I hoped there would be some others that have experienced changes in how they feel they should be treated. I have moved on -still listen to different tapes at times. Working at a job I am loving -Director at a hospital.
I am wanting to break it off with my so fiance of four and a half years. I helped him with his older kids who robbed me of money , medication and cameras, and peace of mind. I have tried to make a home for us while he contributes 500.00 a month and buys himself boats, snowmobiles(which he says are for "us") gets mad that the house is not clean but will work a 6 hour day when I work a 12 hour one. Now he is mad because my job has not allowed me to come see him while he is working out of town. He is mad because I wont take in his 19 year old pregnant daughter who is with a 24 year old man that already has 2 kids he wont pay child support for and has no job. He was mad when I got a call from his daughter at 9 at night wanting to stop at the house with 2 people at 230 in the morning when I had a 12 hour shift the next day(they only had 20 miles to go).and wouldn't let them drop off their stuff and stay the night.(None of them have jobs.)
Intellectually I see all the bad stuff so why cant I let go? I think I kept thinking things would get better because we have had some great times together. Plus I guess I am afraid of the grief I will feel.I know that I am stronger,worth being treated well. I just cant seem to get the relationship thing right. I was married 1st time for 15 months. Second for 13 years. Part of me sees that I am very different know and things could be really good with the right person. But I guess I am scared not really of being alone but as I said of the grief and it getting out of control. we will have to separate all of our stuff, their will be lots of feelings.
Any thoughts or Ideas for me? Thanks for listening-It has been along time since I posted anything!
changing boundries and relationships.
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Missy -
It sounds like you already know what to do. You certainly don't want to live with someone that manipulates and takes advantage of you. If you don't think it's something that can really be corrected and you don't want to live with it, then it's time to let go. But if you think that you can make things work out, and really care for this person, then by all means try to correct the problems. You have all the information, it's time to make a decision.
Best of luck,
Jamie
It sounds like you already know what to do. You certainly don't want to live with someone that manipulates and takes advantage of you. If you don't think it's something that can really be corrected and you don't want to live with it, then it's time to let go. But if you think that you can make things work out, and really care for this person, then by all means try to correct the problems. You have all the information, it's time to make a decision.
Best of luck,
Jamie