Is it normal to feel extremely irritated for no reason sometimes? I'm really scared that there is something more serious than anxiety wrong. I have a 2 year old and a 5 year old and sometimes I am okay with them and other times I feel so irritated at everything they say and do that I lose my temper and yell. I feel so guilty for being irritated with them for silly little things because normally I think they are really cute and sweet.
I am on lesson three and have been writing down the negative thoughts for 2 days now and I thought it was helping but I woke up feeling so irritated today and I can't seem to make myself feel better even though I'm trying to say positive things to myself. I just want my kids to go away and leave me alone and I feel depressed. I don't understand where this came from, does it mean that the program isn't helping me and it's a more serious mental health problem?
Is feeling irritated normal?
Maybe you are just starting to be more aware of your feelings and are beginning to address the root issues that you have. Session 6 deals with anger issues and brings up excellent points. You are not abnormal and most likely you do not have a more serious mental condition. If you have the program, keep using the relaxation tape/cd. I know it may sounds bad, but if you have to put in a short video for the kids or something and let them watch that while you take 15 minutes for yourself on the relaxation tape...DO IT! 
I have two children too (older than yours though!) and while I love them so much...sometimes...they make me crazy!!!
Actually, it would be more accurate to say that I ALLOW myself to be AFFECTED by what they are saying or doing. You, like me, are the mom...you have the power! And you can control how you feel and how you react.
It sounds like you are making great progress in addressing and identifying your negative thoughts. Keep up the good work!
Best,
Dawn
I have two children too (older than yours though!) and while I love them so much...sometimes...they make me crazy!!!
Actually, it would be more accurate to say that I ALLOW myself to be AFFECTED by what they are saying or doing. You, like me, are the mom...you have the power! And you can control how you feel and how you react.It sounds like you are making great progress in addressing and identifying your negative thoughts. Keep up the good work!
Best,
Dawn
Hi aurora.
Having anxiety is irritating! And when you feel irritated it carries through your day and makes you irritated with everyone and everything, just as if you were calm and realxed, you would do everything calmly. Make sure you do the relaxation tape 3 times a day to teach your body and mind to relax naturally. In doing the program, you will start to see the world and everything in it in a different way, and you will stop taking everything so seriously, which is what causes so much of the stress in the first place. Try taking a deep breath when you feel that you're about to blow.
Having anxiety is irritating! And when you feel irritated it carries through your day and makes you irritated with everyone and everything, just as if you were calm and realxed, you would do everything calmly. Make sure you do the relaxation tape 3 times a day to teach your body and mind to relax naturally. In doing the program, you will start to see the world and everything in it in a different way, and you will stop taking everything so seriously, which is what causes so much of the stress in the first place. Try taking a deep breath when you feel that you're about to blow.
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Thank you, I sat and cried for a while and then wrote down all of the negative thoughts I had while feeling irritated and crying. Then I replaced them all with positive thoughts and it calmed me down. Then slowly over the next 1/2 hour I started to feel better.
This is really much harder than I thought it would be. I force myself to do something even though I'm anxious and then I still feel anxious the next time, even though I expect it to be gone.
This is really much harder than I thought it would be. I force myself to do something even though I'm anxious and then I still feel anxious the next time, even though I expect it to be gone.
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I've noticed too that when I'm feeling anxious I get irritable. Especially at work, probably because I feel I have to be superhuman there. But you know what helps? Saying yo my coworkers that I am feeling a little anxious and so by letting them know it helps. it doesn't give me the right to just take it out on everyone, but by being honest, peole will realize that I'm having a hard day so that if I do get snappy, they know where it's coming from. It seem just being open and honest with them makes the situation much better.I also try to remind myself that I can't control other people and certain situations, I just have to accept them. Oh. and I also remind myself that the world is not out to get me and people don't start the day thinking how can I irritate her today? Everyone has a story and everyone is fighting their own battle. I hope this helps.
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Not feeling good makes a person cranky or angry. Think about it, when you have a cold/headache/stomache, etc - the symptoms of these various ailments wear you dwn @ times & as a result, you can get angry right. Well, now imagine all the things YOUR ANXIETY DISORDER makes you feel(cumulatively speaking): they too can wear on you & yep, after a while you get angry. Its CAUSE & EFFECT. You being aware of this puts you in a really good & healthy position(^^^^5 yourself girl 
)- because once you are aware - you can go about correcting this. That is exactly what you're doing - hence THE PROGRAM. Yes, the program is working - & you are so going in the right direction. As Lucinda describes in the program: as you start the program, you may experience an increase in symptoms/anxiety & as a result - you may get a little cranky - that is all normal. You are facing things HEAD ON - kind of like emotionally & mentally saying <span class="ev_code_RED">ok, bring it on - lets see what you got - cause I am stronger, better & I want better for myself - so I am gonna face you dwn. Make me feel what you want, cause I ain't going away - anxiety you are losing your power over me.</span>
Try & do the relaxation sessions 3 x's per day, as DEEDEE described - training your body to instinctively relax. These sessions really do work & trust me THEY HELP & FEEL REALLY GOOD. Heck, I heard myself snoring when I fell asleep, lol - a fact I fought my husband on for yrsssssss(my snoring lol). When you feel the anger coming on, take a few second's or min's out - pull yourself back to reflect so you can try & see what you are really angry about. This TIME OUT as Lucinda calls it is quite helpful.
Be proud of yourself & all you are doing to help yourself - YOU ARE ALREADY A PHENOMINAL MOM NOW - think of how very proud your babies will be of you when they grow up knowing their mama had the courage to do this.
LENORE
)- because once you are aware - you can go about correcting this. That is exactly what you're doing - hence THE PROGRAM. Yes, the program is working - & you are so going in the right direction. As Lucinda describes in the program: as you start the program, you may experience an increase in symptoms/anxiety & as a result - you may get a little cranky - that is all normal. You are facing things HEAD ON - kind of like emotionally & mentally saying <span class="ev_code_RED">ok, bring it on - lets see what you got - cause I am stronger, better & I want better for myself - so I am gonna face you dwn. Make me feel what you want, cause I ain't going away - anxiety you are losing your power over me.</span>Try & do the relaxation sessions 3 x's per day, as DEEDEE described - training your body to instinctively relax. These sessions really do work & trust me THEY HELP & FEEL REALLY GOOD. Heck, I heard myself snoring when I fell asleep, lol - a fact I fought my husband on for yrsssssss(my snoring lol). When you feel the anger coming on, take a few second's or min's out - pull yourself back to reflect so you can try & see what you are really angry about. This TIME OUT as Lucinda calls it is quite helpful.
Be proud of yourself & all you are doing to help yourself - YOU ARE ALREADY A PHENOMINAL MOM NOW - think of how very proud your babies will be of you when they grow up knowing their mama had the courage to do this.
LENORE