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by Guest » Mon Mar 24, 2008 7:02 pm
I would like to weigh in on this one. I have struggled with sexual lust since puberty. I am now 58 and still struggling. I can't speak for every male, but I can speak for myself and there are a ton of guys just like me, some who I have met with, others I have read about.
Porn for us is addictive and damaging to our girlfriends or spouses. When you marry, you exchange promises, promises to be faithful and to love and cherish your mate. Porn has a very negative impact on such promises. It sturs up passions in us guys which are totally inappropriate in regards to and respect of our spouse. It encourages and lights passions which tempt us to be unfaithful, and thereby unloving to our spouses. In short, it encourages us to destroy our marriage by seeking erotic encounters outside of the marriage. Thoughts create our behavior. Lustful thoughts towards a woman or women other than our spouse originated from watching porn creates the desire for sexual activity with women other than our spouse. Therefore, porn for me and many other males is self destructive behaivor. It doesn't get any simpler than that.
I played basketball competitively in high school. I love the game and passed this love on to my son. But, I have no problem not watching or participating in basketball when other priorities are more important. It is a positive in my life and always has been. When I couldn't function or work, I could still go outside and shoot baskets. It was a lifeline for me in my darkest days of depression. Porn is a totally different thing. It's kind of like the old Lay's potato chip commercial that says, "Bet you can't eat just one." You start looking at porn and you can't draw yourself away from it at times. It's highly addictive and destructive for a lot of guys and it has been the cause of some marriages to breakup.
Some guys will say it's natural, normal to watch porn. I don't get their reasoning. If I have a girlfriend or wife, do I want her looking at it? No way. She's not thinking about me when she's looking at some other guy naked. She's being emotionally and sexually attracted to another person besides me. Such behavior is outside the boundaries of the relationship we share. If you want variety, then don't get married, that's not what marriage and comittment is about.
Post-up? Alley-ooop? Save me from March Madness! LOL