anyways, here's the post
"I don't know if this is appropriate to discuss here, or if this is the forum I would use to discuss such a topic, however, I REALLY need some spiritual advice and prayers please.
Unfortunately, I have been through divorce(I know there is some controversy regarding divorce, I've heard it all, never the less, it happened and I can't change the fact.) I do understand NOW, just why God hates divorce. It is painful, stressful and most of all, it affects the lives of the children that are involved (there are 4 of them) This was 12 yrs ago and since then, I have remarried and had two more children= total of 6 children.
Well, My ex husband has NEVER paid child support, although he did give me financial help once in awhile( school supplies, proms, graduation pkgs, etc) but in no means did he even make an attempt to pay out each month as mandated by the judge($635.00). This situation has always caused problems between myself and my current husband. I wouldn't push for child support and "he" felt that I was more concerned about ex husband getting in trouble with the law for not paying, then forcing him to be responsible for the children he fathered. Seriously ladies, I've always waivered back and forth wether or not I was being christian-like by enforcing the issue(CS) "Forgive and Forget" perhaps, "don't repay evil for evil " or "turn the other cheek"
My older children would also play on my heartstrings, such as: "daddy will go to jail" or "please stop the CS, daddy will get his liscense taken away". I eventually surrendered to there pleads and I wrote a letter to my local CS office stating that all demands were fulfilled and I wished to have them stop all proceedings. My current husband was furious, as you can imagine, however, he seen me cry and get "panicky" over each situation that involved my ex. So, that is the meat of this whole situation, however, NOW after 3 yrs of never hearing another thing about child-support, my ex calls this morning asking if I would write another letter, this time to the credit bureaus letting them know that he fulfilled his obligation and to please take the $90,000.00 in arrearages OFF his credit file. After 10 mins. of him explaining this request to me, he asked the dreaded question, Will you do this for me??? I said no. I told him that I did all that I am going to do(by writing that letter a couple years ago) and that if he has to pay the consequences for his irresponsibility, then that's the way it has to go. I felt I was being assertive and personally it felt good, but now I'm left with the question, is this a Christian attitude? Did I say the right thing? I know that we are COMMANDED to obey the "laws of the land" the bible is strict about that. Arizona State law(which is where the divorce was filed) has a zero tolerance law for "deadbeat Fathers". Whether the respondant/Plantiff wants the other to pay CS or not, it's the law and whomever doesn't have the children is required to pay. So, I guess I'm wanting to know your opinions on such a delicate subject. I appreciate all opinions!
thanks for your time and please pray with me for this situation.
God bless
Robin
So, that's my situation, any advice?
Take care and God bless you all
To be honest with you, I was soooo concerned with the fact that he's been so irresponsible all these years that I didn't even consider the fact that what he was asking me to do was LIE 
AGAINNN... I know now it was wrong(the letter I wrote a couple years ago)and this is just what Satan wanted me to do! Yes, this is a spiritual issue now and I have to thank you for making that apparent to me! I appreciate your imput!Bless you for YOUR honesty 
