Hello all, I have been dating this guy for 5 months now and things are going wonderfully! I love him to death. He likes to speak up and make a point if he feels strongly about something. That is just the way he is. I just see it totally in a different way. When he talks with someone and gets into a talk about certain opinions, I think he is being mean, or yelling. I don't know if I'm explaining it well enough but I find myself wondering , Do people like my boyfriend? Is He being mean?
I want all my friends or people I introduce him to like him, because that makes me feel good. I feel like I'm overreacting because of my anxiety. Before I had anxiety I don't think I would even think that far into it! It seems to only be an issue when we have a couple drinks. He told me, Kelly I'm not yelling at anybody. Your making me overthink every move I make now when Im around people. I feel like I have to think about what I am saying or doing to people and its driving me crazy!
I don't know if it's just my anxiety, but I am the exact opposite... I speak my opinion, yes but I like to make peace with everyone. I would much rather be a nice person and be treated that way too!
He never treats me bad , and we never even argue... it's just when that happens every now and then that I start thinking... gosh I just wish he wouldn't argue or make a bad impression. He has a total different look on it. He just said... I'm not yelling at anyone, I have a great group of friends... if someone does not like me for some reason.. thats fine. I'm not going to let it bother me.
Why does it seem like I care what people think so much?? I was just wanting to check if anyone else feels that they wonder and care what other people think? I want to have a care free attitude!! I don't want to worry or guess what other people are thinking! just advice would be great my friends!
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Hi Kelly,
It sounds to me like your boy friend is passionate about things he likes to talk about. You might be over thinking this one. For instance, why do you feel you need to have choice of boy friend approved by or validated by your friends? If you really care about him, doesn't it make sense that you are the only one he has to make happy?
However, if you see or he does things that upset you, and you calmly mention it to him, does he fly off the handle with bursts of anger or can he be reasoned with? You do want a man that is sensitive to your feelings, and does the things that pleases you. In other words, does he romance you and treat you special? If the later is the case, don't worry, because your friends see this too, and if they are really friends they want you to be happy and see him in that light too. Does that make sense to you?
It sounds to me like your boy friend is passionate about things he likes to talk about. You might be over thinking this one. For instance, why do you feel you need to have choice of boy friend approved by or validated by your friends? If you really care about him, doesn't it make sense that you are the only one he has to make happy?
However, if you see or he does things that upset you, and you calmly mention it to him, does he fly off the handle with bursts of anger or can he be reasoned with? You do want a man that is sensitive to your feelings, and does the things that pleases you. In other words, does he romance you and treat you special? If the later is the case, don't worry, because your friends see this too, and if they are really friends they want you to be happy and see him in that light too. Does that make sense to you?