update on my fathers health

The spiritual response to anxiety and depression
Mom of 6
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Post by Mom of 6 » Sat Feb 21, 2009 8:06 am

Hello everyone, I just wanted to give you all an update on my fathers health. Several weeks back, I posted in the "prayer" thread that my father was to undergo surgery to remove a rare bone cancer from his face. Well, he had the surgery yesterday(14 hrs later :() but went through it with flying colors!!! They believe that they got ALL the cancer and the surgery actually went easier than anticipated. They didn't have to do the reconstructive part of it, as they had planned(removing muscle from his chest and bone from his thigh) Everything they used to reconstruct his face came from the face. THANK GOD!! It will be a painful recovery, but even in recovery, my father has a great sense of humor! He is a very spiritual man and has GREAT faith!!! He had many people praying for him and I DO BELIEVE God directed the hands of the physicians...thank you ALL for your kind words and your ferverent prayers...

continue to pray for complete recovery, as he is still in ICU today..

Love, in Christ
Robin
"O God, you are my God. Earnestly I seek you;my soul thirsts for you, my body longs for you, in a dry and weary land where there is no water. I have seen you in the sanctuary and beheld your power and your glory. Because your love is BETTER than life,my lips will glorify you. I will praise you as long as I live, and in your name, I will lift up my hands." Psalms 63

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Post by Guest » Sat Feb 21, 2009 9:08 am

Hi Mom of 6,

That's great news, and I am sure a great relief to you and the rest of the family.

I will pray for a recovery that is much more swifter than normal, and that He continue to bless all of your family.

Now that you have gotten this good news about your Dad you can breathe a little easier.

Big Hugs, In His Love-

Gman5256

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Post by Guest » Sat Feb 21, 2009 12:28 pm

Thank you so much Gman :) again for your encouraging words!!! The last couple days have definately tried my faith and emotions. But I was able to use the skills I've been working on and THEY WORK!!! Thank you GOD..you are worthy of ALL MY praise and worship!!! I owe it ALL to HIM!!!!
I will be talking to you later this evening as I respond to our "correspondances"...
Bless you my friend :D
Love, in Christ
Robin

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Post by Guest » Sat Feb 21, 2009 12:54 pm

I'm so happy to hear that everything went well for your dad. It sounds like he has a lot of people praying for him. He's a lucky man to have you as his daughter.

Guest

Post by Guest » Sat Feb 21, 2009 2:25 pm

ohhhhhhhhh Mary, I so needed your words of encouragement right now!!! Today has been pretty good up until about 5:00 pm...Without going into a long drawn out story, I'll get right to the chase.My twin brother and I got into an argument about my father being in ICU and I not being there today to be with him. My brother lives 2000 mi. away and I live 2 hrs. away(from the hospital) I have the twins, no babysitter and hubby goes to work.(I exhausted the babysitters-grandma and grandpa yesterday, t be with my dad during surgery)I do have two other siblings, but I am not going to point fingers at WHO should have been there today. I have to admit that when I left my fathers side last night I was crushed, scared and felt sorry for him as his family was leaving and no one would be back to see him until Sunday. Personally I was angry at my mother and other sister, as they didn't have anything to do, therefore they could have stayed with them. My father would understand, as I have small children(I don't think they would have done to well sitting in a hospital waiting room for hours) Now, I've got my brother screaming and crying in my ear..saying that we "are a screwed up family"(to put it lightly) How could you leave when Dad is in ICU, what if something happens and no one is there to be with him, etc. etc. etc. Now, I am a Christian, and I've learned a GREAT deal through reading of GODS word and this program okay? HOWEVER, he got the BEST of me and I "fired back"..I asked him "what kept you from buying a ticket to fly up here, to be with him today"??? He couldn't say anything. Of course it made me feel WORSE to retort that way, afterall, the reason he was so upset was probably because he felt bad that he couldn't be here. I offered to buy him a plane ticket(as the surgery was scheduled months in advance, but he declined in taking my offer)_ So, now I FEEL TERRIBLE, and my "Attitude" was AWFUL!!! I said things that I will NOT repeat, as his hurtful words pierced me and I responded with anger, insults and bad language..YEP the holy spirit is convicting me and I WILL take full responsibility for MY actions..however, I couldn't be there for my dad today, and I feel bad that NO ONE was there..however, my sisters are going to see him tomorrow and then me and MY family will be going on Monday..My brother expects someone there EVERYDAY, and we all live two hours away..Am I taking this too hard, or should I be feeling this way..????? Anyone who has an opinion, FEEL FREE to respond...I'm devestated by our argument..

Thank you
and God bless you, I'm still praising God through this storm!!!!
Robin

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Post by Guest » Sat Feb 21, 2009 3:47 pm

Hey Mom of 6,
I didn't know about your father but I am so glad that he is doing better. I will be praying for your father and your family.

Guest

Post by Guest » Sat Feb 21, 2009 4:08 pm

I loved this reply. You are very wise...

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Post by MikeJonesWHO?? » Sat Feb 21, 2009 6:31 pm

Hi Robin,

It was okay that you got emotional, how could anyone blame you? Here you are, driving 2 hours each way to be with your dad, in addition you are in emotional overdrive with concern for him. You are juggling your own family life and then on top of that you get blamed for not taking enough time.

Maybe you said some things you've regretted, but as Lucinda says, "you can't change the past to fix the present".

We all make mistakes, we'll be making them until we are grandparents! It's okay! If anything, it's a learning experience on what to do or not do if there ever is a next time you are attacked - some people retreat, some attack back, you did what a lot of people would who are drained, emotional and exhausted. If anything, your brother realized that you are carrying a huge load and not getting much help.

Hope you are feeling better, and what a blessing your father is doing so well!
Pimpin!

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Post by Guest » Sat Feb 21, 2009 7:48 pm

Hi Robin,
I think you are in over-load. I totally agree you need to give yourself a break. You and your brother may have exchanged some unkind words, but, believe me, it will all blow over. We all say things that we don't mean when we are facing a crisis. My dad is in a nursing facility over 2 hours away, and it would be really hard for me to stay with him if I was in your shoes. I would want to (more than anything), but, I am not sure I could. Sounds like too much pressure has been placed on you, and some of the other family members need to pitch in and share the load. I am sure your brother loves you just as much as ever, and he is probably really concerned himself, since, he lives so far away; therefore, he dumped all the worry on you. Sounds like you had been through a lot, and you lashed out under stress.
I am a Christian, too, and I totally understand. I would just ask God to forgive me, and trust him to take care of this situation. He is faithful. I really believe everything will work itself out, and I will say a prayer for you. I will ask the Good Lord to touch your dad. Families tend to take their frustrations out on each other. My brother and I are very close. We have had some major disagreements, but, they don't last very long. We love each other, and love always wins... I am sure you and your brother feel the same. God Bless

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Post by Guest » Sat Feb 21, 2009 11:03 pm

Hi Mom of 6,

I thank you for your encouragement. You are a good mom, daughter and sister. Regardless of the trying circumstances. It is just like SCC early song Higher Ways (Album 4 1990, song # 5)
I don't have the lyrics, but here is the link:

<A HREF="http://www.stevencurtischapman.com/radio/frame.htm" TARGET=_blank>http://www.stevencurtischapman.com/radio/frame.htm</A>

Select play music find the album (For the Sake of The Call) BTW, IMO this was SCC greatest Album no matter what anyone else say. ;) then select song 5.

In a small way, the situation that you found yourself in with your brother, was something that I experienced when my mom laid in the Hospital CCU fighting for her life (11/18/1994), and we were all gathering around praying. Of course, I was praying for my God to show her and all of us mercy and provide a healing that she could sojourn with us just a little more. I was devastated to know that my sister (there were just 2 of us, my sister passed away 3/24/2008) was praying that God show her mercy and take my mom from us.

I didn't fight or argue with her, but made a mental note to myself. Be careful of what other people pray for on your behalf. That is the very reason that I make my prayers plainly known to those that I pray for.

Anyway, getting back to you and your brother, reminds me of the Sermon on the Mount. Bless those that curse you. It is clear that is the same instruction that many already knew from their studies of the book of Psalms. It is great advice.

Anytime, or nearly anytime, I find myself in a situation similar to that, I think at very instant, bless them, bless them, bless them, and then I will speak and just say: thanks so much for those thoughts (depends on the situation) may God richly bless you for those kind words, and just let go and let God.

As long as we are in our flesh, it is common to do or say things that we do not mean, and that is why the song I linked you to is so appropriate. God understands the pain and anguish that you must have felt at the moment, and He loves you and your brother. I think you know what is next. Go to your brother and apologize for the response you made to his not so thoughtful remarks, and forgive him for the remarks he made to you, otherwise it will be nothing but baggage that you will have to unload somewhere down the road.

Just remember that as long as you are in the flesh, these things can and do happen. It is how you turn it around, learn from the experience, and act to make it all good. If you find that your brother can not bring himself to forgive you, have follow in the steps of what Christ would have done, had he made that same mistake. When we all return to Our heavenly Father, he will explain it all to us, because we all have an advocate that can not lose any case He is assigned to.

Please do not beat yourself up anymore over this. God, the Father, Son and Holy Spirit all Love you, and in this case you must show love to yourself and to your brother.

Heavenly Father, Abba God, Daddy God. Incline your ear and hear and answer your humble servants prayers, as I lift up Mom of 6's whole household and her extended family. Father, I don't know them, but you do because you made each and every one of them.

Lord, I pray that You show Your Love, Kindness, Mercy, Grace, and all the good things You have in store for them and all of Your loved ones. Praise God for his mercy endures forever.

Lord, I pray that You fill their home with the essence of Your Love and that it may be as a sweet fragrance that is pleasing to You and to them, and that Your presence be an everlasting sign of Your Grace, Love, Peace and Friendship toward her and her family.

Lord, I pray this sacrifice of praise be pleasing to You and that it may as a sweet and pleasing fragrance to You.

Lord, I pray that if You find that there is anything I have prayed for has offended You, that you please accept my apology and extend Your loving hand of forgiveness to me.

Lord, I pray all these things in Your Son, Yeshua's Precious Holy name. Amen

Mom of 6, I pray that these prayers and observations all serve to be a blessing, comfort and consolation to you and many others. We all have to Love and Learn (SCC Heaven in the Real World, Song #6 1995 Song 1 is great too), in order to grow in wisdom and God's wealth. All the Praise and Glory go totally and completely to God. Amen!

God Bless all of you!

Super Big Hugs, In His Love-

Gman5256
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