relationships

Slim_Pickins · Post by **Slim_Pickins** » Sat Dec 27, 2008 8:35 am

Hi I'm new here.
How do I tell my girlfriend I have this problem, We are great together, but when we are apart I start having my problems... Im sure someone here Knows what I mean.

Another wierd thing is... I think she has some of the same problems.. just not as bad as me! but I'm Holding off on tell her that, Probably would be a good Idea. I'm so glad to know I'm not alone. Thank God for the Radio When You Cant Sleep!

deedee00 · Post by **deedee00** » Sat Dec 27, 2008 9:31 am

I think it depends on your relationship and how you think she'll handle it, although you'll really never know until you tell her.

I told my boyfriend right away because I didn't want continue in the relationship wondering. I'm just like that, but you have to make that choice. Well, he had a hard time with it at first, he even got mad at me for feeling like I did. I couldn't handle the added stress so I told him that I couldn't handle the relationship. He quickly changed. He said he didn't want to lose me. Everything's fine. It's been over 5 years now and he hasn't bugged me about it at all. In fact, he's been extremely helpful. So I guess you have to chance it and see what happens.

epa · Post by **epa** » Sat Dec 27, 2008 9:48 am

Slim

Be honest with her. This is something you can overcome. I think that just telling her may alleviate some of the anxiety.

Slim_Pickins · Post by **Slim_Pickins** » Sat Dec 27, 2008 10:39 am

Well to Add to My Mass of Confusion... I cant tell her yet because I made her mad at me. On Christmas!!! of all the times, it had to be then. I kinda understand why I did it now, being awake for 36 hours and working for 16 of those hours on the coldest day of the year-outside of course. Negative what if thoughts. Were not helping me in any way! I asked her where she stood in our relationship- Bad Idea.. She replied with, WHO has been giving you these IDEAS!! That was the last thing I've heard from her. Things are more complicated the deeper I dig. IF you are reading this keep in mind I scored a 97 on that little test here. Is that Bad? LOL I like to laugh about the severity of things. keeps me sane.. to a point.

Lima · Post by **Lima** » Sat Dec 27, 2008 11:15 am

This stuff (depression/anxiety/stress) is very damaging. I can tell you I quit a very good paying job because I could not handle my self-induced anxiety and all and blamed others; and then, missed getting hired in another very good paying job (six figures) because of anger I was unable to control going through a pressure type panel interview. The sooner you can handle your situation, the better. Thanks to my wife who was watching TV (I usually don't), she told me about this program. That was 2 months after I was destroying my career. I learned a great deal since going through the 9th lesson in Lucinda's program. So, find a way to talk to your girlfriend and your mutual supports within this community would enhance your quality of life. Take my words for it.

deedee00 · Post by **deedee00** » Sat Dec 27, 2008 11:17 am

Slim, you've always been sane. It's just anxiety, it's emotional. Maybe explaining this will help her to see why you have these ideas. Take your time and don't worry too much about it, things usually work themselves out better when we let go of the tight grip on them (the situation, that is).

Take care.

Slim_Pickins · Post by **Slim_Pickins** » Sat Dec 27, 2008 3:07 pm

I'd like to Thank Everyone for replying. All the stories and advice I've read on this site is helping me UNDERSTAND!!! What has been going on for soooo Long! It is a Help of titanic proportions!! Just reading on this site makes my pusle pick up and palms sweat. I've really started to notice my symtomps and Why its Happening! Thank you to All