. I have been where you are. I have been where you are. Did you hear me? I have been where you are. You are worth so much to God and it is not His plan to have you end your life, quite the contrary. he wants peace and healing for you but YOU have to want it to. i know you say you do but, my friend, you are in a spiral of negativity and you are pointing and blaming others. Take charge of your life and ley God free you. Find a quality Christian counselor and go talk to them. Seek out a Bible teaching church and begin to get involved with God's local church. Cry out to Jesus and tell Him how much you need Him and believe that he is the Savior of the world. You have the authority to run your life, but if you lae Christ lead you that burden will be lessened and you will begin to breath again.
I am praying for you right now and i will continue to do so. I love you as a person and more importantly, God loves you deeply and personally...it's true. Don't let anyone tell you differently. Remember, I have been where you are. I am now recovering anxiety sufferer and have had great victory in God. My life is awesome and God gets all the glory for that.
Please hang tough and be strong. My email address is wcymca@frontiernet.net if you need to talk more.
Can't Be Beat!
All I can tell you is...God of this universe, the Creator of all, the massive all knowing God...loves you deeply and personally. It's true. I have been where you are. I have been where you are. I have been where you are. Did you hear me? I have been where you are. You are worth so much to God and it is not His plan to have you end your life, quite the contrary. he wants peace and healing for you but YOU have to want it to. i know you say you do but, my friend, you are in a spiral of negativity and you are pointing and blaming others. Take charge of your life and ley God free you. Find a quality Christian counselor and go talk to them. Seek out a Bible teaching church and begin to get involved with God's local church. Cry out to Jesus and tell Him how much you need Him and believe that he is the Savior of the world. You have the authority to run your life, but if you lae Christ lead you that burden will be lessened and you will begin to breath again.
I am praying for you right now and i will continue to do so. I love you as a person and more importantly, God loves you deeply and personally...it's true. Don't let anyone tell you differently. Remember, I have been where you are. I am now recovering anxiety sufferer and have had great victory in God. My life is awesome and God gets all the glory for that.
Please hang tough and be strong. My email address is wcymca@frontiernet.net if you need to talk more.
Can't Be Beat!
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MK,
Please read and re-read all the wonderful and kind responses you have been given. Believe me, everyone has felt the way you are feeling right now. I can remember days when I couldn't walk out of my house. I would feel so shaky and terrified of everything and everyone. I wanted to curl up in a ball in the corner of the living room and not move from there. FAST FORWARD.....I purchased the the program Program and within a few weeks, my world started to turn around. I had finally found hope. Also, I saw a therapist and took antidepressants for the anxiety/panic and depression. When you feel as low as you do right now, you should seek out a good therapist. You may need meds, even temporarily to lift you and help you cope and do the program. The doctors will work with you to find one that makes you feel better. YOU CAN DO THIS! You are much stronger then you think right now. As far as your mother goes, do not answer her calls for now. Take your power back. It is within you to conquer this. The only person who can make you feel worthless and hopeless is YOU. The only person who can make you feel in control and strong is YOU. I chose the latter, and you can too. Feel your goodness with every fiber of your being. Once you begin to give your all to the program, step by step your world will open up. Positive, good people will come into your life because you will attract them. REMEMBER, the way you feel now is because of your negative thoughts. It may seem hard to believe, but it is to true. Your thoughts shape every moment of every day. You just need to retrain them. I suffered as you do for 35 years on and off. Yes, at times it was hell for me. I couldn't see a way out because I had surrendered to this disorder. Finally, I picked myself up and started living again. Talk to your mountain. Through the grace of God it will move out of your way. Jesus died on that cross so you could live a life of happiness and prosperity. This is how much he so loved you. Reach your hands out to Him and he will hold them tightly. He will walk you through this every step of the way. I can promise you that. You just need to ask Him. Just because you feel weak does not mean you are weak. It's just a feeling and feelings can change with your thoughts. The state you are in is only temporary. All I ask of you right now is to find someone, a therapist, or member of the clergy to talk to. We all need assistance at times in our lives, and this is one of them. I am believing that in a short time you will be writing to us and telling us of your victories, one small step at a time. Dare to believe that you are special, loved and capable. If God is for you, who dare be against you???
I will pray for you as you begin to take your life back. God has great things in store for you.
You are in my thoughts and prayers! You are more then a conquerer!!!!!!!!
Please read and re-read all the wonderful and kind responses you have been given. Believe me, everyone has felt the way you are feeling right now. I can remember days when I couldn't walk out of my house. I would feel so shaky and terrified of everything and everyone. I wanted to curl up in a ball in the corner of the living room and not move from there. FAST FORWARD.....I purchased the the program Program and within a few weeks, my world started to turn around. I had finally found hope. Also, I saw a therapist and took antidepressants for the anxiety/panic and depression. When you feel as low as you do right now, you should seek out a good therapist. You may need meds, even temporarily to lift you and help you cope and do the program. The doctors will work with you to find one that makes you feel better. YOU CAN DO THIS! You are much stronger then you think right now. As far as your mother goes, do not answer her calls for now. Take your power back. It is within you to conquer this. The only person who can make you feel worthless and hopeless is YOU. The only person who can make you feel in control and strong is YOU. I chose the latter, and you can too. Feel your goodness with every fiber of your being. Once you begin to give your all to the program, step by step your world will open up. Positive, good people will come into your life because you will attract them. REMEMBER, the way you feel now is because of your negative thoughts. It may seem hard to believe, but it is to true. Your thoughts shape every moment of every day. You just need to retrain them. I suffered as you do for 35 years on and off. Yes, at times it was hell for me. I couldn't see a way out because I had surrendered to this disorder. Finally, I picked myself up and started living again. Talk to your mountain. Through the grace of God it will move out of your way. Jesus died on that cross so you could live a life of happiness and prosperity. This is how much he so loved you. Reach your hands out to Him and he will hold them tightly. He will walk you through this every step of the way. I can promise you that. You just need to ask Him. Just because you feel weak does not mean you are weak. It's just a feeling and feelings can change with your thoughts. The state you are in is only temporary. All I ask of you right now is to find someone, a therapist, or member of the clergy to talk to. We all need assistance at times in our lives, and this is one of them. I am believing that in a short time you will be writing to us and telling us of your victories, one small step at a time. Dare to believe that you are special, loved and capable. If God is for you, who dare be against you???
I will pray for you as you begin to take your life back. God has great things in store for you.
You are in my thoughts and prayers! You are more then a conquerer!!!!!!!!
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HI TO ALL OF YOU, THANK YOU FOR BEING HERE FOR ME. I HAVE DECIDED TO LISTEN TO YOU.
I AM NOT GOING TO TALK TO MY MOM FOR A WHILE, IT BRINGS ME SO FAR DOWN I JUST CAN'T LET HER DO THIS TO ME ANY LONGER. I AM WORKING ON THE BOOK AND ALSO DOING THE SELF TALK NOW. I HAVE ALSO PRAYED TO GOD FOR HELP. I JUST WANT TO FEEL BETTER, BUT I NEED TO GET AWAY FROM WHAT IS BRING ME DOWN, (MY MOM) FOR STARTERS. I LOVE HER AND MISS HER BUT SHE IS ALWAYS ON MY CASE, AND TALKING DOWN ABOUT EVERYTHING TO ME. SO IT IS BEST TO STAY AWAY FROM HER FOR A LONG WHILE.
I WILL PRAY FOR HER, AND ALL OF YOU ALSO. THANK YOU FOR BEING HERE FOR ME. GOD BLESS YOU ALL!!
I AM NOT GOING TO TALK TO MY MOM FOR A WHILE, IT BRINGS ME SO FAR DOWN I JUST CAN'T LET HER DO THIS TO ME ANY LONGER. I AM WORKING ON THE BOOK AND ALSO DOING THE SELF TALK NOW. I HAVE ALSO PRAYED TO GOD FOR HELP. I JUST WANT TO FEEL BETTER, BUT I NEED TO GET AWAY FROM WHAT IS BRING ME DOWN, (MY MOM) FOR STARTERS. I LOVE HER AND MISS HER BUT SHE IS ALWAYS ON MY CASE, AND TALKING DOWN ABOUT EVERYTHING TO ME. SO IT IS BEST TO STAY AWAY FROM HER FOR A LONG WHILE.
I WILL PRAY FOR HER, AND ALL OF YOU ALSO. THANK YOU FOR BEING HERE FOR ME. GOD BLESS YOU ALL!!
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Hi MK,
Wow, you sound so much more hopeful today! Keep on doing the program and pay attention to your thoughts and you will see your victory. You may still have rough days, we all do, but you will learn to get through them and come out on the other side with peace. You have made a great decision to pray for your Mom. Prayer works miracles, and I think that as you get better, you will find a way to deal with her. She has her own reasons for what she may say to you. You can't change her but you will learn to change your reaction to her words. I am sure she loves you very much, but she doesn't know any other way of expressing herself. Have patience and pray knowing that God is answering your prayers.
Please let us know how you are doing, especially if you are having a tough day. A tough day doesn't mean a tough tomorrow. Stay in your moment and be thankful and hopeful always!! There are always some mountains to climb, but the happiness on the other side of them is well worth the wait!
May love and peace follow you on your journey.
Wow, you sound so much more hopeful today! Keep on doing the program and pay attention to your thoughts and you will see your victory. You may still have rough days, we all do, but you will learn to get through them and come out on the other side with peace. You have made a great decision to pray for your Mom. Prayer works miracles, and I think that as you get better, you will find a way to deal with her. She has her own reasons for what she may say to you. You can't change her but you will learn to change your reaction to her words. I am sure she loves you very much, but she doesn't know any other way of expressing herself. Have patience and pray knowing that God is answering your prayers.
Please let us know how you are doing, especially if you are having a tough day. A tough day doesn't mean a tough tomorrow. Stay in your moment and be thankful and hopeful always!! There are always some mountains to climb, but the happiness on the other side of them is well worth the wait!
May love and peace follow you on your journey.