Are questions Important? Yes they are.

NinjaFrodo · Post by **NinjaFrodo** » Wed Jan 14, 2009 11:15 am

So the program teaches us that our thoughts create our feelings and our feelings determine our perception on life so on a theoretical level would changing our thoughts change our perception? How do we change our thoughts?

I've done a few years looking into self help programs, ideas and I wanted to share with you the knowledge I've gained. This I found to be very helpful and I hope it helps you guys out there too. A very good way to change the way we think is through questions. I believe if we ask ourselves questions no matter how big they are, we eventually get the answer to it.

For starters ask yourself this...What positive things do you get out of procastinating doing chores? What things do you get from doing them? What will you feel like afterwards?

You can do this with everything and you can combine this with other theories like the pain-pleasure theory (We motivate ourselves to avoid pain and to get pleasure). For example...What will you lose if you stay stuck? What will you gain? How will it affect your life 2,3,5 years into the future? What will your life be if you made 1 move towards overcoming anxiety? What would your life be if you had gotten over anxiety? What good qualities do you have? What would you achieve if anxiety didn't stand in your way?

What ideas of questions do you guys have that might help others?

Mike

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Jan 14, 2009 3:53 pm

Hey Mike. Good post! Sounds like you've been listening to Anthony (Tony) Robbins. His programs have some of the same concepts. I like your posts.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Jan 15, 2009 1:48 pm

deedee00

Yep good call. It was definately Tony Robbins. I figured someone was going to call that out. Where it comes from however isn't so important. I just want to share with everybody the knowledge I get from life

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I'm glad you enjoy the posts.

Mike

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Fri Jan 16, 2009 4:36 am

It sounds similar to our sessions on secondary gains. What am I getting out of having this anxiety and what is the payoff? What is the price I am paying for this? Is the price I am paying for this secondary gain or payoff worth it? Questions are good to ask, and sometimes the very first thing that comes to mind can be the most authentic-before we have time to filter it. I've really shocked myself with some of my answers!

ClearSky · Post by **ClearSky** » Fri Jan 16, 2009 1:18 pm

Mary

Right you are. I thought that too. I find this way resonates more with myself...I mean you can ask yourself what are you getting out of it and not have to worry about if it is good or bad. You can figure out which is which later. I agree, yes sometimes the first thing is the best answer and I believe we have all the answers inside us. It is just that with the filtering and not believing in yourself that makes people say...What am I suppose to do? I don't know what to do. Actually one of my instructors who did business psychology, when he deals with his clients and they talk about the subject and say I don't know what to do...He will say, well if you knew the answer then what would you do and without realizing it they will spit the answer out and then realize that they knew all along.

Mike