Still Hiding program. Should I keep it? Think hubby needs it too but scared to share

Lynskie · Post by **Lynskie** » Wed Jul 23, 2008 7:31 am

Hi everyone. This is my first post. I'm new to the program. I'm in week two and still wondering if I should keep it. (want to)But,I worry about the $cost, finding the time to do it & do it right, and getting found out. I'm still hiding it from my husband. Embarassed I guess. But the more I get into it, the more I think he needs it too. Any advice?

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Jul 23, 2008 7:45 am

Yes. Keep the program and do it. Your husband will understand if you tell him whats going on in your life. Tell him you need help from this program - and help from him. I am on session four and noticing a change already. Stay on it.

Carolyn Dickman · Post by **Carolyn Dickman** » Wed Jul 23, 2008 7:55 am

This program is worth keeping I was concerned about the cost so I did the installment plan. I have learned a lot from this program, and hopefully you will too! Good luck!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Jul 23, 2008 8:00 am

As far as hiding the program, I think honesty is the best policy. I'm not sure what your situation is at home, but I've found that it's usually better to be up front and honest with things even though that may not always make people happy, in the long run the guilt from hiding things can cause more problems that if you just come clean. As far as your husband needing the program, I think everyone could benefit from it in some way, a lot of us did not learn these life skills, but you can't tell him that. If he's interested in it, that's another thing, but some people do not like to be told what they need. All you can do is take care of you. Keep doing the program, it can help.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Jul 23, 2008 8:02 am

I am in my third week and I know it has helped me. I ,too worry about the cost and will try to get on the installment plan. It is so reassuring to know that there are others out there who understand how anxiety can take control of your life. But, the good news is if one follows the program, there is no question it does maake a diffeence. Good Luck!
Elaine C

hopehound · Post by **hopehound** » Wed Jul 23, 2008 8:09 am

Thanks everyone. Even finding the time to chat is hard, but it's already making me feel better. Glad to meet you all!!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Jul 23, 2008 8:12 am

I had it for a few months before I even started it! The sooner you begin, the sooner you'll be able to begin the healing!

Make no mistake about it though, it's work and almost like doing a college course. (although there's no pass\fail pressure!) You have to keep at it, and keep sharing. But the reason you're here is cause you want to change, and once you get going it really builds and you look forward to the next session and improving.

I've defintely hit a couple of snags here and there, but keep forcing my self through. Although I got the program in January and should be done by now, I am rounding the bend of week 10 right now. And you'll learn that things like that are ok! Nothing is perfect, lower those expectations, be happy no matter what! That's the kind of thinking you're looking for, and that's what's in the program. Just look around the forum!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Jul 23, 2008 8:33 am

Hi Lynskie!
By all means, keep the program if you are serious about helping yourself. As zempath said, it is not easy (I, too, struggle most with time consumption- but I came up with a reasonable plan that's worked for me). The outcome is WELL worth the effort and $.

I also agree about coming clean to your husband. Nothing good EVER comes of deception. As Shakespeare said, "Oh the web of lies we weave when we practice to deceive." Here's the thing, you've already started the program and seen progress; consider how much more you'll make in the upcoming sessions- WITHOUT the guilt of hiding/lying.

Additionally, if your husband sees the effort you're making, how can he deny you? I know the program seems spendy, but in the long run can you really put a price on your mental health and happiness?

Keep in touch even if you do decide to return the program. Communication is crucial, and we're all here to support one another.
Best Wishes,
fischee

(As you can see, I've had the program for nearly 7 months and my life has done a 180!)

Superman · Post by **Superman** » Wed Jul 23, 2008 10:18 am

If you had strep throat and you had the antibiotics in your cabinet, would you take them back to the pharmacy or would you take them? Keep the program and work every single session, do the homework, and in a few months, tell us all how glad you are we wouldn't let you send it back.

Pecos

Lichen · Post by **Lichen** » Wed Jul 23, 2008 10:47 am

I agree you should be honest and let your husband know about the program and how you are currently feeling. When I started the program, my wife was reluctant to spend the money on the program too. Now she is using it!! Men can be more skeptical as well, but this is not a scam..it is a Godsend!!!! Good Luck